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    35 KB How does I small talk? Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)21:55:49 No.4568902  
    Help me robots.
    I recently got a new job, we're at the training for new hires. Everyone started the same (no one knew each other). Now we're at the third week, and the social groups are starting to stablish. As a socially crippled faggot, I'm getting left out of all groups and people are starting to see me as the creepy weird quiet guy.
    It's like high school all over again, seeing everybody else get along like normal people and me getting left behind, just like I foresaw. I blame this on my inability of making small talk, since this is how you make new friends, right?

    tl;dr: how does I small talk? I can't do it to save my (social) life
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)21:58:44 No.4568947
    That's weird. Similar thing happened to me. Well, first, I bet most of the people you started with quit (if it's some shitty job).
    Randomly ask "Do you like it?" Then go from there. it's a gender neutral question, too.
    If everyone really does ignore you, fuck em.
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:03:13 No.4568986
    >>4568947
    Thing is, most of the time when I say something, people make the most weirded out expression, like I just said something horrible. I have no idea why. It's like I'm an alien from another planet or sumshit, unable to communicate with human beings
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:06:57 No.4569015
    Bad breath, weird voice, bizarre accent, strange vocabulary... There are so many ways to be a creep when you talk.
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:07:10 No.4569017
    energy. interests. eye contact

    I was in the same position, and did great. it was my first contact with humanity in months and months, and I did swimmingly

    you can too
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:08:50 No.4569030
    You can't just sit around and wait for people to approach you. You need to put yourself out there even if it is awkward and uncomfortable.
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:16:51 No.4569085
    Eye contact is key; it accounts for so much of your communication that you simply cannot succeed without it. In our culture, you commonly look into the eyes of the person you're talking to, and break the contact every couple of seconds so it isn't a stare-down. If you're shy and/or can't make eye contact for some reason, keep your eyes focused on the listener's nose or lips and follow the same rule.

    Once you've got body language down (eye contact, facing the listener, standing up straight), small talk itself is inane at best, but you need to break the ice before you can talk about something of substance. If you honestly can't think of any other way to relate to the person in front of you, open up with an observation about the weather. If the person is warm and friendly, you're good. If the person is cold and unreceptive, be polite but curt, cut your losses, and move on. This, for the record, is probably how your peers see you; your anxiety and nervousness likely make you appear aloof and unapproachable rather than creepy/weird/retarded/whatever.
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:19:52 No.4569109
    Go read some self help books about socialising.

    The following are all good and ebooks of them are easy to find through google:

    How to Win Friends and Influence People
    How to Talk to Anyone
    How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:25:11 No.4569125
    Simple.

    >Transcript show: 'Hello, world!'.
    >> Anonymous 06/23/09(Tue)22:29:36 No.4569152
    >>4569125
    do ho ho

    dohohoblock



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