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    9 KB Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)22:55:50 No.6240088  
    What do you do if you're too afraid to get and/or handle a job?

    I'm 19 and still don't have one, and everyone else does, making me feel really inadequate. But I have a hard time applying for them. I don't have any skills or work experience to get hired for a lot of jobs. And when I do, I was feel so uncomfortable and scared applying them, that I sometimes start having these little panic attacks where my breathing becomes irregular, I start twitching a little, and I have this expression my face that I've seen a ghost, sometimes become more pale, and get very sweaty and sleepy. And even when I had a couple jobs, I was always so awkward, clumsy, scared of my boss and coworkers, nervous, and could barely function well when working. This especially happens when working with the general public, I just cannot handle it, I sometimes become unable to say anything, sometimes have a small panic attack as well. And it's hard to find a decent job at this point in which I can handle well. I want something like a nice, quiet, office environment where you're mostly left alone to work, but I can't even find one of those. And looking for one is hard because virtually no one is hiring at the moment in this city, and the second they do it just gets so competitive that the opening is hit like a train with applications, even from people master degrees (job market is very poor at the moment). What does one do here?
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)22:57:45 No.6240111
    Continue to live in your mom's basement
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)22:57:46 No.6240112
    learn2education
    >> God Emperor of /adv/ !YgQRHAJqRA 11/12/09(Thu)22:59:06 No.6240132
    You have an anxiety disorder. Consult a psychiatrist.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:00:52 No.6240155
    it would be absolutely hilarious if you joined the Marines (for the rest of us, anyway). Plus, it would force you to come out of your comfort zone. I bet you wouldn't be afraid of going outside once you got discharged.

    Join up, and post a blog about it for our amusement.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:01:34 No.6240163
    >>6240132
    This. It sounds like you have some kind of anxiety disorder.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:01:52 No.6240172
    become a jenkem dealer
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:02:37 No.6240182
    Print out 30 resumes. Drop them off everywhere that's shitty (wal-mart, mcdonald's, etc.).

    >>6240132
    is kinda right, you might be an extreme case, but I found working some shitty jobs and being forced to interact with people improved my social skills.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:06:37 No.6240233
    Oh God, I'd deliberately stare at you and make you feel as uncomfortable as possible if you started working beside me.

    Seriously though, go to a doctor or some shit, bro, before you do some serious damage to your mental health.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:06:46 No.6240236
    >>6240182
    I don't wanna have to resort to those jobs. Just even thinking about working with a lot of people is making my breather harder and my body heavier. Oh fuck me.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:08:46 No.6240271
    Jobs are where people go to lose faith in humanity.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:10:03 No.6240282
    >>6240236

    I'm serious, working in that kind of environment will help you.

    If you want, practice by going somewhere when it's really busy and just... be there or whatever.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:11:23 No.6240299
    >>6240236
    OP is my doppelganger, though I'm a year older.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:11:39 No.6240302
    >>6240182
    >is kinda right, you might be an extreme case, but I found working some shitty jobs and being forced to interact with people improved my social skills.

    Same here. I had to step out of my comfort zone(moms basement lolz) and join the rest of the world.

    Goodluck OP
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:12:57 No.6240320
    >>6240282
    Oh god. I don't mean to sound whiny, but I was on the verge to puke there. D:
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:15:50 No.6240357
    I get nervous as when talking to new people at a work place, and I HAVE skills
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:25:50 No.6240461
    What if I volunteered at hospital or vet clinic or something? I won't get paid, but it's a nicer, more comforting environment, and it gets me experience to land myself a good job in the future. |=
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:32:24 No.6240525
    How about you swallow your stupid fucking fears and do what is expected of you as a citizen of your country?
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:45:53 No.6240676
    >>6240182
    >>6240302
    Seconding these. You'll never get any better if you're not put in a crappy situation; people don't learn when things are piss easy.
    My first job was at KFC; a really old and backwards one where just about every machine, including the drive-thru window broke down over the 3 months I was there. I had to put it through my head that everyone else can do this, and so could I. Yes, I've had panic attacks from shit customers, but you learn from these experiences.
    It helps a shit ton if you're lucky enough to have friendly co-workers to back you up.
    >> Anonymous 11/12/09(Thu)23:50:53 No.6240728
    >>6240461
    >hospital
    >comforting
    Dohoho... have you ever been in one? Do it anyway.
    Learn to deal with bad situations, otherwise you'll end up with a spine made of jello.
    I would always recommend volunteering. People are always too concerned with the money. Put some effort into it and you'll end up with a great reference/contact for later. Plus, you may end up working there some day.
    >> Anonymous 11/13/09(Fri)02:08:20 No.6242271
    Oh god. I have this exact same problem. It's been like 2 years and I still haven't even mustered up the courage to drop off a fucking application (I don't even know how you're supposed to apply, I'd probably look like a retard and never get contacted). My lack of income and independence is fucking eating away at my soul, I'm being such a fucking pathetic little whiny bitch, and yet I still can not get myself to take the first step towards getting over it. I feel like I'm having to walk into a dark cave full of lions and bears and venomous bugs and shit when I think about getting a job, my god why am I such a fucking loser.
    >> Anonymous 11/13/09(Fri)02:12:55 No.6242311
    OP, you're me except I'm 21 and therefore even more fucked and guilty about never having worked a day in my life.

    I stopped applying to jobs because I only got called in for an interview on one out of like 30 places I applied to. Which is no surprise since I have NO experience, but how am I supposed to get experience if nobody will give me a job?

    The longer I wait, the more inadequate I feel. I went into a coffee shop the other day and asked if there were any job openings. When they asked what experience I had, I said "uhh... not much, actually" and then realized that was the WRONG thing to say and tried to back my way out of it but failed miserably. I walked outside and started crying like a pussy. I've realized that I'm so sure they won't hire me that I make myself look bad, thus creating a self fulfilling prophecy.



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