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...and I want out.

I'm tired of being a surrogate husband, as a 25 year old male. It's bad enough that I help out around with my autistic brother his father divorced from his mom for over ten years. But it's worse that you have to practically be the handyman for almost everything, especially for minor technology crap modern females are able to handle. She's been like this since my entire family from her side of the family is completely and utterly lazy and mistrustful. At one time one of cousins forced me to sacrifice one month of my junior year in college because she fled out of watching my autistic brother. It was a miracle that I manged to have decent grades.

It's bad enough that I have to keep my major depression under remission. It's worse that you can't deal with your own problems because your mom constantly needs my help for basically minor shit she can't figure out on her own. I get fucking irritated every-time she calls, she calls to complain or need me to search on the internet despite having a smartphone with data access. The thought of giving one day to teach her how to properly solve minor technology stuff and to teach her how to use technology properly almost gave me a brain aneurism.

I want to just scream NO and walk out of the house. Or fake a suicide note and just run out of the house, but she is hopelessly dependent on me and her life will collapse if I do anything like that. I'm freshly out of university and finding a job is a farce. I just want out.
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Real men speak their thoughts.
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>>5592809 (OP)
She is your Mom dude. Love her for who she is. You only get one. Please I am about to cry man...
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give her the dick.

Either she agrees and you get pussy out of the deal or she freaks out and you get an excust to move out.

it's win-win.
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>>5592809 (OP)
>but she is hopelessly dependent on me and her life will collapse if I do anything like that

It probably won't

You're out of uni, you need your own space.

Go travelling for a while. Find yourself. Get a shitty minimum wage job, save up like a motherfucker, ride a 125cc motorbike across vietnam for the cost of a bigmac back home.
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My bro is kind of going through the same thing. He's the only guy that's really present in our family and my sisters depend on him to be the stern male figure they need. He's only 18. But our family does a lot for each other.
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>>5592834
Problem is she needs to be more self-reliant when it comes to technology issues. I can't be there for her forever. Eventually she's going to be on her own for such things.

>>5592853
>give her the dick.
Fuck you. Besides I can't move out with a fucking decent job.
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>>5592892
my sister's kids need the stern male figure I mean
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>>5592834
He may only have one mom but he also only has one life.
Would you want to waste it taking care of some lazy, mistrustful bitch?
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that really sucks that you have to change her diaper, feed her, pay constant attention to her, etc.. all day, for years and years

o wait that's what she did 4 u xD
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>>5592896

Okay, so what exactly is the situation.

You aren't paying any bills?
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>>5592809 (OP)
Then go? I hear so many stories about people in their mid 20's bitching about how they want/plan to move out, but then never actually do it.
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>>5592888
>Get a shitty minimum wage job
The only thing I have is SSI and not even minimum wage jobs are hiring. My own mom has been job hunting for about a year, possible two and only got one temp-job which lasted a month.

I didn't even bother job hunting because what's the point if people are more interested in hiring less and make more money
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>>5592809 (OP)
My boyfriend's mother is the same. Fucking. Way. For the first few years that we were dating, he still lived with her and she was constantly fawning over him and being a clingy mom. Now that he and I live together, she's still constantly calling and being all pathetic and shit.
I'm not talking pathetic just for saying "I love you", that's normal.
I'm talking, she still treats him like he's three. When she made him meals, she'd fill his plate for him and bring it to him on the couch; she did his laundry, made his bed, cleaned his room, did fucking EVERYTHING for him.
Thing is, I love her. She is an amazing and kind woman, and we get along really well - she's going to be a wonderful mother-in-law.
I just can't stand how fucking clingy she is with him. It's gross.
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I'm in a similar situation where, my Mom goes on business trips all the time and I'm stuck watching my younger siblings. She'll just disappear for a week or two, and leave enough food to last for a couple days. Doesn't matter if I have an exam or two that week, gotta make dinner and drive them to sports practices/games that are sometimes an hour away. She knows I'm depressed but she just guilt trips the whole time (she told me about her failed attempted suicide when she was my age, blah blah blah). I wish she had succeeded sometimes.
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>>5592944

>OMG A MOTHER LOVES HER SON FUCKING STOP YOU FUCKING DISGUSTING FUCK

You sound like a pleasant person.
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>>5592907
>MUH FEMINISM

And no. She CHOOSE to have him.
He did not choose this.
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>>5592960

>OMG

>I HAVE TO DO CHORES

>FUCK MY LIFE I WISH YOU DIED MOM

Wow, amazing.
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>>5592926
Problem is that it will leave me practically homeless. Homeless shelters are practically full and full of people with mental health issues worse than mine, and alcoholics.

>>5592907
Fuck you. She's perfectly normal, she's practically a dinosaur when it comes to high technology.

>>5592917
I pay her two credit card bills for her.
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>>5592964
Dude, I don't really think you understand what I'm saying. She calls every. Goddamn. Day. Asking for help with some computer-related issue, asking for him to come and move a couch, etc.
She lives in the same fucking town and we see her on a regular basis.
I hardly think that calling ever damn day is a necessity.
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>>5592989

With what money? Neither of you have jobs.
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>>5592981
I've been doing it since I was 14. You grow weary of a woman who gets fired/quits her jobs constantly after a couple of years.
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>>5592979
*chose
Mother of a fuck
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>being born of a poor person and being a poorfag

>not being born of a successful professional mother

sux 2b u
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>>5592994
Additionally: She tells both of us about her sex life. (She's single and goes to bars a lot.)
It's not a fucking healthy relationship.
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I'm a 25 year old son that just wants to stay at home and play video games and not grow up because the world is shit and I don't see the rewards worth the effort but my mom is starting to get a bit tired of me.

she's really distant now and always trying to push me out without outright forcing me out because she knows I'm holding myself hostage.

I straight up told her I'd rather just kill myself than be a part of society and she knows I will do it because I have no attachment to life and this world. I'm sorry but death is preferable than minimum wage slavery which is all I'm capable of doing (learning disability so can't into degree). Once a month I put in a job application to satisfy her but I don't worry because I don't have experience so I know I'll never actually be called in and I haven't.

I'll trade with you.
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>>5593023
Sounds like she wants the D
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>>5593009

And your parents are tired of trying to support a failure of a son.
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Try to bone her. She'll flip the fuck out and kick you out. Or not and you get yoru dick wet and get a live in fuck buddy.
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>>5593030
That's really what it seems like sometimes. Creeps me the fuck out.
We've just started to ignore her calls regularly, unless she leaves a message and it's an emergency. We don't want to be mean - we just want to live our own lives.
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>>5593036
I'm in grad school for genetics, I didn't know that qualified as a failure, considering my Mom barely made it through college for a finance degree
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>>5593028
>a part of society and she knows I will do it because I have no attachment to life and this world.

I'm almost close to that point. Especially with politicians not caring about actual issues. Problem I have to stay politically and currently informed, but it's difficult with so much infotainment.
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>>5593085
Dude the world just isn't worth living for. I only live for myself. Fuck society and everyone in it. Maybe if I was smart or capable of succeeding but I'm not so I'll just be a leach or kill myself. Either or. I don't really care.

pretty soon my mom will get tired of me and look the other way and leave for an extra hour or so so I can do it. Or she wont and she'll tollerate me. Or she'll kick me out and I'll just go jump off a bridge or jump in front of a train or find a secluded area to hang myself.

i don't really give a fuck anymore.
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what kind of support does your brother get from the government?
whats his functioning level?
age?
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>>5593444
He's of the lower end of the autisic spectum, he's able to draw well and do some assignments, and knows how to use a laptop well. He's almost 18 now.

Regarding myself: I'm 25 years of age, and I'm on the high end of the autism spectrum (Asperger's syndrome), and I get medicaid, food stamps, and SSI. Problem is all the section 8 programs are full and their waiting lists are closed, same with public housing. Craigslist is mostly miss, with people asking for $500 dollars per month (My SSI is $630 per month)
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>>5593700
maybe you can get your brother on ssi you could pool money and take care of your brother
being with your mother might not be the healthiest environment
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>>5592809 (OP)
>hopelessly dependent on me
Sounds like you're dependent on her. She's supporting your lazy unemployed ass. Stop whining and go get a job if you hate it that badly.
>herp derp the job market is bad
Yet surprisingly, the intelligent and motivated people are still getting jobs. Funny how that works out.
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Someone post that story about that anon who had his mom move in with him and basically act as a wife.
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>>5593072
And she managed to get you up to university. Wow.

This should thread should be about first world problems.


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