/adv/ - Need to start a new life at 30, ASAFP

Anonymous
Need to start a new life at 30(...) 04/28/13(Sun)14:56 No.12170235

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Need to start a new life at 30, ASAFP Anonymous 04/28/13(Sun)14:56 No.12170235

I have an asian mom who is ok, 80% of the time. But the other times, she has this way of really fucking with your mind. I don't know why she does it, but she'll fucking drive you nuts.

So I grew up with this thinking it was normal. When I was 18, I moved out for college, later got a job and lived by myself. Since 18, my life was getting better, my social abilities improved, etc. My relationship with my parents were pretty good.

Last year I lost my job and my parents took me back in. Again, most of the time it's ok, but occasionally my mom purposefully drives me to near insanity. Literally insane where I'm ready to kill someone. For some reason she did this the night before a major job interview. Then did it before a trip with my friends. Also picked a fight the night before my first day at a new temp job... which would've got me out of the house.

I need to leave. My mental state is so fucked up now. It was fine before... I was going to start this job, move out, start living again. But now she twisted my mindset, makes me feel I have no future, extreme pressure to never want to see them again. For no reason, she made me really want to hate my family.

What the fuck can I do now? ASAP. I have a college degree. A few months of savings left. But a really fucked up mindset. I need to move away. Peace corps? Military? Oil? Please help!!! I'm seriously considering suicide.

Anonymous
04/28/13(Sun)17:38 No.12171063

Anonymous 04/28/13(Sun)17:38 No.12171063

anyone? help me

I need help. i'm afraid if things go bad, i might do something really, really bad.

Anonymous
04/28/13(Sun)17:55 No.12171153

Anonymous 04/28/13(Sun)17:55 No.12171153

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Would help if you explained what she actually did, maybe you're just a giant douchebag.

Anonymous
04/28/13(Sun)17:58 No.12171175

Anonymous 04/28/13(Sun)17:58 No.12171175

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>>12171153
She'll just argue about some trivial thing that she could've done months ago. But for some reason wants to do it right before I have a big thing coming up.

For example I played 2 days of video games and she waited to the night before my new job. Would not let up about talking to me. Said video games are addictive. Said to never move back in with them. FINE! Why not just tell me before I moved in? Ended up with her slapping me, scratching, I got a black eye. Terrible night's sleep, barely made it through my first day at work. WTF?????

Anonymous
04/28/13(Sun)18:05 No.12171212

Anonymous 04/28/13(Sun)18:05 No.12171212

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>>12171175

Show some more interest in her. Sounds like she can't really find the way to communicate with you and she bottles up frustrations.

If i doesn't work out, I'd say it isn't your task to parent your parents. So just tell her that you don't want to be in contact with her if she keeps behaving like that.

Anonymous
04/28/13(Sun)18:07 No.12171228

Anonymous 04/28/13(Sun)18:07 No.12171228

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>>12171212
You are right. Outside of cooking, or talking about my work, we can't seem to talk about anything else. Just how asians are most of the time, we're not very personal.

Anyway my mental state is really fucked, don't want to work this job anymore, don't think I have a future. Just because of the whole argument. I am going to run away but just don't know the best place to do so.

Anonymous
04/28/13(Sun)18:27 No.12171352

Anonymous 04/28/13(Sun)18:27 No.12171352

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>>12171228
nigga you are 30 fucking years old and you are going to "run away"? grow the fuck up man-child. tell her how you feel in a genuine way instead of arguing. Considering suicide? What a bitch move. Your own mother is driving you to suicide because you can't handle interacting with her or dealing with problems? You have more underlying problems than you are proposing with this one.