Should I ask this on technology or something? Maybe they'll have more experience with the matter?

Yes. 80 if you're lucky.

>>12709045
will castration remove the source of the hormone that makes me want companionship earlier?

>>12709057
Only if you incinerate the remains.

>>12709124
I'm being serious. How do other people accept this fate?

>>12709137
I didnt know before it was too late.

>I am not supposed to want a relationship
What?

>>12709178
I'm supposed to work. Nothing more.

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>>12709184
Says who?

>>12709191
the only good workers in the field are alone and therefore have more time to work and further the advancement of technology and humanity. I'm no good for anything but work.

You can have a social life and a relationship while studying to be an engineer. What's so unrealistic about it?

Are you working 100 hour weeks in order to make good grades? If you're only working 40-80 hours in college, that leaves at least some time left for socializing (which is, coincidentally, necessary for your mental health.).

>>12709184

why? plenty of engineers are in relationships

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>>12709207
You're a dumbass.
You'll grow out of your utilitarian I AM A GOOD WORKER BEE BUZZ BUZZ phase soon enough.

>>12708953 (OP)
You can be aloof about it, make it clear to the women that you are focused on your career but that you have urges and desires, and you would like to express those with them, but can not at this current time devote as much attention to a 'relationship' as most women would like. If they're ok with that, then you work, have sex, then work, ocassionally eat maybe. tldr: Not all women need 100% of your time and resources.

ITT: OP baits people into encouraging him to find a relationship.

Dude fuck a club slut once a week, bam hormones in control

>>12709219
then why are there others who are happy being alone and just doing other hobbies and stuff? Have they merely deluded themselves to the point of thinking any of that could make one actually happy? Is it drugs or alcohol?

>>12708953 (OP)
>I am not supposed to want a relationship.

Who told you this, don't be an idiot, uni is the perfect place to meet young, high-esque class woman. The student in my class with the highest GPA has had the same gf since freshman year.

Some advice an MD gave me; most people can only learn for 8 hours a day, beyond that you will retain very little of what you learn, the best time of the day to learn is during daylight hours, you should spend the rest of the day staying fit/lifting, reading outside your field etc. and go out to socialize and relax at least biweekly.

In fact, you should she socializing as part of your work. An Engineer's networking and communications skills need to be exceptional for the industry to function properly.

tl;dr: You have enough free time, go get some pussy.

>>12709211
You give the worst advice, just stop. Seriously, stop giving people shit advice and get the fuck out you fucking retard.

>>12709225
not at all. I simply want to know how single people within such fields appear to not care about being alone.

>>12709207

dude, chill the fuck out and get over this broken, invalid perspective on life.

The planet does not need you to be a goddamned monolith of computing. You aren't a computer. Stop thinking that, it's dumb.

And don't try and separate and other-ise your interest in relationships. Those impulses? Those interests? That's -you-. YOU want that. Denying yourself pleasure is only going to fuck you up.

I could phrase all of this a lot better and get into way more detail, but it's pissing me off how much of an idiot you're being, so I can't be bothered.

Technology =/= purpose of life. Enjoy the world you goddamned moron.

>>12709260
but I want to just do work so people like you who want to enjoy the world can do so in greater ways with new technology and such.

>>12709057
Testosterone is very important for mental acuity.

>>12709207
>the only good workers in the field are alone
Have you not noticed that your smartest, richest, and most successful professors are also married?

>>12709211
This.

>>12709219
This too.

>>12709226
Not this.

>>12709234
Various medical reasons, you are obviously not one of those people.

You should stop your pursuit of an engineering career.

We don't need anymore autistic socially inept retards.

signed, EE

>>12709266
>but I want to just do work so people like you who want to enjoy the world can do so in greater ways with new technology and such.

You're sound like a fucking freshman and you don't want to listen, I'm out.

>>12709287
I'm CE if that's any better.

>>12709288
junior. You're welcome

>>12709297
It's not, EEs can do everything you can and more.

>>12709297
If that means Civil then you should just shoot yourself now.

>>12709307
CE = computer engineer in my experience.

CivE is might be easy, but it's not a bad career.

>>12709211
Having a social life is impossible when you need to take a bunch of math physics and programming classes while have a job on the weekends and doing all of the HW, projects and studying for your classes.

the People that say you can have a social life while studying and working are people who study easy shit like communications or women's studies or some shit like that

>>12709315
Please stop.

I had to deal with retards like you all throughout my EE degree. Quit making it look like engineering is the hardest fucking major on the planet.

Stop being a fucking autist and manage your time.

>>12709314
Get the fuck out. CompE not CE.

I'm computer engineer not civil. top kik @ civil.

>>12709266

You don't have to take this perspective to accomplish that!

Wanting to improve the world is a great impulse. Don't twist it around so that you deprive yourself of what YOU (and those hormones are YOU, don't try to separate them) want.

You know who revolutionized and improved the world? Benjamin Goddamned Franklin. Brought forward an age of revolution and revaluing the importance of the individual and their rights while fucking basically every french woman he could get his hands on, then settled down with the woman he loved. He did way more than you ever will, he ushered in a new -country- that had an amazing golden age even if it is shit now, and he still found the time to enjoy life.

You will actually be completely unable to expand other people's happiness if you yourself are not happy. That's a fact.

LOVE LIFE YOU DINGUS

>>12709323
gr8 b8 m8

>>12709327
>>12709329
What say ye now faggot?

>>12709339
damn. op here. never thought abour it like that. thank you.

>>12709323
unlike you lazy ass I do 40 hours of work on the weekends since I don't have a rich mommy and daddy to pay my education. If i want to pay the bills and not fail my Classes while actually sleeping then I can't dedicate time to a social life.

>>12709339
Also Schrodinger who had two wives etc. In general, succesfull Scientists and Engineers get more pussy than the average blue collar.

>>12709349
If you didn't get a scholarship you should have taken a student loan, the only job a full time Engineering student should be doing is internships/relevant practical training.

>>12709346
Glad to hear it man. You were sounding like you were heading down the "Mr. Burns' Little Lisa Recycling Plant" path of improving the world for a while there.

Of course enjoying life isn't always easy, but at least you acknowledge that it's a worthwhile thing to do now. Best of luck OP!

What if the only girl you love is not available to you? fuck random shit until your love goes away?

>>12709385
yes

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>>12709381
>that reference
my african american associate

have a grooming bird

>>12709385
Go out more, you have a crush on her, you can get a crush on some other girl as easily.

>>12709412
it's been 5 years. I've read that crushes don't last that long.

>>12708953 (OP)
OP getting a SO that is in your major really does help. You have someone to study with and relate with.

I would avoid someone in a foofy major. I had a ex that was a english major and another who was a education major.
They always bitched about all the non-existent work they had to do.
No wonder why our educational system is so shitty...

OP, dedicate one day of the week to yourself/having fun.

>>12709420
I've had a crush on a girl in my class for 3 years now, she shows interest towards me and even lightly flirts with me occasionally (more heavily when we first starting talking to each-ohter), but I know she has a bf. It's frustrating and sometimes even depressing as hell so I know where you're coming from.

But the thing is as soon as I went outside my usual circles and found plenty of other girls that are interested in me I get the same feelings towards those girls that I had (or have) for the one in my class.

In any case, I'm pretty sure I'm not in love with her, my it's just constant pheromone exposure or something, idk, I'm not an MD.

>>12709458
maybe*

>>12709458
I've done that too, gone out and met other people. I get the same feelings too, I believe it's some type of pheromone thing going on but idk anything about that. Problem is that, when I ask myself if I could be with them and ever truly believe them to be better than the one I already love, I can't say that I could. And that's not fair for someone to always be 2nd best. So I'm not sure what to do about that.

>>12709508
I don't know what to say other than
>I know that feel

I mean if I objectively look at it I've met girls who are hotter and just as smart as her, idk hopefully it stops when we graduate, just don't try to be friends with her.

>>12709539
I haven't seen her for 2 years. We go to separate colleges. She has a boyfriend she started dating after high school who has also been her best friend since 9th grade.

>dat horribad feel

>>12709595
God, that sucks man. This thing is destroying you and apparently it's not going to go away.

I think you have to tell her how you feel, even if she has a boyfriend, you have to do it for yourself. I mean in a way that makes it clear you don't really expect anything, I'm guessing she hinted interest towards you before too, so maybe it won't be so bad.

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>>12709637
I told her in 11th grade how I felt. Her birthday was a few weeks before school started and on the first day I gave her a poem I wrote for her. Nothing ever really developed from that because I knew she wouldn't like me to begin with, but I wanted to tell her how I felt anyway.

I think it has destroyed me, yes. That's why I just want to do work and that alone until I die, so that other people can enjoy life since I don't really anymore.

Thanks for understanding though. Most people don't realize how such a thing is uncontrollable for some people. It's rare, but still.

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>>12709655
>That's why I just want to do work and that alone until I die, so that other people can enjoy life since I don't really anymore.

I felt exactly the same for a while, it fucked with my grades too if I'm honest. Though eventually I considered it and my personal happiness in general to be a small matter in "the grand scheme of things". I studied outside my field a lot, not just Science and Engineering, but also philosophy etc. and in general focused on self-improvement while living a fairly solitary lifestyle.

But the thing is I know that I'm not exactly a genius, my contributions would always be meager at best. So I started focusing less on my degree and more on whatever interested me at the time, I became very depressed (and sometimes still am, but due to my other limits, not because of some girl), it does NOT get better, I don't know how some people can do it.

But now, you have to move on see, if what you're doing right now isn't working for you, you need to start dating again or doing something, anything(!) else, if you're lucky enough you'll find a nice gf that understands your busy schedule and allows you to focus on your studies again. The bright side to all this is that I've found that all my self-improvement really paid off in the dating game, I've plenty got great woman lining up, being cultured, intelligent and prospect of and engineering salary is very attractive to women even if your not Physically attractive (though I recommend you start lifting/playing sports if you don't already to not only improve the later, but also improve your health, mental acuity and overall happiness).

When all else fails, see a psychiatrist and get some pills, this is the 21st century, no one gives a fuck, we've got more important things to do than lose productivity over dysfunctional hormones.

Your problem isn't that you can't have a relationship, it's that you can't get one. You're 20, in a 'nerdy' field, and you probably don't have that many hobbies. Plus a lack of knowledge of Game and you don't know how to make a good first impression.

Try learning about how to be more attractive and that should help.

>>12709846
gr8 b8 m8

>>12709846
I've had a couple relationships in the past few years. I don't have much trouble attracting people when I try to be perfectly honest. I just never really want to.

>>12709846
>Engineering is a nerdy field

This isn't the fucking 90s you know.

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>>12709846

bampu

>I'm only 20.
>I am not supposed to want a relationship.
At 20 you're supposed to want to fuck everything that moves.

>>12710789
fuck that (no pun intended)

>>12709234
>merely
you're either unintentionally edgy, in highschool, or have worn a fedora unironically before

>>12710924
no u

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>I am not supposed to want a relationship
/op

>>12710924
/thread

>>12710911
those last three digits in your post number are quite insensitive you antifreedomite

>>12711021
tip kok

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>pic related
but seriously, i've been there too. i just got lucky and found someone.

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>>12709207
this sounds exactly like someone who has no idea what a career in engineering is and has most certainly never seen an engineer work or worked for even a day as an engineer

>>12709245
Not in engineering but I could relate. I suppressed dating in part because I needed to be absolutely sure I graduated college. no one in my family has ever done it.in fact, I don't know a single graduate in my family. I went for econ (respectable I think) and video production (my actual interest) to make myself as marketable as possible.

a secondary reason I was able to stay out of a relationship was because of my parents. they had me in college and neither graduated.

I am well received by women in general and know for a fact that I will find my girl doing what I love. knowing that kept me going and continues to keep me going.

I can't be stopped.

>>12712461

your 20 op. you'll be alive for another 60+ years. you'll be in college another six or so. just put it in perspective and maybe you'll feel better.

Consider the fact that being in a relationship as a male is a universally negative experience.

bampu