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What's the nicest way to tell my parents to fuck off?

I'm 25 and I live on my own. I was told my whole life that I should keep good communication with my parents even though they're the kinds of people where if I wasn't related to them I'd have absolutely nothing to do with them.

The thing is, they're really fucking annoying. I get spammed with emails and calls by them. All the fucking time. Like literally everyday. And the calls are usually for me to go back home or go to their business and fix shit. And it's usually really little shit that anyone with half a brain can figure out.

For example, they'll call me because their cable wasn't working and they couldn't figure shit out. They insisted that I drive over there to fix it. And it'll be some stupid shit like somehow they unplugged the cable box. Shit like that. Except every fucking single day. If I ignore them, they spam me with more calls, texts, and emails. I've thought about blocking them and changing my phone number, but the rest of my family would give me shit for being disrespectful. I've tried explaining things over the phone but their English is shit and they're retarded.

I've told my parents that I can't constantly drop whatever I'm doing for really stupid little shit. But they don't seem to understand. So, once again, what's the nicest way to tell them to fuck off?
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fuck you
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I know EXACTLY what you feel, and I also feel guilty to think like that about my parents. A lot of shitstorm comes, like "they did so much for you and you act that selfish", but yeah, it's really annoying.
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they probably miss you man, they spend almost every day with you as a kid and now your gone. They probably feal lonely and sad. You're a dick man, i mean you're on 4chan, you honestly cant have anything better to do.
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>>11535571
I already take care of most of their online billing because they're retarded. I have a goddamn fax machine in my apartment so they can fax me their mail since they can't read it. There's a point where this needs to stop, but every time I get mad they'll cry to my relatives about how I'm the worst thing to exist ever.
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stop being an asshole
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You know since we're on this topic:

Should I feel bad that I pretty much told my sister I'm done being civil with her and that she's a fucking ungrateful cunt?

I mean she really is ungrateful and selfish and treats my parents and me like crap, and I'm tired of it.

Apparently she's moving a few states away maybe for a job, when my mom told me all I said was "Good."
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Instead of getting mad, go and talk to them and articulate calmly that you are a 25 year old man with a job and an apartment and though you love them very much and will help them with some things, you can't handle every last thing they throw at you.

set boundaries; they're only going to know them if you talk to them
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>>11535533 (OP)
dude i'm your age and have a similar situation. parents are parents. i've learned if i make a solid effort with my mom it works somewhat. my dad died several years ago. just work at it anon. it's worth it even if it isn't exactly what you want
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did they actively sabotage you as a child? if so, then id understand you wanting to get away from them; if not, then you are a piece of shit and the way you treat people who have been good to you will eventually come back to haunt you.
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Is there any way they can perform these tasks without you?

Try some of the following
- instead of doing something for them, insist teaching them how. if they complain, write out clear instructions and tell them you will never come over to do this for them because you can prove it is a simple task
- change your fax number and claim to them that you got rid of your fax machine
- do you have vacation time? take an extended vacation, 1 to 2 weeks. see how they do without you
- as a last resort, consider moving about an hour farther away from them
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>>11535702
No you shouldn't feel bad, because you know your sister's behavior well and she is acting like a asshole.



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