No! Leave
if you must, but divorce is wrong. Marriage is a lifetime covenant. I received the following e-mail from a
woman who left her husband. In a subsequent e-mail she confirmed that she
had divorced him...
I SAW YOUR WEBSITE. I
HAVE A QUESTION. I AM DIVORCED. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE
BOTH SAVED. I AM SAVED 24 YRS. HE GOT SAVED WHEN HE MET ME. HE WAS
ALSO AN
ELDER IN OUR OLD CHURCH. ANYWAY HE JUST KIND OF TURNED ON ME
OVER THE
YEARS. HE WAS HITTING ME AND THE KID. HE WAS ALSO BOTH VERBALLY AND
EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE. IT WAS A HARD DECISION BUT I HAD TO LEAVE. MY
EX
HUSBAND WAS DESTROYING MY CHILDREN'S SELF ESTEEM AND SELF WORTH.
NOT TO
MENTION MINE. IS IT REALLY SUCH A HORRORABLE THING THAT I DID? I REALLY
DON'T THINK I DID THE WRONG THING. THE KIDS ARE BETTER NOW, AND I FEEL
SAFE. OK MY BROTHER IN CHRIST, PLEASE GET BACK TO ME.
******** *****
I'm going to answer this woman's e-mail with a
humble heart and an understanding mind. The Word of God provides the answer
to all of life's questions, but we've got to search the Scriptures to know
the mind of God. The woman who sent me this e-mail brings up a good point.
There are many things that ought to be taken into consideration.
Common Sense
Certainly, abuse is wrong, plain and simple.
God created Eve from Adam's rib, the nearest thing to his heart, to be loved
and cherished. A person who is in an abusive relationship has a right to
leave. There's no question about that. Some people have attempted to twist
my teachings on marriage and divorce out of context, accusing me of telling
women to submit to continued physical and mental abuse. I DON'T teach that
and never have. What I do teach is that there are no Biblical grounds for
divorce. This is not to say that a wife should not leave an abusive husband;
but rather, she should not divorce him. 1st Corinthians 7:17 states:
1st Corinthians 7:10, "And unto the
married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from
her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be
reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife."
So, Biblically, if a wife does divorce, she is to REMAIN UNMARRIED. Matthew 5:32b teaches that it is
adultery for a divorced woman to remarry...
"Whosoever shall marry her that is
divorced committeth adultery."
The focus of Jesus' teaching in Matthew 5:32
was not upon divorce as many think; but rather, upon remarriage. It is
adultery to get remarried if you divorced your spouse for any reason.
The question is not if it is okay to divorce an
abusive spouse; but rather, is it ok to divorce? If you permit exceptions
for which to divorce, people will ALWAYS take a foot if you give them an
inch, divorcing for every reason. Although divorce is a hotly debated
subject, I just believe that God made two people for each other, to spend a
lifetime together, for better or worse. If your spouse is sentenced to life
in prison, I think you should be there for them, not move on in your
self-righteousness. You're just as much a sinner in God's eyes. We all
deserve to burn in the fires of Hell. You cannot run from responsibilities,
tragedy, heartache and burdens. If you do, it will haunt you 'til you die if
you have any conscience at all.
I greatly admire Gloria Chapman, the loyal wife
of Mark Chapman (the cowardly man who murdered John Lennon in 1979, shooting
him in the back). Gloria is a born-again Christian and is faithful to the
Lord, honoring her marriage vows. She keeps regular contact with her husband
and flies from Hawaii to New York at least once a year to visit with her
husband for 44 hours. I admire anyone who stays by the stuff, doing right.
Anybody can selfishly quit. Anybody can throw in the towel. Marriage is a
lifetime covenant, not a contract!
Just because your spouse goes to prison or becomes an invalid
doesn't give you a right to divorce and remarry, so you can enjoy life.
People have no loyalty anymore, neither to God nor their loved ones. This is
what the Bible means in 2nd Timothy 3:1-5 when it speaks of people "without
natural affection" in the last days. It is natural to love your spouse,
family and close friends; but it will not be that way in the end times, and
we are already in these times today. Jesus said in Matthew 24 that a man's
foes would be they of his own household.
Most people who file for divorce attempt to
claim that Jesus allows for divorce in situations of adultery, but that is
not what Jesus taught. What about all the other sins that one's spouse may
commit? Does that provide a grounds for divorce? No, not according to the
Lord. Jesus taught in Matthew 18:22 to forgive, 70 times 7. Divorce is the
sin of hate, unforgiveness and hypocrisy. So many people are woefully
ignorant of the Scriptures, just as Jesus said:
Matthew 22:29, “Jesus answered and
said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of
God.”
God's power can save your marriage, if you will
trust God and not quit.
Do you realize that less than one-percent
of the population divorced in 1900? Recently in southern California the
divorce rate skyrocketed to 75.54 %!!! Most of the divorces are filed
by women.
Why so much divorce today as compared to a hundred years ago? There are
numerous reasons; but primarily, television, women's liberation, feminism,
greedy lawyers and a Communist agenda to destroy America's families by
rigging the court system always in favor of divorce. Marriages don't stand a
chance plugged into mainstream society. The secret to a happy marriage is to
stay as far away from American culture as possible. I'm dead serious. This
hellhole society in which we live today is sick, insane and perverted. If
you truly want to get a divorce, you will find some excuse to justify it,
but you cannot fool God.
Looking for Reasons to Justify Sin
It is sinful human nature to attempt to justify
sin. This is why it's so important for Christians to mediate in the
Scriptures, which show us the awfulness of sin. We are living in a heathen
society that uses extremes to justify the norm.
- The abortionist attempts to justify murder
by bringing up some poor woman giving herself an abortion in an alley.
Yet, there's not one medically documented case on file.
- The greedy swindler attempts to justify
the sin of casino gambling by bringing up the lack of jobs in his
community. Yet, casinos only redistribute wealth, not creating any
genuine economy.
- The booze cartel attempts to justify
alcohol by bringing up the wave of gangster crime during the prohibition
years. Yet, innocent people are dying one hundredfold today compared to
back then due to drunk drivers.
- Homosexuals attempt to justify the sin of
homosexuality by twisting the Biblical doctrine of God's love. Yet,
there is much hatred today against Bible-believing Christians who preach
against the sin of homosexuality.
- And, the feminist (rebellious) wife
attempts to justify the sin of divorce by self-righteously condemning
her husband for any reason possible; while she hypocritically overlooks
her own faults that largely caused the marital conflict.
People are so quick to abandon their wedding
vows these days, i.e., “For better, for worse; 'Til death do us part.” Those
words used to mean something. Sadly, the marriage ceremony has become one of
the biggest frauds in America, because nearly half of the couples exchanging
lifetime wedding vows are liars. It is a woeful evil in the United States
that is only getting worse. So many people today only think about them self
and taking the easy way out.
Feminism is the sin of rebellion, which God
says is equivalent to the sin of witchcraft (1st Samuel 15:23). Divorce is
always the poorest solution to one's marriage problems. Hiding behind one's
children is a lame excuse to divorce. No one divorces for any other reason
than because it's what they wanted to do.
“Feminist ideology
about the goal of gender-neutrality and the absence of innate differences
between males and females goes out the window when it comes to the subject
of domestic violence. Feminist dogma is that the law should assume men are
batterers and women are victims.”
SOURCE:
Feminist
Abuse of Domestic Violence Laws,
by
Phyllis Schlafly
Social Hypocrisy and Moral Rottenness
Ever since the O.J. Simpson trial, police
across America have been hauling men out of their homes simply because the
wife makes an allegation of abuse. I am not diminishing the seriousness of
domestic abuse, God forbid. I am simply saying that feminists nowadays KNOW
they have a powerful new weapon against men—laws introduced and passed which
cater to political agendas, which include feminism.
As a consequence, a husband who even raises his
voice at his wife can be arrested for verbal assault. Hypocritically, police
yell at people all the time, calling them horrible names, and this is
considered part of their job. Young men and women in the military are
screamed and yelled at as part of their training, and this is considered
good for them. Yet, if a husband dares raise his voice to discipline his
wife, he goes to jail.
There are
laws now
being introduced that will prohibit parents from ruling over their own
children. Parents will go to jail, and are going to jail, for disciplining
their own children...
"Parents are
being demoted to simple caregivers, while the state
assumes the role of the prime authoritative figure. The
UNCRC is an assault on parental authority and is
essentially a blank check for governmental interference
in family matters. It is meant to further promote child
autonomy and freedom from parental guidance."
SOURCE:
The United Nations: Our Children’s New Parents?
When police yell at people, it is considered
necessary; but when a husband yells at his wife or children, he is
considered abusive. The reason is that America is a Godless nation, which
does not recognize a man's authority over his wife in the marriage,
and increasingly neither over his children in the home. Genesis 3:16 says...
"Unto the woman he said, I will greatly
multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth
children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule
over thee."
Husbands are not allowed anymore in today's
heathen American society to Biblically “rule over” their own wives. Women in
America have to a large extent become sassy, arrogant and rebellious against
masculine authority, particularly in the home. This is the Devil's work of
feminism. This is why divorce is so commonplace. This is why women have
entered church pulpits all across America teaching false doctrines. This is
why American society is saturated today with whorishly dressed women with
imprudent character and lewd conduct.
The way most American women dress is a
disgrace. Even professed Christian women dress and act shamefully. I
recently visited a Baptist church in my area. Most of the women in the
church were wearing pants, swinging their hips to the contemporary music
while clapping their hands. It was a sad sight. And they call this
“worship.” The woman in front of me was moving her hips forward and
backward, and every time she went forward the slacks she was wearing
revealed the outline of her buttocks. The woman next to her was wearing
pants and kept swinging her hip from one side to the other while clapping.
This is sinful worldliness in the church. I won't go back. Do you know what the problem is? Apostate
pastors who don't teach their congregation holy living and are afraid to
preach against the sin of immodestly dressed women. As with everything else
in this sin-cursed world, the love of money is the root of all evil. You
can't even go to church anymore to escape the pollutions of the sinful
world. The love of money is the reason why pulpits are silent today.
The Bible Commands Us to Forgive or
Else We Won't Be Forgiven
It is clear from the woman's e-mail quoted at
the beginning of this article that she is attempting to defend her decision
to divorce her husband. I certainly am not in a position to condemn her, for
the Word of God condemns all mankind as guilty sinners...
Romans 3:19, "Now we know that what
things soever the law saith, it saith to them who are under the law:
that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may become guilty
before God."
It's not my place to judge anyone. I do want to
point out though that leaving one's husband is one thing, but divorcing him
is another. Too many wives are quick to quit their marriage because of the
feminist influence of some snake, just as the serpent beguiled Eve. This faithless and selfish generation
is filled with snakes. We read in Matthew 19:7-8...
"They say unto Him, Why did
Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered
you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so."
In Matthew 18:22, Jesus taught
Peter to forgive 7 times 70, i.e., unlimited forgiveness. Again, I am not
saying that anyone should submit to abuse; but divorce is almost always
synonymous with unforgiveness and self-righteousness. Each case is unique
and God knows men's hearts. God will judge.
I want to share with you a passage
of Scripture in Matthew 18:23-35 concerning forgiveness. This ought
to frighten anyone who continually brings up their spouse's sins and faults
and self-righteously minimizes their own . . .
“Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which
would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one
was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch
as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife,
and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant
therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience
with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was
moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the
same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed
him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the
throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down
at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will
pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till
he should pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done,
they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was
done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou
wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me:
Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even
as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the
tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise
shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts
forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.”
Carefully notice that the woman in the e-mail
being addressed failed to mention even one negative thing about herself. Oh,
she must be an angel. It is sinful pride that causes all divorces. Divorce is a sin. America is a feminist nation, and women are
twice as
likely to file for divorce than men. Look at
World Divorce Rates and see how the evils of
feminism have destroyed America's families.
Interestingly, and sadly, all we see on the
internet and in society today is talk about domestic violence; but NEVER do
we hear anything about statistics on wives who refuse to obey their
husbands. It is evil. IN GOD'S EYES, it is just as sinful for a wife to frustrate
her husband through insubordination and disobedience as are the sins of
homosexuality and witchcraft.
1st Samuel 15:23a, "For rebellion is as
the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry."
I am not lessening the sin of domestic
violence, I am emphasizing the sin of wives who rebel against their husbands
by not being obedient. I realize that this philosophy is unpopular with feminists
today; but it is 100% Biblical doctrine.
The Bible Teaches Women to Submit to
Their Own Husband
A wife is expected by God to obey
her husband.
A wife who refuses to submit to her husband causes the marriage to become a two-headed monster. Someone's got to
be in charge or there will be continual conflict. Ideally, a husband
and wife should work together on everything; however, in those situations
where there is a conflict, the wife is commanded by God to submit to her
husband. In fact, Ephesians 5:22 commands a wife to obey her husband
as unto Jesus Christ, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands,
as unto the Lord." How many wives today obey this Biblical
command? It is like looking for a needle in a haystack to find
such a woman today in America today.
No wonder Solomon said in Ecclesiastes
7:28, "One man among a thousand have I found; but a woman among all those
have I not found." Solomon couldn't find one woman, amongst all his
wives and concubines, whom he could trust with all his heart. Solomon
was a man of poor character and married the same type of women. There were many feminists in Solomon's time, just as there are today. Listen to what Solomon had to say about the rebellious feminists of his own
time, "And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is
snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape
from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her."
What a contrast from the virtuous wife of
Proverb 31:28, "Her children arise
up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."
Which type of woman are you? What does your husband have to say about you? God knows, and He does care, and you will have
to give account one day (Romans 14:12). We will all give account to God one
day for our words and actions. We may hide our voice in the choir of
humanity for the time being, but we will sing solo at the judgment before
God. That is, we will be required to give account as individuals.
Matthew 12:36 warns, "But I say unto you, That every idle word that
men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment."
Feminism is Evil
Feminism rejects the Biblical teaching that
a wife is to OBEY her husband. I get many letters from people who have
divorced, looking for sympathy. I won't sugarcoat the truth—divorce is a
sin. Jesus endured the cross for us, because He loves us. Christ set the
example for us to follow. I'm not saying that someone has a right to abuse
us; I am saying that we will put up with someone if we love them, and will
work to find a better way to reconcile the situation then to take the easy
way out through a divorce. To the feminist, divorce is no big deal
(just as they think abortion is no big deal).
As
a Christian, I don't understand that mentality. I thought marriage was
supposed to be about LOVE, between two people, forever. If Jesus was willing
to suffer and endure the cross for our sins, then we should be willing to do
the same for our own spouse. No matter what one's spouse does, divorce
should never be an option. We are living in an unforgiving, hateful,
self-righteous society, which loves to sit at home in front of their TV
judging everyone else as being a bigger sinner than themselves. You'd better
be careful because one day you may be on TV.
Ephesians 4:31-32 teaches, "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil
speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to
another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake
hath forgiven you." Feminism teaches the exact opposite,
saying, "Get
out of your marriage now while you still can!," or "God never intended for
us to live in misery with an abusive spouse," or "If your husband loved
you, he would treat you better," or "You would be a fool to go back home
again, divorce, divorce, divorce!" Such statements are selfish and based
upon self-pity. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and decide to
hang in there like you PROMISED on your wedding day, when you made a VOW to
remain faithful through better or worse until death.
Of course, the Bible teaches that a husband is supposed
to love his wife. Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, even
as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it." I am not
biased against women, just against feminists.
Please read
this article concerning the divorce rate, because it is so true concerning America today.
All Sins Can Be Justified by the
Heathen
I receive quite a few letters from people who
demonize their spouse, seeking to alleviate their own guilt because they
CHOSE to divorce. Here's another letter I recently received from an
angry wife...
Hi I read your article on
divorce and I see what the bible says, but my daughter will have nothing
to do with me unless this person is gone out of my life. He is not their
father and she is 18, my son 14. Does God really intend for us to live
and keep forgiving and putting our families through hell with a person
that calls me a cunt, whore, etc - breaks my things, forbids me to see
certain people, and he may even kill me one day. I was ready to up and
leave to save myself and show my daughter that I did not choose her over
this bastard, but what now? how can you worship and praise the lord when
you are dying inside from a person like this?
Denise *****
The fact that Denise calls her husband a
"bastard" is evidence that she is not so perfect herself. Romans
3:10 states, "There is NONE righteous, no not one." The truth
is that people who seek divorce usually look for others reasons to JUSTIFY
it. People generally don't do the things they do for any particular
reason. Rather, they look for a reason to justify what they had decided
to do in the first place. Ultimately, our final decision will always be the
result of what we wanted to do, and NOT because of any particular reason.
If you love someone, then you'll put up with them.
It is frightening, but true, that people are able to justify
anything if they really want to. This is why homosexuals, fornicators,
witches, abortionists, feminists, and those who divorce are all trying to
JUSTIFY their sinful deeds with the Bible. It is evil to twist the Bible in
an attempt to condone sin (Romans 1:25). In Jeremiah 7:9-10 we learn
that the Israelites were guilty of trying to justify their sins, "Will
ye steal, murder, and commit adultery, and swear falsely, and burn incense
unto Baal, and walk after other gods whom ye know not; And come and stand
before me in this house, which is called by my name, and say, We are
delivered to do all these abominations?"
These Jews
claimed they were doing
God's will by sinning. People are the same today 2,600 years later. It was the American
people who allowed their government to
destroy Bikini
Atoll in the Marshall Islands, by detonated a thermonuclear bomb in
their islands. This was justified by the need to "test" a bomb. Those poor islanders are still horribly suffering because of what America
did to them! Hitler justified his evil against the Jews. Nero
justified his persecution of the Christians. Hue Hefner justifies his
pornography. NAMBLA
justifies their pedophilia. GLSEN
justifies homosexuality and teaching it to public school children. Divorce is no different. Nearly all people who file for divorce
attempt to justify their sin of breaking their marriage vows, abandoning
their spouse who needs them, and quitting. The sin of divorce leads to
the sin of adultery in remarriage. I'm glad God doesn't look for reasons to
stab us in the back and move on, because He'd have innumerable reasons.
Either you love your spouse or you don't. If
you don't, then you need to get right with God yourself. If you do love
your spouse, then you'll stay with them and HONOR your wedding vows ... "'Til
death do us part." We are living in a nation of liars. LOVE finds a
way to make a relationship work, it doesn't look for EXCUSES to get out and
move on. America is without a doubt the most SELFISH nation on earth. Our
charity is pig feed compared to what we spend on video games, pet supplies
and pampering ourselves at Lone Star steakhouse. The
chump change we give to the poor is nothing compared to what we spend on
ourselves. Americans spend $50,000,000,000 a year on gambling alone, and
even more than that on pornography. America has NO right to ask for God's
blessing! We are a nation of baby murderers, liars, cheats, gossipers,
boozers, fornicators, haters, whores and
quitters! I'm not being unkind; but divorce is a quitters way out.
If you want to get mad at me, go ahead; but the next man (or woman) you meet
won't be perfect either.
The Sin of Divorce
The fact that such people continually seek to find
peace from their guilt proves that they've sinned. The same is true of
mothers who abort their babies. What they thought was right at the
time, because some monster talked them into getting an abortion, now haunts
them (and likely will for the rest of their life). Notice carefully
that Moses said in Numbers 32:23, "YOUR sin will find YOU out." It
is the sins we commit today that will one day haunt us in the future. Sin
always leads to misery and regret. No mother who aborts her own precious
baby can honestly say when she is old that she is glad she murdered her
child. Sin
always brings regret, bitterness, guilt, and resentment down the
road. I have spoken with countless people throughout my life, who have
shared with me their regrets over sins committed when they were younger. The same is true concerning the sin of divorce. Divorce always brings
guilt and remorse. Only a hardhearted heathen would say that a divorce
is the best thing that ever happened to them. Thankfully,
God will forgive anybody.
I have received several letters from people who
mentioned other pastors and ministries who told them it was OK to divorce. This clearly shows the
apostasy of the times we're living in. How dare
any professed "Christian" or "pastor" advise anyone to file for divorce. It is evil. I won't be an accomplice to the sin of divorce. Divorce is a sin. My article on
Divorce
is a Sin is a monkey-wrench in the gears of their divorce. They
are sinfully divorcing their spouse, and have gained the emotional support
of several neo-evangelical deadbeat ministries; BUT, now they've found my
article exposing the sin of divorce and are upset. They write me in an
attempt to convince me why they're doing the right thing. Folks,
divorce is never right. What if God quit on us? What if God quit on us the same way so many people
quit on their spouse?
Hebrews 13:5 promises that God will never leave
nor forsake us, "...for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor
forsake thee." Amen! This is the standard for us to follow. I cannot
understand how anyone could ever file for divorce from someone they love, no
matter how abusive that person might be. I am NOT condoning abuse, I
am simply saying that love will never fail if it is true love (1st
Corinthians 13:8). All marriages have problems; but divorce is never
an answer. We are living in an extremely selfish generation of
heathens. Sadly, this includes MOST professed "Christians" as well. It is our
SINFUL PRIDE which causes us to think we are entitled to a "better life"
through divorce. It is not surprising in a society that permits
baby-murdering, feminism, witchcraft, homosexuality, fornication, booze,
gambling, pornography, lasciviousness, etc., that divorce is also greatly
encouraged and committed. Woe unto America!
If you filed for divorce, then you have
sinned. If you've remarried, then you have also commit adultery. If
your spouse remarried, then you caused even more adultery. You may
find idiots out there who will tell you it's ok to divorce; but, I am not
going to help make you feel better about something you refuse to admit is
wrong. If you have divorced, then you need to confess it to God as a
sin, make reconciliation with your spouse as much as possible, and then move
on in the Lord. If at all possible, the best thing would be for you to
return to your spouse rather than remarry another (1st Corinthians 7:11). Only you know your own
unique situation, and what needs to be done. God will hold YOU accountable
for what YOU have done, and do (Romans 14:12). I say this with a broken
heart over the sin of divorce and with a genuine concern for others. I love
you in the Lord whoever you may be. No sin is so deep that it cannot be
forgiven and cleansed away by Jesus' precious blood, but the first step is
to acknowledge that one has sinned.
I'm a hell-deserving sinner just like anyone
else. I am just as guilty of messing up as anyone else. BUT,
right is right and wrong is wrong, and we must never allow our own personal
feelings to confuse the two. I did not write this article to deliberately
hurt anyone's feelings, and I certainly have no right to tell you your
business; BUT, I am taking a stand for God against the sin of divorce. The Bible tells us in Malachi 2:16 that God hates divorce, "For the LORD,
the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away."
In nearly
all divorces, the husband and wife BOTH have their own side of the story as
to who's to blame. Usually, they blame each other. God will
weigh the matter on Judgment Day, and the truth will come out. The
wife who accuses her husband of "abuse" will be held accountable for all the
things she did to provoke her husband, and she will be judged accordingly.
It's the same morons who call spanking a child "abuse" who are attacking and
labeling husbands as being "abusive." But those same people
don't have a problem with murdering children by abortion. The term "abuse" has been
greatly twisted nowadays. Every God-hating feminist in the country is
still trying to use the O.J. Simpson case to demonize men. Men who
track their wife's time are now considered "abusive." Biblically, a
husband has every right to tract his wife's time and whereabouts. God
told Eve that Adam would RULE OVER her (Genesis 3:16). This does not
justify abuse, it just means that the wife is to submit to her husband's
control and authority. Feminists hate the very concept of obeying any
man, and have consequently labeled such Biblically authoritative husbands as
"abusive." Nothing could be further from the truth.
Italy has one of the LOWEST divorce rates in
the world. Do you know why? It's because there's a 3-year
required waiting period before you can get divorced. Sadly, their laws are about
to change to 1-year, and the divorce rate will skyrocket. My point
here is that it is TOO EASY for couples to get divorced in America. It's big bucks for the judges, lawyers, bankers
(when you lose your home in bankruptcy), etc. I always marvel
that a couple can get married in a boat, on a mountain, in a church, under
water, on a rollercoaster, in a park, even at the south pole; BUT, you can
only be divorced IN A COURT OF LAW! Increasingly, for many men,
marriage is becoming a deadly trap. The American court system is
often unjust toward fathers,
our laws having been corrupted by feminism.
Conclusion
Divorce is not an answer. I am NOT condoning abuse of any
kind; but the term "abuse" has been greatly misconstrued to include such
ridiculous things as a husband wanting to know where his wife is going, and
when she's coming back. I agree wholeheartedly with Mrs. John R. Rice
(wife of the great evangelist Dr. John R. Rice), who said that 90% of all
divorces is the wife's fault, because God created the wife to be a HELP MEET for her husband (Genesis 2:18). The wife's ministry
IS her husband! Many woman pluck their marriages down to the ground
(Proverb 14:1). A husband has a Biblical God-given RIGHT to RULE OVER
his wife (Genesis 3:16). In many cases
when a wife leaves her husband, she involves strangers in the
marriage and they are quick to give heathen advice (such as encouraging a divorce). Very few husbands will compromise with a wife who tries to force him to do
things her way.
Many divorces are caused by rebellion on the
part of the wife, i.e., her refusal to work with her husband and submit to
his authority. Nothing will destroy a marriage faster than a wife with a bad
attitude. Teenage girls today are being groomed by idiots, whores, weirdoes
and freaks, like Britney Spears and Madonna.
We live in a trash
pop culture, a gutter society that has become morally-toxic.
Madonna is an
idol amongst teenage girls. Madonna is a sicko! She not
only blasphemes Jesus Christ in her filthy book,
SEX, but also
portrays herself as receiving oral sex from a dog. Is it any wonder why so
many women today, who grew up idolizing Madonna, are hateful and unforgiving
toward their husbands and think it's ok to divorce? Even so come Lord Jesus!
Feminism is an evil menace, a Communist agenda
intended to subvert American families, destroy marriages, kill babies, ruin
marriages and undermine our nation's strength. A chain link is only as
strong as the weakest link. Our nation's strength is its families. If you
understand this, then you'll grasp the reason why the Devil is relentlessly
attacking families today through immoral television, Godless public schools,
heathen music and apostate churches.
Anything
or anyone that strengthens families is seen as an enemy of the State and
is totally eradicated and driven out!
Many women who file for divorce don't give
their husband an honest chance to make things right. It's always some lame
excuse like, “He's had plenty of chances.” That is sinful pride! What if God said that about you? You'd be in Hell
and so would I. The Bible plainly teaches that our heart cannot be
trusted. We are warned that God ponders (studies) our heart's thoughts and
intents and cannot be fooled. Divorce may seem right to a woman who is being
abused by her husband, but wisdom must be used before filing for divorce.
Divorce is An Ugly Business
There's no such thing as a friendly divorce. If
you read the newspaper, then you've seen ads from greedy lawyers, offering a
friendly divorce for a few hundred dollars. Let me tell you, the courts are
malicious and viscous and they have no respect nor fear of God (Romans
3:18). The courtroom is a cold-hearted place, where love is something they
don't understand nor possess, where lives are destroyed, corruption is
prevalent. You had better hope you never end up in the hands of America's
rotten court system. America's prisons incarcerate 25% of all the world's
inmates, convicting citizens for everything these days to feed the prison
system. The same rotten court system handles divorces too.
If one spouse files on allegations (grounds) of
abuse, all hell comes down on the other spouse, treating them lower than
garbage. This is not God's way. It is a woeful evil that no spouse should
ever do to another. I am saddened that so many professed Christians behave
no better than the Godless wicked world. Divorce court is an evil place.
There are new World Order agendas at work these days that demonize
authoritative Christian fathers and husbands, but cater to effeminate
homosexuals and lesbian parents. In traditional family settings, the court
demonizes men as abusers, women as victims and children are made property of
the State. No attempt is ever made to reconcile the marriage or family; it
is all-out war n the legal SYSTEM. The SYSTEM (and I stress that word) is
corrupt, evil and agendacized, run by thugs.
Before you file for divorce ladies (who
statistically file for divorce more than twice the rate of men), consider
what is going to happen. Forget about all the nice things meddling people
tell you, it will be ugly. If you really want to hurt your husband, and you
hate him mercilessly, and you want to ruin your retirement and destroy your
family... then file for divorce!
I believe divorce is ALWAYS a sin! Jesus taught
unlimited forgiveness (Matthew 18:21-35). Marriage is a lifetime commitment.
I heard a preacher say that he thinks abuse breaks the marriage vows. If
that's the case, then who decides what level of abuse negates one's vows to
be faithful until death? The Bible does not agree with that minister. It is
apostasy for any preacher to teach that divorce is ok. What about a legal
separation? You are asking for a nightmare when you involve the legal
system. Do you want them to take your kids? When you stir the pot, you never
know what will happen next. It could all backfire on you! I am being your
friend to warn you about the evils of the American court system. It's ugly!
Divorce Rate... from 1% to
75.54% in 100 Years!!!
These idiots on television, moron counselors
and apostate ministers are quick to recommend calling 911, filing for
divorce and moving on in life. Programs like
THE VIEW, Consequently, whereas the U.S. divorce rate was
below 1% in the year
1900, California's divorce rate recently skyrocketed to
75.54%!!!!!!!!
America has already gone to hell. I don't expect most people to
understand what I am teaching. I don't reasonably expect the
tens-of-millions of women who have had abortions to agree with my Biblical
position on the evils of divorce.
Someone will argue that failing to divorce may
lead to a wife being murdered by an out-of-control husband. That's such a
lame excuse. There are just as many women who are killed by an angry husband
for filing for divorce, as there are wives who are killed for remaining in
an abusive relationship. It's all a bunch of lame excuses. Everybody looks
for excuses to do what they truly want to do. Please read,
Why People Do the Things They Do!
Let's just be honest, you're going to do what you want to do, plain and
simple. Don't shift the blame nor make excuses for your decisions. Adam
blamed Eve. Eve blamed the serpent. Humanity has been blaming each other
ever since. We have no one to blame except our self.
I mean, why even exchange marriage vows to
remain faithful in sickness as in health, in poverty as in wealth, et
cetera? The whole purpose behind making such vows on one's wedding day is
that YOU WON'T QUIT when things get bad. If you file for divorce, you are a
promise-breaking liar. Nearly everyone who files for divorce has reasons IN
THEIR OWN MIND (and perhaps in the minds of others who sympathize) for
quitting. If they truly honored their marriage vows, and moreover loved
their spouse and God, then they'd tough it out. If a wife needs to leave for
awhile, fine; but divorce is never the right thing to do (especially if the
other spouse doesn't want the divorce).
Most women who file for divorce are tired and
don't care anymore, so they throw out the baby with the bathwater; but what
about the tired husband? I'm so sick of people demonizing husbands for
allegedly being abusive, while the wife's faults don't matter. The tired
wife is pampered; while the tired husband is crucified. The struggling wife
is encouraged to divorce; while the struggling husband is dragged into a
heathen court system to be ravished by lawyers, judges and a merciless legal
system of tyranny. As goes the quote from the Italian mafia movie (starring
Al Pacino) SCAR FACE... “Women and children can make bad decisions;
but not men.” So true!
Everything rests upon the shoulders of the
husband and father, everything! When a marriages goes south and problems
arise, the husband is demonized and nailed to a cross; while the woman is
portrayed as a victim and catered to be an unfair court system that doesn't
have any laws requiring a wife to OBEY her husband. God will judge women
according to HIS LAWS, which require wifely obedience; and not according to
man's laws which legalize abortion, same-sex marriages, pornography, casino
gambling and so many other evils.
Divorce is Always Bad Advice
You'll never hear any jerks tell a struggling
wife to go home and love her husband, clean her house, and hang in there.
Instead they rationalize that the husband may kill her, so she should
divorce, divorce, divorce. it's the only way they say! it's Satanism I tell
you!!! If anything, dragging a struggling husband into court may push him
over the edge (and the news is filled with such horrible events). It's all
deliberate. This is exactly what the monsters behind the moral subversion
and economic destruction of our nation want...
total family breakdown!
Think about it... our nation's leaders
(congress), who are elected to protect the best interests of American
citizens, allow U.S. corporations to relocate tens-of-millions of jobs to
foreign soil. Consequently, there's no decent jobs left in America. Now
Americans are
competing with illegal immigrants for the remaining minimum wage jobs.
Yet idiot Americans continue to vote for these rotten criminals, whom the
lying mainstream newsmedia protect, whitewash and promote. It's insanity!
Having said that, tens-of-millions of Americans
have lost their homes, cannot find jobs and are struggling in their
marriages. This dire situation has been deliberately created. And then the
entire system is designed to promote divorce over every problem in the
marriage. Television is saturated with homosexuals, feminists and
unbelievers who spit on God, Christianity and the family. Our public schools
are toilets teaching the lies of evolution, pushing immoral sex on kids and
turning kids against their parents. No wonder divorce is commonplace! You
tell me what's keeping marriages together these days? Everything is working
against married couples today!!!
Don't Let the Devil Have the
Last Laugh
When I sit down and ponder over all these
things, I get real mad and want to tell everybody... DON'T DIVORCE!!! If it
weren't for the rotten greedy criminals who have created a hostile economic
situation in our nation, and the
Luciferian
scum behind the music industry, and the
pedophile sex-perverts behind the televisions industry and Hollywood,
and apostate CFR-member ministers
like Rick Warren corrupting our churches... then marriages wouldn't be
struggling the way they are in America!!! The Word of God has been tossed
out the window!!!
The Bible teaches that a nation's leaders
should seek proper counsel and only by GOOD ADVICE make war; not based upon
whims, false information, greed, prejudices, retaliation or bad advice.
Proverb 20:18: “Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good
advice make war.” May I say, divorce is about as close as you can get to
literal war than actually declaring war itself. Divorce is a nasty business
in which no ones wins except the greedy lawyers and judge. I heard a trial
lawyer say that he would rather take a murder case than a divorce case,
because the hatred is more intense in divorce cases. That's what he said,
vowing never to handle a divorce case again.
Once a disgruntled spouse signs the forms,
carelessly filing for divorce. The courts deliberately turn it into a
bloodbath. The court moves in like a predatory black widow spider, taking
control over all the couple's assets, possessions, retirement, earnings,
savings, car/boat, clothes and furniture, pets, every single thing you both
own in this world. The courts don't care about either spouse, including the
one who filed. It's now a legal matter in the hands of the judge, the
attorney general and the cutthroat lawyers.
They will drag the case on for anywhere from
one to 5-years, and you can expect to be bilked for at least $15,000 in
legal fees. A friendly divorce only covers the application fee (letting the
lawyer get his foot in the door like the Devil), then you'll be swindled for
thousands of dollars. Your home and all you own becomes the property of the
court until the cases is settled. The husband and wife stand on opposite
sides of the court room and the lawyers and judge divide everything between
the couple. Neither of you say a word as the court does their dirty evil
work. Everything is done behind closed doors prior to the court setting. The
lawyers loyalty is to the SYSTEM and not to the clients they represent.
Divorce causes emotional, physical, financial,
legal, children and family and spiritual hardships. Divorce is commonplace
in this evil generation. People criticize me a lot for defending abusive
husbands, but that's not my intent. I'm defending the institution of
marriage. The Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9 that the human heart is wicked,
desperately evil and deceitful above all else. A lot of women file for
divorce because someone coaches them into doing so. People should go to jail
for meddling in other people's marriages. It's much too easy to divorce
these days.
Italy used to require a 3-year waiting period
before a divorce could be granted. Now it's one year! I think it should be
3-years in America! It's not even one month. If I had my way, divorce would
be illegal. A wife would be allowed to leave her abusive husband, but would
NOT be allowed to remarry or else face imprisonment (nor would the husband
be allowed to remarry, and would go to prison for fornication). I would make
divorce so miserable that couples would work hard at making their marriages
work, which is what people should be doing in the first place). You know, in
the old days before the creation of a welfare state, women had no where to
go if they had marriage problems. Although it was a yoke of wood and there
was some abuse during those times, what is happening in America today is a
yoke or iron (total enslavement) in comparison. There is no perfect
marriage, none!
