GO OUTSIDE!! I experienced a similar situation my first year of college as well. Go out, join clubs, go to the gym, or just be the fuck outside. The more you're out the more likely you are to meet new people. It's easy to stay in your room and feel bad for yourself but trust me its college and almost everybody there is in a similar boat as you. Be yourself and friends will come. Don't spend your first year smoking weed by yourself or with a small group of people just because you don't know how to start a conversation. It's a skill that comes with practice and if you fuck up then oh well there are plenty of other people out there who'd love to be your friend.

>>12766727
The problem isn't with finding new people, especially since I'm in band: I've found plenty. The problem is how am I even supposed to approach people who clearly aren't interested or already have a bunch of friends from their high school.

>be yourself
I am acting like myself but that's the problem, isn't it?

>>12766712 (OP)
theres a reason why so many people drink a lot at post secondary schools. Its because a lot of the smart kids are quiet nerds, So they drink to make friends. Its what I did, and its what I recommend to you

>>12766754
Listen, unless being you means that you like to go chop the heads off of cats there's nothing wrong with bring who you are. It takes a certain level of confidence and charisma to be able to just insert yourself into a large group of people. Start small and only talk to one or two people. Eventually you'll start hanging out with them, then their friends and etc. if you think they're too absorbed with themselves and their friend groups to include you then fuck 'em. Go find new people. Don't make band your only avenue for social intimacy.

Hey man I just love you. just do whatever man and be free go talk to random people like i just did with this thread bye

>>12766776
But what am I supposed to say? I tried today and it ended up as introducing ourselves and basic questions and then I have no idea what to do next. Wouldn't it be a little creepy or weird too?

I don't plan on making band my only avenue, but it'd be nice to have some friends since it takes up such a large amount of time.

>>12766809
What interests you besides band?

Join your school gym, get a job, try to join co-op or internships for your class...

>>12766820
I mean, I have a few friends from high school, but none of them are in band. I'm just worried that I'm never going to become a part of this social group, which would disappoint me given that I loved it in high school.

Typical things that people on 4chan like, I guess. Vidya, music, reading, etc. But I don't see how to work that into a conversation with someone I just met.

>>12766834
Ask them what they like and just start getting into it. Be animated, be funny, be captivating (to an extent) show your true colors and be you. Anything that comes to mind just talk about it (as long as its not inappropriate for the situation).

Friends? In college? What are you, a liberal arts major?

One of the things I like to talk about with new people is philosophy. It allows you to talk for a while and engage others at the same time. You'll really get some interesting opinions out of them and quickly bond as friends.

>>12766862
I guess I'll try. Shit man, I've haven't felt as downhearted as today in a long while.