>>2370891

I'm more into academics other than having a social life, if you have to do that to have a real social life.

To be honest to you I rather be a ronley recluse virgin, because at least I have a college degree and a decent job than being forced into parenthood or landing in jail for drunk and disorderly.

So what is a social life in high school and university?

Is what I'm describing is a social life?

And how do I supposed to get one?

tl:dr. Otaku in college mostly in recluse wants to know is having a social life is what I described as my social life; and if not, what is a real social life? And How to get said real social life. Also describe your real social lives?

inb4 Aspergers, you're going to die alone, and loser

N-O. Nope. Sorry.

Try to make friends at the clubs you go to? Hang out with them once in a while? You don't have to party to have a social life.

It's different for every person..some like going to parties and getting wasted. Others like hanging out with a few good friends over dinner.

I'm in college also and studying 85% of my time. I have a few friends in my college I hang out with during class and day time. We all have the same schedule due to the nature of our curriculum, so we get to go out for dinner or hang out at someone's house with our significant others about once a month. This is fine for me.

>To be honest to you I rather be a ronley recluse virgin, because at least I have a college degree and a decent job than being forced into parenthood or landing in jail for drunk and disorderly.

Anon, stop rationalizing that this is the best route to take. IT IS possible to get good grades and go out to parties to have a good time. I'm an engineer, and the work is hard as fuck, believe me, but on the weekends I still go out to parties with friends on the weekends.

You go to weekly clubs and some other stuff. That counts as social life, albeit a very geeky one. But that's okay. Considering your interests I doubt you would enjoy frat parties much.

On the upside you will be miles ahead of your peers at graduation, especially if you intend to go to grad school.

RE: your peer harassment in junior high school: you're in COLLEGE, son. Stop talking about junior high school. It's kinda weird. Go see the school social worker/therapist if you need help dealing with your issues, shit is free.

If you want to expand your social life join some sort of club where you get some exercise. That will introduce you to a different crowd who may actually hang out without feeling the need to get shitty drunk.

you know what OP I live near you and visit college park to party and see friends if you want to come out and get drunk with me you are welcome to

Social life involves any activities you do with other people. Talking about anime is equivalent to a house party in terms of being "social life".

Stop buying into social conventions and just enjoy the social interaction you have. Leave the "I have no social life" crap to those of us who really have no friends so we just sit inside all weekend on 4chan.

Having a social life is basically a circle of friends that you regularly meet with to engage in recreational activities that you both enjoy.

In college, this usually means parties, going to bars, or simply hanging out or having a beer or lunch together. If during your clubs or hobbies you talk to someone, simply ask them out somewhere... that simple act alone will be the stepping stone to build a social life.

Let go of the past anon. It only hurts it never helps.

may sound cliche but it's true.

Maybe you don't want to be social and thats okay.

I think you just like any other anon "Don't want to miss out" and that is what cause you to to post these threads.

The only people you need to get to know in college are 2-3 professors for letters of recommendation. Forget everyone else.

My social life involves having discussions with my friends about the nerdiest things we can think of (which building would be best to be in during Zombie Apocalypse, hentai, video games, Putin, etc.) and playing DnD with friends. Occasionally we have parties that involve watching porn and being naked, alcohol optional.

So basically, social life = whatever you do with people/friends. You don't have to go anywhere or do anything special.

>>2370891
Wow op at first I was going to sage this shit, but this is truely hilarious.

At times, I'm a pretty nerdy and reclusive guy. There have been many days where I will only get out of my apartment to go to class or eat, and not even desire to venture outside. I've spent entire weekends inside. I have the standard nerdy habits: the vidya, 4chan, anime. I have a work-intensive major that I love and study more than a full time job, probably.

On the other hand, there are house parties that I enjoy once in a while. I've never had problems striking up conversations with strangers, and am regularly invited to social events.

It's up to you if you want to be reclusive, OP. But try leaving the comfort zone a few times, you might like it. If you don't, then fuck it. But it's in everyone's biology and psychology to be able to be connected to other humans and rely on them emotionally. Guys that get thrown in solitary confinement go wacko for a reason. And if you run across someone with your interests, you might really enjoy hanging out with them.

>>2370994
Sounds like you had a great college experience.

>>2371014
Why is that?

moutbloxx

>>2371047 cont'd
There is a lot of information or perspectives that others can provide, and even expose you to some new experiences that would be otherwise lost. My roommates and I often discuss philosophy/philosophy of science/religion and whatnot. For the most part we have identical opinions, but the discussions usually take it to a whole new level relatively soon that I couldn't experience on my own. Find someone that you respect intellectually OP, great conversations await. This may apply to anything you do, outside of intellectual conversations as well. Most people seem shitty, but there will always be someone with similar interests as you, and just as capable.

OP, you don't have to do any of those things to be social. Just put yourself out there and get some friends. You'll like it.

Don't let past stigmas hold you back from starting over.

Story time: Once I was at College Park and this one guy was hitting on me all night-which was alright, I guess. I was too high to get irritated by him. I love nerds, but not aussies. If I walk away, it means I'm not interested.

No friends in college? Have fun getting a job when you graduate.

>>2371161

>I couldn't get a job on my own merits, so neither can you

wwwwwwww

I got my bachelor's at UMCP..college life in regards to partying is just..retarded. Most people at the bars and house parties are just dumb drunk kids. You're not missing anything in that regard.

Most of the people I met there were immature, spoiled, and ungrateful..but this also depends on your major, I guess.

I was kinda reclusive and I didn't mind. I don't need to have a lot of friends to feel happy and accepted.

At this point I don't think I'm capable of having a normal social life.

>>2371183

Unfortunately, merit doesn't mean much compared to who your friends and family are. My own college's career center tells people that 60-70% of all jobs are obtained via networking (A.K.A Who you know).

Hell, just look at George W. Bush.

Surprising amount of Marylandfags on tonight.

On the subject though, a social life implies no sort of activity (clubbing, drinking, etc), simply that you spend time with other people outside of yourself and family. If you interact with other people at photography and anime club then congrats, you have a social life! Also note that having a social life and having friends are different things.

Hehe, I'm in a shittier boat than you OP, trust me. I've been in college since august and I haven't made a single friend. I'm just too fucking self conscious and socially inhibited. However, I do have a handful of great friends back home. Unfortunately, my conservative parents are against me having anything that resembles a social life, believing it's the reason for my slightly above mediocre performance in school (mostly B's with the occasional A and C).

What the fuck.

The only excuse one has for a lack of a social life other than Asperger's or a shitty personality is that you're so much smarter than your peers that you can't hold a conversation with normal people. If you're so into academics, then you should've gotten into a better school. My friend went to Harvard and he had a social life and was a procrastinator. He went to a top public school and was dating by 17.

So it's either Asperger's or shitty personality, sorry. You're going to die alone, or w/ someone ugly.

OP here, I actually go to the University of Maryland.

And another question related to social life, why do an average American High School student social life revolves dating (and eventual risk of teenage parenthood, VD/STD,), going to parties, underage drinking, and law breaking. Again there are clubs and other law abiding activities, yet to the mainstream and to the popular's: you're a loser/geek/nerd/dork.

And everyone wants to follow the popular crowd in the hopes of joining them (even though you have to be born into it to join it. (read: be born to wealthy or affluent parents)). But eventually their lives in the long run will cross paths with the law or with real life.

>>2370891
I have even less of a social life. In fact, I went to a college near home, live at home, and have literally no social life. The way I see it you're ahead of the game.

>>2371732

Because going to parties, drinking, banging bitches, doing drugs, and breaking the law are FUCKING AWESOME.

Seriously, try all five.

>But eventually their lives in the long run will cross paths with the law or with real life.
Not even close to true, sorry. The truth is that many of the fuckups will eventually go on to graduate college and lead productive lives.

And many of the nerds you think are so intelligent and interesting will end up graduating with no experience and no connections, and will be forced to work at Best Buy.

stop thinking in cliches and pre-fab categories and what you think you ought to do or what people tell you to do. do what you want to do.

if you are in school, you are busy. you are also in a canned environment, surrounded by idiot jocks and future unhappy husbands and wives. if you feel that's th right choice for you, go for it. millions do.

but believe me, it's entirely optional. all it will cost you is affirmation from the hordes.

most people choose group identity or affirmation over joy and individual pursuit.

your choice.

>>2372004
>The truth is that many of the fuckups will eventually go on to graduate college and lead productive lives.

That's if they manage not to fuck up. And how do these people manage not to fuck up if they do those five things?

I'm guessing luck

Social life=Whatever life you have,unless you live on uninhabited island in middle of the pacific.

>>2372156

Dude, seriously, stop. You're just making yourself look like a jackass.

I'm pretty much a social recluse too, but most of the people I know who go out and party regularly are also good students. The fact that they're able to manage their time so well in order to do both things and still be productive is actually a testament to their intelligence.

Stop trying to give people shit just because they like to have a good time.

Lol my "run in with the law" consisted of getting busted for having a beer even though I'm 19, for the grand total cost of $25 and a slight inconvenience

>>2372264
it seems logical to assume if one has more time from not partying in college one can invest time and energy in matters of higher priority and therefore tend to do better.

>>2372389

Like posting on 4chan, right?

Actually, learning to be sociable is very important for your transition to the real world. When you get a job, you're going to have to be good at communicating and making connections.

People who can party AND study successfully are far more well-rounded and prepared for the job market than someone who just studies all the time and retreats from social interaction to be a recluse.

It seems logical that you're just full of nerd rage.

This is why I hate going to a community college. Everyone hates it here; people are just about getting out as soon as possible, either by finishing their transfer credits or by getting a job and only using the school for insurance purposes. Parties, goodlooking women? Bah, yeah right. Honestly, I am going to be so used to this lack of women, that the first 7 or 8 I see at a Uni is going to look like a fucking 10. Gah, it's been only 3 semesters, and I am already losing my mind. 3 more and I'm out and going to a beach college. That's when life is really going to begin.

Remember robots: if you are not thinking about pussy, you are not concentrating.

>>2372500
Cont.

It's not like I'm antisocial or weird or anything either. I have no problem talking with any type of people. I think that I am destined or whatever to be in some sort of management or leadership roll in whatever company I join. I'm one of the youngest persons in every one of my class, but I am always the group leader in everything. I have had a 40 year old man take orders from me in projects. I just need to get the fuck out of this place and get into the real world.

>>2370891

Another terpfag, how about that.

What's your major, son.

these are the kinds of threads that make me depressed and feel like it's all hopeless

i realize it makes me feel bad to read it but instead of quitting i keep reading with even more vigilant attention (am i addicted to feeling sad?)

I get good Grades, not a 4.0 but good grades. I have a girl friend and a large group of friends who share my interest. I am an artist and I spend a lot of time drawing or writing, along with school work and projects. I go to parties, not every night but maybe once every few weeks. I drink, but not frequently enough to form a habit and not enough to get "wasted". I am not a virgin but I don't get laid every day, even with my girlfriend.

I feel like I have balanced my social and Academic life OP.

Any extreme in either direction, Social or recluse is a failure at life.

>>2372664
Government and Politics

>>2372718
That's a shit major, enjoy being a fat bureaucrat that will get gutted as soon as the next depression kicks in.

>>2372718

Physicsfag here so I don't know you.

I commute from Bethesda, so I can't give much advice on how to socialize on campus. Ironic, given that I grew up in College Park.

Still, you could always try latching on to someone, basically having them drag you into interesting situations.

Worse comes to worse, you could always try that Bureau thing that all the hep cats at the sock hop are talking about.

>>2372765
No, I'm more into bringing real change, not just a slogan by Obama. He's just another conservative.

I'm more into getting rid of poverty and inequality and making public transit free of charge, including MARC.

If I get elected...

>>2372718

Do they make you take any Economics?

>>2372875
Sadly yes, I got a D in the first semester I took it, and a C the second time around because it was under a different professor.

I hated ECON 200.

>>2372956

Did you have Strazheim (sp?) either time?

>>2373024
In the second time I took it, yes.

Probably the reason why is because of the PowerPoints he uses in his lectures.

>>2371732
Stop being naive. If you really believe all those stereotypes just because and don't party or hang out with non-losers, I pity you. Come on, photography and anime club? Seriously? I club about once every 2 weeks and I'm doing fine in college. Enjoy being a loser.

If you're so smart why aren't you in a better college? I think you're doing shittily both academically and socially. Enjoy being a loser. Typing about your fantasy life online just makes you look more pathetic.

>>2372718
HAHA OH WOW

That's one of the careers where you need the most contacts and friends to be successful or even get a job. How could a "recluse" like you decide that a career that mostly involves contacts and networking was a good choice?

>>2370891
The best way to fix your problem (whatever the fuck it is) is answer and mull over these questions:

1. Am I happy or sad?
2. What is the reason behind my happiness or sadness?
3. What is the MEANING behind my happiness or sadness?
4. Should I change what I'm doing after I've answered these three previous questions?
5. Am I capable (hard question) of changing?

>>2374281
Depends on where he wants to work. You can get a job at plenty of government agencies and departments without knowing a soul. If you're qualified, that is.

>>2372853
Obama's "just another conservative"? You're a Government major? You don't have a chance in hell, bud.

>>2372853
holy fuck you are stupid....

>>2371783
>>2371783
>>2371783

Holy fuck, same here. I'd probably do better in school if I could cast this boulder of having a social life off my shoulders rather than trying to replace it with internet forums.

>>2374317
>epends on where he wants to work. You can get a job at plenty of government agencies and departments without knowing a soul. If you're qualified, that is.
Nope, they *will* give priority to other qualified people that also happen to be part of the campaign team or have more contacts that him. That's how the world work.

Government major with no relations whatsoever?
The best he can aim for is some shitty bureaucratic government job answering the phone. Good luck.

>>2374374
>>2374327
holyfuckmind

OP is socially backwards and an idiot.

Hey OP go to a rave, do e, and walk up to some hot chick and tell her she is cute. Shit works.

OP, you know in Genshiken, when they go out for food and drink together? That's the beginning of a social life.

>>2374400
This is true, but most people don't have any contacts within major government agencies right after college, anyway. That's where professorial recommendations go a long way.

However, OP was actually talking about RUNNING FOR OFFICE. Totally different. And he doesn't know a soul. There's no way in fuck he'll even be able to set up a campaign committee, let alone launch a campaign. Being a tard who thinks Obama's "another conservative" (implying he likes neither Obama or conservatives) leaves him in the unenviable position of discounting major party support.

So yeah, he'll be licking envelopes for $10/hr after college.

I have no friends. I am physically isolated where I live (at home); buses rarely come and stop after a certain hour, but I still manage to get to school and back. I also have little spending money so making "expeditions" into the world outside my home means I have to bring a lunch or go without food. In the frigid it's literally a bitch just to go outside, and there's nothing to do or see for miles, not even a grocery store. It's just cemeteries and parks. I live at home because it doesn't cost me anything and it's actually a nice house and I like my possessions here, but it's obviously not enough.

You can guess where my social life is at. What do I do?

What. Going to house parties and getting drunk isn't the only way to have a social life. As long as you go out, have friends, and enjoy other peoples company, you have a social life. I'd say hanging out at a book club or at a cafe with friends is a far more cultured and healthy social life than being a prat at a party, where you dont actually have a chance to talk that much.

In the long run I think your approach is better if anything. In the adult world you need to be able to socialise outside of retarded immature parties.

That said I think you should still go to a few parties to see if you like em. Its best to try everything when at uni.

>>2370891
>>2370898
If you want friends, go out and make friends. Stop making excuses, it's not hard. A social life is hanging out with people of similar interests, that's it.

If you don't want friends, don't worry about it, you don't need people to validate your existence, some prefer being alone and the freedom that comes with it. Of course you may have to do some social networking for your career, but that's more formal communication than it is informal, so you should be able to handle it.

I do the exact same thing. There used to be time, but now I just don't really like social things.

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK

comment is so original idpshit

>>2374642
Has anyone any advice on career-cultivating social stuff?

Hay, OP, what's your lQ?

>>2372853
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA PUBLIC TRANSIT FREE OF CHARGE? MTA (NY) MOTHERFUCKER HAVE YOU HEARD OF IT?

HURR MAKING FRENZ IZ EAZY HURRR.

If it was so easy, we would'nt have a thread about it every other hour faggot. so you mean to tell me if I goto campus right now, and sit down at a table relative to my intrests, I won't get the cold shoulder? Please. the crack babies of the 80's are so clique oriented/self absorbed that the only time they pull their heads out of their asses is to talk shit about others and booze it up with other shit dicks.

>>2370891
better than mine, I walk around in my city park and hang out with highschool girls.

>>2375162
>the crack babies of the 80's are so clique oriented/self absorbed that the only time they pull their heads out of their asses is to talk shit about others and booze it up with other shit dicks.
You are not going to make friends with that attitude, you dumb bitter virgin. You have to *want* friends first, then maybe you can actually get them by taking up a hobby that involves some sort of social interaction.

I'm agorafobic and only leave my house to buy sliced bread and attend academic art music concerts. Quit being a fag, OP.

>>2375221

And how the fuck do you think people become such "bitter vrigins"?
I get pushed out of every group I join. Every fucking single one.
Well, that's not really true. Sometimes the group lacks strong-willed members that do the pushing out and eventually the group just crumbles.

>>2375221
I dunno, man. A good 90% of female conversations i overhear are indeed talking shit about other people.

wait OP you got a D and a C in econ200 thats probably the easiest class i have taken at MD, i thought you said you were smart

>>2374452
I actually still support Democrats, only ones who are truly Democrats, (no DINOs (Democrat In Name Only)). Democrats who are actually liberal for a change, other than "Republican-lite" candidates (see: Bill Clinton)

What I really meant as "Obama is just another conservative", is that Obama is just another conservative in disguise: Even though he once supported universal, single payer national health care and immediate withdrawal from Iraq started going center-left then moderate in those positions. Right now he's more into private insurance-funded universal health care and a phased withdrawal from Iraq by 2010-2011.

2375162 here: a few things

1: I have NO urge to put my fucking self-respect on the line to climb some pussy-ass social ladder. I'm pretty comfortable in my own intrests to keep myself entertained for the most part.

2. Every "friend" I've ever had has stabbed me in the back. EVERY SINGLE ONE. This one armeaniean (who gives a shit how you spell it the faggot was a disgrace anyway) queer had the nerve to side with his gf's platonic friends in saying I stole brownies from their oven. FUCKING BROWNIES. His name is adam kirkorian 2488771142. So I reserve the fucking right to be jaded to the point that the only human interaction I require (outside of close family) is someone to be around when I need something. And even then, I hate asking for anything from anyone.

3: yes I am a virgin, and honestly I don't give a fuck. Oddly enough, these dumb hoes seem to be attracted to this, and I play on it so whatev.

People who feel sorry for themselves for not having a social life sicken me.
Especially if they try to find psychological and/or psychiatrical reasons for it.
Such people generally don't want a social life, as much as wanting to be happy, which they think comes out of a social life.
Yeah, a once-a-week Saturday night piss-out is gonna make a startling difference to your life...sure.

>>2375521
>2. Every "friend" I've ever had has stabbed me in the back. EVERY SINGLE ONE. This one armeaniean (who gives a shit how you spell it the faggot was a disgrace anyway) queer had the nerve to side with his gf's platonic friends in saying I stole brownies from their oven. FUCKING BROWNIES. His name is adam kirkorian 2488771142. So I reserve the fucking right to be jaded to the point that the only human interaction I require (outside of close family) is someone to be around when I need something. And even then, I hate asking for anything from anyone.

Wow, butthurt much? Your post has made me feel a lot better about myself. Thanks.

>>2375289

>>2372787 here

I found Econ 200 easy as hell, but that's partially because I'm just good with multiple choice tests; unless they ask about a specific person or event I can usually figure out what they want, even if I've never heard of it before.

Some people are plenty smart, but don't have that intuition. Some people also suck at math horribly, so that even the Algebra 1 stuff from Econ 200 is difficult.

Hey, OP, do you fear Midwesterners?

>>2377842
No, why you ask?

m00tblox

>>2370891
by the way OP, you seem to rationalize your ineptitude by blaming stuff on others. Being picked on didn't make you a pussy, you were picked on BECAUSE you were a pussy. Man up and move on.

>>2376129
social life = happiness

fact