>let the one get away
>constant internal struggle
>everything is possible: there must be some sort of way or plan to possibly win her back or at least be friends with her
>reality: dont do anything, let sleeping dogs lie, youre just a creepy, stalker beta orbiter in reality

>>12731179
How long ago did you let her go?

>>12731193
>year and a half ago
>thought I was treating her right at the time but I realize now I was a complete asshole, immaturity being the main cause of this
>ended up driving her to ex
>pushed her away even more by obsessing over it
>ended up dating her best friend, she didnt seem spiteful though, saw her at some parties and she was friendly
>we just broke up a few months ago
>realize now I completely fucked myself over and I blew my chance at her all that time ago

I'm going to see her for the first time in 6+ months this friday, because I'm running a stand for all uni students and literally everyone has to come for required papers.

>be with GF for almost a year now
>find her unatractive
>not sure if with her because i dint want to be alone before or i am shallow
what do
im 26 and employed and have been told im not a bad looking guy.

>>12731212
So you're about early-mid 20's then and fawning over her still because you let her go and realised what an ass you were to her. Now, there must have been good and bad moments, but in the end you drove her away.

The reason you're hooked on her still is because of the recent break up between you too. You let her go, and now that you did, you realised you never wanted to, but screwed up and now you're here.

You needed more time to mature as it appears, and I believe you still do. What you need to do my bro, is alpha it up. As you said before, you're stalking her and being all creepy. You need to 1) stop that right away. 2) work hard in your uni. Become the life of the party. Be able to stand up, talk with anyone and so on. You may think this is impossible, but don't doubt yourself! You need to let this go. As the saying goes "There are other fish in the sea." If she was the one, she wouldn't have been driven away. If she was the one, she'd fight for you as you would fight for her. What YOU need to do is try to not let it get to you (I know, you can't stop thinking about her, etc etc.) But that is why I said to stop the stalking. Leave her alone.

You can either move on with your life, or maybe try for her again. Tell me right now, which you would rather?

Fighting for someone you might love a lot but let go of? (She might never want you back). Or move on, live life, and be happy with yourself. Which would you like to choose?

>>12731236

Plan and simple for you my bro. Let her go. Do it now or else you might end up being with her for longer and regret it. If you don't love her anymore, it's best to end it now, before something explodes in you later on.

>>12731261
I didnt let her go, I beta orbited when she was already in a relationship with a guy that was a serious asshole. Like I'm trying to be down to earth here with saying that everyone hated him, and he was known for having alot of mental problems with medication. She lied and said they were broken up and we went out for a bit, but then she told me they never really broke up. She chose him over me and it was basically the end.

I've matured alot now and I do realize why she went back to him, and that I should have just stayed her friend. I'm not really stalking her, I dont go on her profile on anything, I just listen to some sad music sometimes and look through old pictures of us. Right now I'm thinking the worst that can happen is that she doesnt take my friendliness this friday well, and things remain the same, where I'll be perfectly content being alone and focusing on uni like you said, or I could end up the happiest man alive

I'm a terribly jealous girlfriend, like 75% of the time.
I don't want to be that girlfriend but I usually turn into this total bitch and hate myself because I can't hold in the negative feels forever. We've talked about my jealousy several times, the talks help for a while but then I'm back to being paranoid and a bitch. Help?

>be teen
>love enjoying new things and fun things
>find pot
>like it very much and do it pretty often
>mom catches me and makes me feel like shit for doing it even though dad has been doing it for 35 years
>havent done it since i got caught
>friends do it often
>sometimes just stay in because all my friends are doing it
>mom always seem to know when i smoke pot


tl;dr mom catches me smoking pot and i like it but cant do it

>>12731291
you can do it, you just need to be able to make your mom ok with it, first off, if you are a scholar and get all your ducks in a row thats most important. secondly you need to talk to her about it, even if it may seem difficult. just express how it makes things easier for you socially.

>>12731287
She may not even be worth it.

>>12731287
I feel for you bro. It's never cool when a girl lies to you about a break up and pulls the switcharoo on you. Maybe she was playing with you and trying to make him jealous? I do not know all the details, but this could be a possibility, but also not the truth.

For what you have given me, I say you just lust for her dude. You want her, but once you had her, you didn't know what to do with her. It's a very common thing, but very hurtful as well.

When you meet her Friday:
1) Don't talking about your past relationship with her.
2) Don't talk about her boyfriend too much or at all, it'll only bring up the worst in you and you may lose your friend chance with her.
3) DO NOT BEG OR SAY YOU LOVE HER! This will definitely and for sure ruin your time with her.
4) Get this over with. Be friends. And move on.

I can't stress it enough, but there ARE other women out there my friend. You definitely have a lot of potential fro happiness. Like I said, continue your uni. Don't let a lot get in your way. Make a lot of friends. Go out a lot. Stop stalking and try not to go through those images, if anything delete them, they are holding you back man. No one is fine alone, you'll resent it, so what should you do? Better yourself. Do what you LOVE to do and continue it, and I mean hobbies, hanging with the guys, party, meet other women, and try not to be shy! Women LOVE confidence!

So, goodluck on your meet up on Friday. Move on brother and become a great man! You have lots of potential. Good luck in uni and lastly, don't feel bad for making a move on women! The worse you can get is a rejection! But if you pass it off and keep on going with all your confidence, man you'll go far! I hope I've helped you. Good luck bro~

>we love each other
>shes insecure, had bad relationships
>finally shes trying, but sometimes she breaks down
>at times, its hard to be with her
>shes perfect, what do i do?
i know it could work.. but i hate myself too, how do i fix both at the same time?

I fapped to porn tonight after staying away from it for nearly two months. I feel like I've failed myself.

>>12731289
I find that paranoid women turn me on. Are you also materialistic? I'm not even kidding. Just find someone who accepts you for who you are. That's probably easier said than done...

>>12731339
>I feel like I've failed myself.
thats because you have, remember this feeling

>>12731339
It's natural to relapse, just get back on schedule.
I've only managed a week! Hahah. How did you do it for two months?

>>12731328
I already know all those 4 points, I was basically thinking the train scene from 500 days of summer.

I still dont see how Im stalking her, but I guess its best not to obsess. I think I'm just going to try to be friendly this friday, and hope for the best. Thanks anon(s)

>>12731289
Jealousy is a good an bad thing.

Good: It shows that you don't want anyone else having your partner. You care a lot about them. etc.

Bad: Paranoia. Over-thinking. Constant contemplation about them cheating and the list goes on.

I am not saying to stop being who you are, for your jealousy is just fine, but learning to control it a bit; trying not to explode on the smallest of things. You talk to your partner about your jealousy, which is a good thing.

>Don't be constantly doubting them
>Lower your negative thinking about the bad outcomes and try to remember the good, and what you will do with them soon/in the future
>Bitching about it is fine, but not to him, this might anger him. Maybe if you have a girl-friend who you can chat to about it would help. (Be careful about this. If you want to rant, ensure she's not pressuring you into HER ideals, and you're just venting it out.)
>Jealous is ok, but too much jealousy seems like you're needy and this may drive off your partner a bit.

Anything else?

>>12731353
I used Blocksite to block all the porn sites I could think of. I relapsed tonight because I found some porn on Tumblr and I kind of forgot about my personal commitment to staying away from porn.

>>12731291
I'm not an addict, but I've smoked pot before. I liked it, but never got into it. I do it on and off again with buddies of mine, but that's that.

As for you my bro, as long as you got your shit in line, it's not wrong to do it. It's like drinking a bit. As long as you know how to control yourself, you will do fine. Just make sure you don't let the addiction take you over. You may like it, but limit yourself to it. Don't get too deep into it where you can't quit when you need too. Lot's of people live successful lives doing stuff like that on and off, but letting it become a habit will be your downfall.

>"My friends do it often"

So? Doesn't mean you have to go out with them and do it. I've turned down my friends tons of times, because that's how I roll. Don't let them pressure you into it, no matter how much you like it!

Hope this helps.

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> I failed at everything in life
> I'm working a shitty job and poor
> I can't even face my family out of shame
> whatever, they suck anyway
> dick disease with no known cure
> can't work out, getting fat
> relationship is strained
> life is crumbling
> more suicidal every day
> alcoholic because it keeps my hands off the knife

Yes, I'm sure I've posted these before but I generally come here only when drunk so who knows how many times.

Cheers! (Pic related)

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I feel like I can't face my own parents. I feel like after years of being a dumbshit and never keeping jobs and being berated that there's a part of me that is genuinely is afraid of them, but a part of me feels like if I could face them and tell them straight up that I am the person in control of my life I'd be ok, but I can't find the nerve to do it.

>>12731392
>dick disease with no known cure

That sounds awful. What sort of disease?

>>12731291
Do it anyway. As long as your life is in control and you don't get caught legally, pot is fine.

Im still in love my ex that dumped me a month ago after dating her for over a year. I was doing well (as well as could be expected) but broke down and ended up calling her last night. We caught up and had a really good conversation, and 10 minutes afterwards she texted me saying something like "it was really nice talking to you." The texting conversation went on for another hour.

Part of me feels great having talked to her and everything, but another part makes me miss her even more. I didnt noob out and blab that to her, even though i really, really wanted to.

Dang... Im still so in to her...

>>12731401
Just do it.
Do you love your life more than their lives or not?

>>12731333
Bro, you need to be more confident in yourself. You need to be the positive one. Remember! SHE IS WITH YOU! That should always bring a smile to your face, and feel awesome! Do your best for her! Make sure she's never down (too much at least) Yes, it will work out, just stay positive dude! She needs a positive person in her life right now, and you need to be that person right now. It may get tough, but think to yourself "Is she worth it?" Yes she is bro. GOODLUCK!

>>12731339
Nothing wrong with fapping dude. Unleash your chronic. Them just learn to ease it a bit, but don't take it out of your life completely.

life story incoming, friends.

>be 13yo boy
>start 3 year relationship in HS(girl 1)
>love girl, only one or two speedbumps along the way
>traded virginities
>best friends
>I'm busy all the time with other shit, sports, EC activities left right and center
>She doesn't hardly do shit besides school
>Basically i'm her only close friend who is around and not a controlling bitch

fastforward
>Summer before senior year
>get job
>even less time for her
>eventually she tells me she isn't happy and leaves me
heart fucking destroyed
>cry all night
>next day try to forget
>ignore the problem, pretend i'm okay, eventually I'm living that lie without realizing it
fast forward another year

>be 17
>be a fucking asshole flirt who leads girls on all the fucking time, hate myself for it but I continue to do it(always did)
>Harmless flirting with a girl becomes a little less harmless, some implications that I liked her (girl 2)
>she has mutual friends tell me to ask her out in a super obvious manner
>either date girl I don't like, or friends think I'm an asshole for leading her on(she doesn't usually get BFs)
>we go to prom as friends
>on drive to party I apologze for leading her on, say it feels right(to make her feel better) but I don't want romantic ties back home when I go to uni(instead of breaking her heart)
>She understands
>20 min later, outside friend's house, getting pillows and shit(overnight, no alcohol/drugs sort of deal) from car
>"Anon, if it feels right, then why don't we try?"
fucking wording killing me
>thinking with penis
>make sure she knows it'll probably end when I go to uni(she probably thought she could change my mind), and kiss her thinking, oh, it's only a few months(mistake # six million)

>relationship advances kinda fast
>6th or 7th time just hanging out we fuck
>don't enjoy sex because no love(inb4 you're a faggot)
>realize I still had thoughts and feelings for girl 1 that I never sorted out when we broke up
char limit, will continue

>>12731421
I did still fap during the last two months. It's porn I'm trying to abstain from.

Talking to this wife who is unhappy with her husband right now, she wants the D. Apparently dude is violent and she's scared of him though. On one hand I want to fuck her like no tomorrow, milf fetish and she's hot. On the other I dont want to put her in a situation where she gets the shit beaten out of her for jumping on my cock.

>>12731421
its porn thats the problem obviously..

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>>12731401
I love my life. I made the decision that I want to be a better person. I'm happier working than being in school. I want to get certified to do CNC and make some decent money. I want to move out and be independent. I want to be able to be self reliant.

What honestly kills my confidence is what they can take from me. I live at home, and they've threatened before to throw me out. They technically own my cell, my car, a lot of my essentials. If they stripped me of home and the things I need to maintain a job, I'd be kinda fucked.

But even in my mind I think to myself if they took that away, I have other family. Two uncles and aunts who live within miles of me and would let me stay. I could get a decent car if I had the job. I could eventually be back on the right path.

Dude, the biggest fucking mistake I made was dropping out of school and LYING about it to delay some inevitable nuclear explosion of drama. It's getting to that time again where i'm out of excuses. I can't buy more time. If I can't talk to them and just attempt to break past the glass ceiling in the next month I dunno what the fuck will happen.

>>12731392

Never too late to change your life around. You need to man up, enjoy your life, and getting off the alcoholism. You can fix your problems (aside from your dick disease, which hopefully they do someday for you), get up. Commit yourself into getting better, and man up.

Man up. Either change your life or end your life. It takes a lot to kill oneself, but it takes a lot more to change your life. What do you value more? What would you like to get out of the ONE life you have on this earth. Better hop too it bro.

>>12731475
You make it sound so easy

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>>12731405
Peyronies

I've been in pain 24/7 for months. The painkillers only dull the pain so I've been in pain and high 24/7 for over a month. I can't get shit done because I'm either too high or in too much pain ot both.

The physical pain is nothing compared to the psychological damage arising from it.

Unless it spontaneously heals, my dick will become smaller and more distorted until surgery is necessary. I've already lost over two inches and I have to go through a complex ritual to get an erection then hope I don't lose it.

And then, I have to manage my anxiety because I can telk that I can't go deep enough to satisfy her anymore.

So ya, I can't even feel like a man anymore...

But drinking helps me laugh at my own misery
> goodbye liver

>>12731401
Dude, your parents are there for you, but you need to man up and confront them. The longer you hide away, the more they'll lose sight of you until all is diminished. Better make your move soon.

>>12731479
it is

>>12731485
It's easy to stop being an alcoholic?
It's easy for anon to get rid of the dick disease there is no cure for?
It's easy to just matriculate into wealth out of poverty?

>>12731423
cont.
>distort and use unsorted feelings to convince girl 2 that a relationship is not good for me right now
>she is upset, but is again understanding

fastforward 1.5mo

>in musical(inb4 faggot)
>girl to guy ratio there: 3.5:1
>one girl ( girl 3 ) that I like, but she's 19, and has made comments to the effect of "if you were older"
>she has kind of sent signals I think, I'm bad with that shit when it isn't completely fucking obvious, also not sure if just friending

>Considering asking her to go do something with me after rehearsal tomorrow
>"Hey, you hungry" as we're walking out
>expecting "no"/"not really", if yes then ignore next line
>"Me neither, wanna go get something to eat?" then suggest ice cream or shakes or some shit

>on Yes: pay for her and be courteous as if it's a date, without actually saying it is one, maybe letting it be more blatant depending on her reactions
>on No: act as if it was just a friendly gesture, maybe invite a guy friend immediately after in front of her; friendship saved?

Reservations: 1. If I do date, and shit becomes somewhat public, girl 2 could easily find out and that's just inviting her to think I was an asshole (as I would be dating someone literally three weeks before going to uni, and possibly breaking her heart, since dating would be a clear show of being over girl 1 breakup), and get many others to think I'm an asshole ( I realize I am an asshole, I just don't want to seem as one publicly )

2. If "on No" backup plan doesn't work, then current friendship could be ruined(not optimal)

I do have feelings for this girl(3), and I don't want to let this opportunity pass me by.....

any thoughts /adv/?

also this whole thing s probably all over the fucking place, sorry.
>inb4 overthinking

>>12731484
How do you know they are there for him? There are some intentionally malicious parents out there

>>12731479

Nope. The words make it sound easy. It's very difficult for both.

You contemplate suicide everyday, yet come on here hoping to cheer up and find a reason to live. Give yourself a reason to live. You need to think about what YOU want to become in this world. It's either act on it now, or you're just slowly gonna die anyway. The truth hurts, but it's either get working on changing your life, or get working on ending it.

I'm no hero, nor want to be. But I know it takes a hell of a lot of effort for someone to kill themselves.

>You got one life.
>You better change now, or you never will
>Get off here and get off the Alcohol
>Stop using excuses and get to actually working on your shit
>The truth hurts, but it's a wake-up slap to the face

>>12731428
Block sites. Read a book. Get into a hobby. Lots of stuff to do. It's all mindset bro.

>>12731458
Porn really is the problem. When I looked at porn in the first time in two months tonight, I my head felt all funny, a bit like I was drugged or something. I don't really know what this sensation in my head was, but it can't be good for me in the long-term.

>>12731480
Jesus Christ. I can't really give any advice or anything that will help you, but I hope things work out for you somehow.

>>12731515
i stopped about a month and a bit ago, haven't really felt tempted at all so far.. already felt a huge increase in my libido and ability to hold an erection. helps that I have a qt3.14 gf too.

>>12731432
If you hook up with her:
>She may get beaten
>You may get hunted down

If you want her to be with you, let her break it off with her husband first. If she doesn't want to, maybe fuck her and dip. If her life is in shambles already, don't make things worse, or ensure you don't get caught. S'all up to you.

>>12731480
I heard of this thing called the fastsize extender. It's on webmd and they said it's worked for some people.

>>12731509
I don't, but being a pussy as to not confront them, won't change anything.

>>12731514
I do block sites and stuff. It's only tonight where I fucked up. Hopefully this won't happen again.

>>12731561
Hopefully not. Keep a positive mind and try to recall tonight as a way to prevent you from doing so again in the future.

>be computer guy
>no good friends
>school semester hasn't started
>no way of meeting new people

At this point I'm pretty sure I'm un-salvageable.

>>12731423
>>12731506
anyone? or should I own thread?

>>12731574
The problem, for me at least, is that it's tl;dr.

From an outside view I have an amazing boyfriend. He's always really supportive and encouraging. He's great at biting the bullet and going to my families functions and being really charming. He brings me small gifts all the time and takes me places. We have a ton of common interests. The list goes on and on. The problem is I worry he's an emotional black hole. I don't know that he's capable of loving someone let alone me. I just don't feel connected to him the way I think I should be. I have this fear I'm dating a high functioning psychopath and I'm his attempt at being a normal human being.

>>12731549
I meant to reply to you with >>12731462
Not sure if you saw it.

And my parents aren't malicious, my relationship with them has just degenerated a lot over the years.

Do most guys find scars from cutting disgusting and horrible?

>>12731589
I don't.
Where are they?

>>12731589
I'd find it sad more than anything, and be a bit of a concern that a girl is mentally unstable. Had my share of unstable women and hopefully will never do it again.

>>12731570
Try to get out more. Go to a cafe often, or maybe a public place. Strike up a conversation with a random girl (hopefully your age...Unless your like that), you obviously have too much attachment to your computer. I don't really know anymore details about you. But when you start your semester, make sure you don't shy away and try to strike up conversations with other classmates. You'd be amazed when sitting near someone and speaking small-talk gets you to know one another better and form a nice bond.

>>12731592
A few right above my knees, my inner thighs, my sides, my ribs, and three on my left forearm.

>>12731530
I don't have a girlfriend, but I understand why your sex drive is improving like that. Basically your mind rely need crazy porn stuff to get off anymore, just intimacy with your girlfriend. Part of the reason why I quit porn is so that if and when I'll get a girlfriend in the future, I'll have a healthy sex drive and I'll be able to satisfy her.

>>12731589
i wouldnt date someone like you because you are fucked in the head, not because of marks on your skin

>>12731506
Why did you give your whole life story? It has nothing to do with your current situation.

>>12731603
Yeah no, there's nothing wrong with that. Just as long as you don't have any cutting tendencies anymore and as long as you are fairly stable mentally. I actually find it kinda cute actually.

>>12731589
I do not find scars disgusting or horrible but if I knew a chick was cutting or had I wouldn't want to go near her because shes probably crazy as fuck.

>>12731609
Well the marks on my skin are a tip off of how fucked I am in the head, which goes back to my earlier question. But anyone who sees me naked will know by then if I'm fucked up or not.

>>12731567
Thanks, I'll try to. What I did tonight really wasn't worth it, and I'll bear that in mind the next time I'm tempted.

>>12731610
because girl 1 relationship was necessary to fully understand how I was able to painlessly leave girl 2, which was necessary to fully understand my reservations with going for girl 3.

>>12731632
Crazy or depressed? Or do you consider those to be the same?

>>12731589
I would find it a matter of concern, but if you're not habitually self-harming and you are or have been in treatment, it wouldn't become a problem between us.

If you didn't want to make positive change or to stop self-harming I'd probably run like fuck because I've had way too many unhealthy friendships and relationships with mentally unstable people who refused treatment and I'm never going through that again.

>>12731638
as long as you aren't still cutting im sure you will be able to find someone, that kind of past would just be a huge red flag for me.. if you havent stopped you need to deal with your own issues first and not be trying to get guys

Every friend I've gotten close to either abandoned me or abused the living fuck out of me.

>tfw you let yourself be treated poorly for years because you were afraid of being alone
>tfw it blows up in your face every time you try to open up to someone again
>tfw you're now questioning the motives of every single person that looks at or talks to you

I want to disappear. I'm becoming scared of people. I've been abused in every sense.

I'm having so much trouble motivating myself, too. I'm supposed to be finding a new job, getting my own place. I keep saying I'll go to the gym, but I never do. All I keep coming back to is "I'm not good enough, and I never will be, so why try?"

>>12731598
Well, I'm not adjusted to going out very much simply because I do most of my own hobbies on the computer. I work from home, I have my music equipment here, and usually going out involves spending money on food and gas, and I like to cook my own food and avoid overspending on gas.

I'll try to be more social when in school, but it's hard to be social in the summer when there's nowhere to go.

>>12731579

Obviously you're over-thinking things. You think he's too perfect for you and trying to find something that's wrong with him and his feelings. How about you talk to him and see how he feels, don't beat around the bush, and confront him straight up about his feelings for you, others, and so forth.

>"I just don't feel connected to him the way I think I should be."

You're over-thinking this. Love the man like how you do. If you're happy with him and love him a lot, don't doubt yourself. Don't think you should let him go, and love him for who he is.

Assuming he's a psychopath is kinda far-fetched don't you think? That's how he his, you should accept him as he is, he sounds like a great caring person. It's ok to be cautious, but over-thinking things and doubting will just make things worse for you.

Anything else?

Things just aren't working out at my new job. Nobody likes me there, and my boss called me in today and told me im not doing a good job, even though i do everything the way i was taught and push myself as hard as possible.

I have no one to confide in. I can't open up to anyone, hence why im here. So I've kept this along with a lot of shit bottled in.

A few months back my girl left me and started banging one of my good friends. Things haven't been the same between me and my friend since, but i can't even bring it up to him.

life seems pretty pointless right now. Im quickly running out of reasons to live. I've been shit at any job I've ever held, i can't relate to anyone or trust anyone, i can't find a decent girl, and i have no vent for my thoughts, beside this website.

Fuck

>>12731475
I quit smoking and am hiding the suicidal thoughts from my fiancee >implying she still wants to marry me; she's expressed doubts
I also keep trying to find a better job but it's fucking brutal and can't find anything better

>>12731510
You responded to someone else.

I will say, though, that I do try. I keep looking for a better job and working on my music. Unfortunately, the same voice that tells me to kill myself and that my fiancee doesn't want my tiny dick also tells me that my music is shit and that my fiancee is going to leave me for or cheat on me with someone whose dick works and has money. And that voicr is louder and smarter than I am.

Also, /adv/ is the place I come when my day is over and I'm having somr drinks to celebrate the fact that I didn't kill myself and reward myself for suppressing the screams of agonizing pain so as not to make a scene. I come here because I'm drunk and won't remember this in the morning.

>>12731652
Depression doesn't equal crazy for me but being willing to mutilate yourself totally qualifies.

>>12731539
Traction devices can lead to Peyronies and usually make it worse for guys who already have it.

Thanks anyway

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>>12731666
Forgot my fairly-related pic.

>>12731584
Sorry, I didn't see this.

You should start getting things in motion. You sound like you're motivated and confident. GOOD! Keep that mindset, it's the perfect thing to have to keep on going to make things happen!

You can either tell your parents you plan now, and follow through with it. Or tell them a bit later on and begin your plan! Good luck to you man, and stay motivated!

>>12731691
Ok. But I saw it on webmd. They'd tested it on a couple of guys, and it had worked a bit.

>>12731589
They're not really appealing, but it's better that you have them and that you're alive than being dead and having no one to care for you anymore.

There must be a reason why I only engage in abusive/stupid relationships and never get to have a proper relationship with a normal woman...

>>12731666
People using you is always something bad, and the impact has affected you badly.

You need to remember what happened to you in your past, but not let it affect you like this as of now. You've been hurt, but don't think everyone is like that.

You've developed a poor mindset on others. What you need to do is be yourself. You like to be nice, helpful, kind and so forth. But before shit like that happens, know when to stop. But that doesn't mean ignoring everyone and thinking everyone is evil and going to use you.

Disappearing won't do you any good. You can get over your fears, you just need to get out there again. Stay positive and stay yourself bro. Life will throw you nice things, but you gotta go out there and work for it!

>>12731671
You work from home, but you need to organize your time accordingly. You may work at home and earn your money like that, but you're not working 24/7, whenever you have time, go out and have fun!

You've limited yourself as to what YOU need to live. You have a good set up as of right now, just work, eat and do what you like. But, if you wanna go out.

You probably have some friends online, arrange something with them? Go out randomly to a fun place, anywhere, who cares! Just go out and have fun! A bar, a party, a cafe, whatever! If you want to find a girl, maybe do some online dating, you could have fun with that! There are a lot of options! Don't just sit around and expect things to change magically. You need to go on out there and have fun~

>24
>college graduate with shitty degree (communication)
>live with parents
>younger brother just moved out so I look even worse by comparison
>depression
>student loan debt
>no motivation or any idea what the fuck to do

I never used to be like this. I remember my parents never used to worry about me. I used to be an honors student, friends, skinny, all that stuff. Things went downhill and now they have this son who just sits in his room all day.

I was seriously thinking of killing myself today. I've been thinking of it for the longest time and I got seriously close today. I'm basically a waste of space. I miss what I used to be and I want to go back to that so bad.

I don't know where to go from here.

I'm off to university in a little more than a week and I hadn't done shit about the one girl i was interested in.

I don't even know if she likes me or anything

I'm in my first relationship ever and still in school. Boyfriend's older and all his friends are married or getting married and he's got a good job. I'm worried he sees me as wife tier. I can't imagine marrying the first guy I've ever been with. I have this feat one day he'll propose and I'll say no and crush him or say yes and regret it.

>>12731784
probably better than me who's falling in love with a girl a month before I have to move away..

>>12731674
Jobs come and go. Is there a reason why nobody likes you there?

Maybe your girl leaving you has affected your work progress and you've failed to notice?

Just like jobs, women come and go man. If she's willing to leave you just to bang your bro, man she's not the one for you! You can get a better girl! There are LOTS OUT THERE! Literally, lots!

You still talk to him? Wow, ballsy, but you don't say shit? Did she leave you before or after hooking up with him? If she hooked up with him while with you, welp, your friend is an asshole sir. I'd get him and your ex out of your life ASAP. For that shit is gonna bring you down. If he hooked up with her after she left you, it's not his fault. Maybe he liked her from before? If she left you then hooked up, don't have too hard feelings on him (unless he persuaded her to be with him). Be a man, confront your friend and tell him how you feel, but get over it and tell him you're doing so!

Life isn't pointless, you're just being a downer because of the negativity that's happened to you thus far.

Be positive. Look forward in life. You can find women, you just need more confidence and stop fearing rejection and betrayal. Make more friends and move on! You've got a ton of potential in life still!

>>12731797
I mean yeah in the long run it doesn't really matter but how is it gonna be at school you know?

>>12731763
Have you considered seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist for your depression?

I hate being the person I am now. I barely have any friends, everytime I get involved in romance it blows up in my face, and I feel like I need some new clothes since my old ones feel baggy, except I don't even know where to get nice clothes.

>>12731807
what doesn't matter?

>>12731797
I sort of know this feel. I'm commuting but I'm pretty much in love with my girlfriend who'll still be in high school.

>tfw only two girls I have ever had any interest in are either lesbian or "not looking for a relationship" which may or may not be true
>tfw doing very well in school but that is offset by my freshman and sophomore years so my overall GPA is absolute shit and I therefore will be unable to get into any good grad schools
>tfw 2D waifu
>tfw shitty major that I love the fuck out of (Statistics, planning on an MS in Demography)
>tfw absolutely boring, meaningless existence
>tfw afraid to go out in public because of physical appearance
>tfw insane inferiority complex about my lack of attractiveness
>tfw only true friend lives across the country

kill me

>>12731825
the relationship I could pursue with the girl
Even a month ago would be ok but barely a week left... I don't know

>>12731832
Statistics isn't shitty. You can make like 90,000 mid career with that I believe

>>12731808

I used to in college. I just utilized the student counseling and medical services.

I don't have any insurance, so I can't afford it. My parents don't really understand it and can't afford to pay for it either. I just kind of vent on suicide hotlines when things get really bad.

>>12731679
Nice that you've stopped smoking. It's best to hide your suicidal thoughts from her, because that'll just crush her. Good call.

I know saying work hard seems pointless, but if you try for a better job and keep at it, you'll obtain one.

Oops, sorry, thought that was you. You need to abolish those voices little by little. Make personal positive notes or reminders around the house or on your phone/computer. This will help you during those times and make you smile. Small dick or not, the fact that you're doubting your bed skills is what's killing the mood for you and her as well. Doubting and assuming that she'll leave you and abandon you is never a good thought. Don't over-think things too much about that. Yes, it's tough, but try to stay positive and remember that you love this woman and she wants to marry you.

You're the one that needs to be positive. That needs to show your confidence, because this will keep her happy. This will make her believe in you and lower your thoughts of doubts.

AVOID ALCOHOL!

One major problem with people is using alcohol as an anti-depressant. Sometimes it works, but the more you indulge, the more depressed you will actually get! Try to lay off the drinking dude! Come on here sober, and you'll learn a lot more!

>>12731836
what kind of a difference does that make when I want to die every waking second because I can't be with the one I love on account of she doesn't exist ;_;

>>12731729
You'll need to expand on this more. I don't have anything to really diagnose.

The only thing I can suggest is that you look at all your past relationships from your ex's point of view. Look at how YOU'VE been acting in them all. Maybe you're the problem? As I said, I would need more information.

>>12731846
Go to a cosplay and fap? I don't know

How do I continue a relationship when I'm in college and my girlfriend is going into 11th grade? It didn't seem weird when I was senior and she was a sophomore but now it kind of does.

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>>12731859
>cosplay

>>12731763
Ouch, that sucks bro. Do you have a job by any chance? First thing you should do, is find a job, something to get some financial things going to build up!

You're parents are worrying over you?! That's nice! Not to make it sound bad, but they care about you dude. Don't think they're pitying you or something. Parents always love to see their children prevail! (aside from some, but your parents appear to be nice). I'm sure if you consult with your parents, talk to them, help them help you plan things out, they will. You need to get up and do so. They want to see you happy, living life, and able to survive on your own! So discuss it with them first of all, have them help you and motivate you, since they are your parents, they should help you out! And if they don't? Get up and do shit and prove to them, but not only them, to yourself mainly!

You can't go back to the past, but you can make your future great!

>Find a job (start saving up and getting shit rolling)
>Discuss with your parents
>Enroll in a new course?
>Go out and meet people again, make friends
>Work out and be positive! (Working out will make you're happiness increase!)

You're not a waste of space dude, but don't assume you are. Get up, get out, and make things happen!

Stay positive bro. You can make your future amazing! Keep at it!

>>12731888

This... actually made me feel better. Screencapped. Thanks, doc.

>>12731784
Be confident dude. Ask her out, say you like her and want to spend more time with her, and see where it goes! The worst is you'll get turned down, but that shouldn't stop you from trying! Rejection hurts, but at least you asked and won't regret it! You may even get with her! Goodluck bro!

Anime gave me gender dysphoria.
Kill me.

Lately, I've been afraid and because I'm afraid, I'm annoyed about being afraid and them disgusted about being annoyed and disappointed about being disgusted. I am not fit for this roller coaster and it feels like I am going crazy.

The fear comes in because I've found that I actually care for the person I am in a relationship with and have been caring for some time. It's scary to me because it means that I am in a vulnerable position. However, I don't want to stop caring.

How do I deal with this insanity. I am positively sure that it will likely send me back to the ward given enough time.

>>12731911
See a psychiatrist, I'd say. Especially since you've been to the "ward"

>>12731788
Clearly you're in a different position than he is. You're feelings are obviously at different stages, and you need to figure things out.

>"I can't imagine marrying the first guy I've ever been with."

Why? That doesn't sound so bad. Unless you want to try other men out there? If you want to flirt around more, well, bad news for ya, you better break it off. If your man is nice, and he thinks your wife material, shit, that's a fucking compliment! He obviously would love you a lot then! Enough to think "This is the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life!" That's a nice thing!

Maybe you're just not mature enough for this? Maybe you need a break?
Just because his friends are marrying, doesn't mean he will propose, but he may think about it in the future.

I don't know how long you've been together, or age gap. But, you're in two different states.

He seems like the type to settle down with.

You seem like you want to go out and have fun more.

Would you risk losing the one man you'll truly love? Would you regret it? You need to think about this a lot more!

>>12731797
Just tell her how you feel and depart. There's not much else you can do bro.

How far away are you moving?

I can't imagine anything about my life being wrong, but I just can't be happy. I have an amazing girlfriend, I have friends, I have a great body that I don't have to maintain, I don't have to study to do well at school.

Despite all this I can't get motivated to do anything, I feel devoid of passion and I find it difficult to find any emotion inside of me beside anger. I've spent the last 7 years of my life telling myself I am worthless and at this point I'm fairly thoroughly convinced that I am a toxic existence and that I'm probably better off to everyone if I were dead.

>>12731938
Is there any explanation as to why you feel this way? You should probably see a psychiatrist.

>>12731824
If you hate yourself, get to know yourself more.

Change yourself to someone you'll like better! Who do you want to become? How can you become that person you want to be? Motivate yourself for it!

You've still got friends! That's nice. Want more? Get on up and hang out a lot more! Tell your friends you wanna party or go hang out together with other people, you'll get to meet a lot of others!

Romance blowing up? That sucks, but maybe you should look back and reflect on why they do. Make yourself better and prepare for the next love!

I've noticed my clothing style changed a lot recently, I'm more of a classy dresser now. Clean, well dressed and so on.

I'm pretty sure you have malls near you; don't be afraid and venture in those clothes stores! Try on some clothes and improve you look!

>>12731919
It will take months for the VA to set me up with a primary therapist and, quite frankly, having experienced the shuffle of seeing multiple psychologist and psychiatrists, I have almost no desire to see another.

I suppose you may be right, it would be necessary. The only other alternative I see is cutting myself off from her permanently and I definitely do not want to do that.

>>12731927
it not just some girl I know, we started dating and we had sex last night and its been amazing. 16 hour drive/2 hour flight. im not sure if we are gonna try the LDR or not.. our situation is different than the normal 18 year old going to college situation, we are both 24 with university degrees, i'm just going in a different career direction and need to go back to school.

>>12731942
It started when a rumor about me started in grade 9, I sort of just became less confident about myself in general. But lots has happened since then that has, at least in my mind, confirmed my negative thoughts.

I tried a psychiatrist for a while but I have difficulty maintaining appointments and she was very gung-ho about putting me on ADHD meds. I'm currently waiting for the chance to visit one again soon, but I don't know if that will happen any time soon.

>>12731832
There are a lot of other girls out there dude. The fact that she wasn't looking for a relationship shouldn't get you down. Stay confident and get out there! Girls love confident men! So don't be a downer. Stay positive and keep upbeat!

2D waifu huh? Shit, I had that same problem, and I nearly fucked up my current relationship because of it. 2D waifu's are great! Nothing bad happens, you can love them so much and everything! BUT that's the downfall. They're inanimate! They may be cute, adorable, sexy and the girl of your dreams, but that's only because you've attached yourself to her because you feel like you won't ever do any better! I got out of that and became more confident, shit dude, I've got so many girls hitting on me! You won't believe the difference if I told you a before and after! SO DUMP THAT 2D WAIFU AND WORK ON YOUR CONFIDENCE!

You can still improve your grades! Stop being a downer and work hard! You will be great in your major and can earn a bunch from it!

Improve your look. Stop being negative. Improve your confidence. Make more friends. Go out and have fun with your life!

You want to improve, get your ass up and start it from this very minute! Life isn't going to wait for you bro!

>>12731899
No problem! Good luck!

>>12731966
This may sound hard, but you're probably going to need to force yourself to stop thinking those negative thoughts. Are they objectively true? If so, then you will probably need to come to terms with it.

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>masturbating
>in bathroom afterwards
>notice 2-3 tiny, black/brown spots on my clitoral hood
>really pale, have gotten bad sunburns before
>FUCKFUCKFUCKFUCK
>ask boyfriend if he's seen them before, says yes, since we've first gotten together (a little over a year)
>had a doctor's visit in that time, gyno has never said anything
>whatthefuckdoidonow
>terrified it might be vag cancer

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What can I do with my grumpy boyfriend?

He's the sweetest and I want to make him happy, but sometimes i wonder what's wrong with him.

He's uncomfortable with physical contact, so cuddling and kisses are ok just when he's in a very good mood.
He likes some shows and movies and videogames, but doesn't want to watch them with others. He pretty much finds anything else not interesting, and you can see he's forcing himself to do one of those things with you. And right now it's too hot in my country to just go out and have a walk.
So pretty much we end up talking all the time. I would talk to him for days, but recently he seems bored of just talking.

>tfw I'm starting to feel it's just being around me that bores him.

>>12731982
I already have a good circle of friends.
"Improve your look".
I can't really just up and improve my face. It is the way that it is.

>>12731911
Ward? So you've been put in before huh? That sucks.

You need to sort things out. Does the person in your relationship care about you a lot? because if they do, then don't fret over caring about them! It's perfectly fine to care about the person you like a lot!

Try not to get caught up in your fears! They will pass once you confront them and push forward!

>>12731876
>>12731876
>>12731876
help doc pls

>>12731938
Hmm, why do you feel this why? From what you stated above, you have a lot of great qualities!

Either way, you should remember what you have bro! Remember all that love you have with your gf. Go out and have a ball with your pals! Work out and tone up a bit more! Chill and enjoy some hobbies!

Try to find ways to better yourself!