I am the mom of a 13 year old girl who isn't out yet, but she has dropped me so many hints, is an active member of the lgtb club at her school, etc. My question is this:what is your advice for the parent of someone who is quite young, but is probably gay? How can I be a good parent to her? Are there any special things I should know?
>>20956 (OP)>mom of a 13 year old girl>4chan
Oh god, I thought you were going to say your daugher was trans or something mental. Don't worry, just let her know you'll treat her the same even if she doesn't want the D.
Being only 13, I'd give her time to either come out on her own, or at least wait until she's older and you might be able to drop hints of your own that you know. Either way, 99% sure you should wait for her to come out herself, on her own terms.
Teach her that it is not always ok to succumb to your sexual desires and that she needs to understand that she is expected to marry a male some day and have children with him. Hopefully she will grow out of it by the time shes out of high school.
>>20982lol>>20956 (OP)The best thing you can do for her is to not turn her away. Don't assume this is just some "phase" she's going through. Most importantly is to not drag her out of the closet. When she's ready to tell you, she will.And think of it this way: If and when she does tell you... it's because she loves you and trusts you. It's a hard fucking thing to tell anyone these days.
>Mom of 13 year old girlLel troll. But in any case, asking for parental advice from 4chan is like going to a mental hospital for psychiatric advice.
>>21038>>>/wbc/
>Let kid come to you on her own time>Carry on as normalThe first is very important as going to her will probably make her panic, deny it, and distance her from you.
There's a guy named John Schwartz who recently wrote a book called "Oddly Normal," about raising a gay kid, it's supposed to be really fantastic.http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/11/books/review/oddly-normal-by-john-schwartz.html?_r=0
Make it clear that you'll always love her no matter what choices she makes and say that regardless of who it is, you can bring them around to the house.But don't do it in a way that seems condescending and if she does come out to her, don't make too big a deal out of it, but don't belittle it either (saying 'I don't see why you couldn't tell me, etc) because she probably felt like she needed to gather courage to say that.
actually serious:tell her everyday that you love her and will no matter who she chooses to be or grows to be. It is really easy to forget that our parents love us, even in a days time. DO NOT become obsessed with gay-pride stuff, could be your daughter just wants to be gay without being political, and that is her right too. But at the same time, support anything political or "out" that she wants to do.
>>21018Thanks. That is exactly what I needed to hear. I have been wanting her to know I support her fully, but I have not wanted to "force her hand". I am mostly just looking for advice about things NOT to do...I don't want to hurt her or make her feel weird. But I want her to know I know and that it is really ok.
Don't "drop hints" just let her know that you support all gay people. I realize you might want to sort of coerce her into coming out to you but she needs to get comfortable with herself before shell be comfortable with you
>>21136Thank you. I will get that book.
>13 year old>lesbian>lgbt club for kids of this age>in schools8/10, would rage again.
Is it really that surprising when people over 30 or with kids post on 4chan? I thought it was pretty common on some of the other boards, like /ck/ and /adv/.
Make it clear that you'll always love her unless the choices she makes are gay and say that regardless of who it is, you can not bring them around to the house.But do it in a way that seems condescending and if she does come out to her,make too big a deal out of it, and belittle it too (saying 'I don't see why you can't just be normal) because she probably felt like she needed to gather courage to say that.
molest her.
When she comes out: "That's great hunny, but next time Julie comes over, leave the bedroom door open, cause them's the rules.
