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  • "UPTIME IS THE GAME, DOWNTIME IS THE NAME"
    today marks the end of scheduled maintenance—two guys with two weeks to kill and a few hundred hours later, we're finally [mostly] done.
    page loads/image downloads should be dramatically faster. until we hit 1gbps, at least. to all of my wonderful and ungrateful users: "you're welcome."
    (note: there are still a few other things i'll be working on so expect intermittent downtime)
    ps: thanks so much to mvb for all of the help and support.

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    115 KB Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:16:55 No.2752220  
    tl;dr: How do I learn to enjoy life?

    Long version: Ever since I can remember, ive been floating through life just doing whatever I need to get by, treating everything like an obligation. I had to go to school, and id just do the work and sleep the rest of the time there. I have to go to work, so I just go there, everyone sees that im obviously disgruntled so they leave me alone, but they see that im an efficient worker.

    ...aaaaand so on. Ever since I could remember. Anyways, so I tried out the relationship thing for a while, it didnt work out so well. She was batshit fucking insane. So much so that it got in the way of our happiness together. We broke up and such, she got all hurt, I got all "Fuck." and whatever. Eh.

    But one thing she always told me is that she could tell I was never happy, that I was always acting like I didnt want to be alive. Like I dont enjoy life. Now those words are really starting to bore a fucking hole in my conscience, or at least whats left of it. I swear to god, she was right.

    And what really sucks is I dont know how to change it. All I enjoy are the "short term" pleasures in life, I always have.

    -Internet, which is fun for about an hour or two
    -Smoking bud, which is fun for about two or three hours
    -Playing the vidya, which gets old after one hour at the least
    -Fapping, which is fun for about however long I feel like lasting

    How can I learn to be happy? Im starting to feel like I need to go on a road trip by myself across the southwestern US just to find some peace within myself.

    What do I do to enjoy life?
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:39:16 No.2752456
    So yeah, bump.

    I dont need to mootblock, im too cool for that.
    >> Corolla Warrior !6yNiCeCOCk 01/13/09(Tue)01:42:31 No.2752486
    Sounds like you need a hobby, bro.

    What is something that you've always wanted to do that you haven't done?
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:43:32 No.2752499
    well whats keeping you from enjoying it?
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:48:09 No.2752540
    >>2752486
    Im not focused enough for a hobby. I have a guitar and have been trying for the past two years now to learn, and for about two months at a time, ill get really into it, but then I just stop.

    That, and my fingers are kinda too chubby to play.

    I dont want to turn this into a relationship thread, but ever since I broke up with her, ive been feeling this discouragement even more now. Id try and find a new ladyfriend to fill this gap, but that might not even fix it.

    Part of me just wants to drop everything, sell all my shit, and drive around the country by myself.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:48:26 No.2752544
    OP, you need to find something to be PASSIONATE about. It doesn't have to be the normal crap like everyone else. Just find something that intrigues you and run with it. It may take some exploring but do it, even if it seems a boring obligation like everything else. Sooner or later you'll hit jackpot.

    I'm not talking shit either, I've done this. Unfortunately for you, I did it while I'm in college so playing around with different subjects was a bit easier. Realizing I'm totally interested in animals makes me finally want to get out of bed in the morning.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:49:07 No.2752549
    >>2752540
    The first few sentences sound like excuses not to try something.

    The last might be a great idea.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:49:24 No.2752556
    Life is about perspective. You should start by reading up about how to make life work for you. A good start would be the book 'the secret' by Rhonda Byrne
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:50:41 No.2752570
    >>2752220
    >What do I do to enjoy life?

    I think you and I are in the same boat. I mean, I don't have any motivation and simply do everything because I feel it must be done. Life to me is simply a series of problems that I have to solve every day.

    The way I've learned to handle it is to simply be as busy as I can so I don't focus on the fact I'm not feeling much of anything about anything.

    You and I will probably never feel the kind of happiness a lot of people talk about, we just got to work with what we're given.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:52:00 No.2752581
    >>2752499
    Everything just seems like crap I have to get over with before I can enjoy anything.

    And once I get done with that crap, whtever it might be (school, work, visiting a relative, whatever), I dont know what to do that I can enjoy.

    And whatever I do try doing, I can never fully enjoy. Everyone else involved can be having fun, but for the most part, im just pretending.
    >> Corolla Warrior !6yNiCeCOCk 01/13/09(Tue)01:55:19 No.2752610
    >>2752540
    Keep at that guitar if you like it. I've been playing for a year and have big hands too, so I switched from a strat to a les paul style guitar. Muuuch better.

    Seriously though, just pursue things you enjoy, whatever it is. I'm going to school for video games and I like to work on cars and do stupid shit like that.

    Do you have any male friends you can go get drunk with? That's always fun.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:56:28 No.2752620
    1. Watch 3 guys 1 hammer
    2. Realize you aren't that guy
    3. ?????
    4. Enjoy
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)01:57:35 No.2752634
    >>2752610
    For the most part, im starting not to enjoy hanging out with my friends as well.

    Theyre starting to seem like another obligation to me to add onto the list, really.

    Id say more on the things you mentioned, but im afraid someone I know who shouldnt read all this might know who I am.
    >> Corolla Warrior !6yNiCeCOCk 01/13/09(Tue)02:06:40 No.2752713
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    >>2752634
    Lighten up bro, this is fuckin 4chan.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)02:30:44 No.2752913
    I had a similar view on life like yours. Recently i realised (after a good acid trip) that my ego gets in the way of everything and I need to be more relaxed around people and talk more freely. I've changed my lifestyle now, I'm not taking any more drugs for one. That for me is probably the best since smoking weed makes me slow, demotivated and all around depressed. It hasn't been that long but I've started exercising and lost a few kg's already, work doesn't disturb me now, I'm chattier with people etc. Maybe deep down inside I still don't see much point in alot of things, but being more relaxed helped and at least I don't have suicide thoughts anymore. I started riding BMX and planning to start fishing. Don't know if any of this would help you but trust me, it helped me alot.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)02:36:37 No.2752970
    >>2752913
    Thats just it though.

    I dont smoke as much as I used to, but that has nothing to do with this whole thing. I dont have any "suicide thoughts", and I can be "chatty" with people if I adjust my mood as such.

    I just feel like everything is an obligation and everythings just generally...*boring the hell out of me*, I guess.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)10:06:31 No.2755984
    Quickbump.

    wait what.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)10:10:55 No.2756003
    >>2752610
    Hmm.

    Actually, to be fair, it might be that im playing an acoustic, so the neck is way bigger than on an electric.

    But I dont fucking know, my fingers are too short to even do an F chord.
    >> Anonkii !!DzGuKu4QfE9 01/13/09(Tue)10:21:23 No.2756069
    I have the same thing. I don't know why.

    I have good family that pays for my upkeep for a year while I get some studies done at the university, I have some friends I can hang out with from time to time, I have had a few jobs and get new ones if I wanted to, I have a new computer and a couple of good games, I had a girlfriends but we are still friends and such so I'm not heartbroken, I have a hobby, I'm a fast learner and in a few months I'll be be moving out on my own.

    It's a standard okay middleclass life. No big obstacles but no real fun either. Nothing is fun or challenging but for the moment, I don't even like food that much anymore. It's strange, I should be enjoying myself but nothing is great anymore.

    I mean I try to eat right, exercise some, read a few books, watch the latest series, take good care of my looks and hygiene. I used to be an asshole but now I make an effort to be nice and chatty instead of grumpy and bitter.

    I really tried changing myself from someone I didn't like to someone I can enjoy being, still can't feel like I enjoy life though. Shit sucks, life is bland and grey.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)10:26:34 No.2756103
    I call this "middle-class privilege". You've likely had an easy life, never had to fight hard or be passionate to attain your goals. Probably you're decent looking and can fake charm well enough to attract a fair amount of women. There's no challenge in life for you. How to fix it, I'm not really sure.
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)10:41:54 No.2756224
    >-Fapping, which is fun for about however long I feel like lasting

    Then fap forever?
    >> Anonymous 01/13/09(Tue)11:07:19 No.2756447
    >>2756103

    Well this definitely changes things.


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