She keeps giving me these vibes that she's ready to drop me, and it's no problem because she makes more money.
I tell her she gives these vibes and she doesn't back down and I give in. I know I don't want to lose her. so I do what I have to to keep her from leaving.
I'm here because I don't think I'm wrong really. at heart. the things I lash out about and things I'm an ass about are problems I see that aren't changing. she doesn't see them as problems. She needs to act married. Going out bar hopping and dancing like a tramp isn't that. and she doesn't agree. her arguement is that I spend to much time having friends over, but I'm not out and about. she even says she likes my friends over.
She thinks I've cheated, I never ever ever will, though I've thought about it. I know I do and think things that I shouldn't but I don't act on them. I hate that she thinks and does things I don't know. and I don't know if she acts on them.
I was short with her all the time, and the tables are turned and I'm stuck and don't know what to do.

We all know what's going to happen.

You're going to lose your shit and beat her to death.

Gtfo, you made your shitty "WAH TRUE LOVE" bed, now lie in it.

>>8495749

You're ignorant

>>8495753
Says the guy who followed a fantasy instead of common sense.

>>8495758
elaborate please I'm here for advice damnit

>>8495743

You're too controlling.

She's acting out entirely because of that.

You dun goofed

Look, the answer to all this is in the second and 3rd sentence of your OP. You've been together pretty much all of your teenage years. Only in very rare cases does this not lead to an eventual breakup. Believe me, I've seen lots of this. People need to try their "I'm single and horny" - wings, especially women. Now, if you're an Ass to her and simultaneously sucking up to her, you've pretty much ruined your chances unless you switch things up fast.

>dances like a total slut
>does things I don't know
>giving me these vibes that she's ready to drop me
>thinks I've cheated

she's cheating on you and wants you to end things for her. you seem like kind of a bore, so i can't say i blame her.

>>8495761
You met a girl at age 13 and expected things to stay the same and be perfect for the rest of your life.

You were wrong.

People drift apart. They change. Neither of you sound like you have any idea what you are doing, and that maybe if you just stick with it and pray, things will magically fix themselves.

You are controlling as fuck, and probably very simple minded. She is not, and is drifting away.

Either you wise the fuck up and stop acting like "true love" exists and you treat her like an adult, and let her live her fucking life, or you need to break up with her and find someone who doesn't mind having your hand up their ass.

Your fear of her cheating because she dances "like a slut" if your own self projection of your own dealings with your own thoughts of infidelity.

>She dances like a total slut. But she loves to dance.

What's the problem here? She's not grinding on other guys is she? How do you dance like a slut, and why does it bother you so much if she's committed to you?
I agree 100% with this guy>>8495764, this will be the downfall of your relationship unless you're willing to trust her more and change yourself. She is doing nothing but being herself and you're trying to make her something else.
Relationships like these usually end badly.

how do I change what do I do how do I let go while still holding on?

>>8495776
First off, take a typing class.

Second off, I don't think you have the capacity to fix this. Let her go.

>>8495777

meaningfull advice sir, I belive we can work it out my keyboad is a bitch help me that's why I'm here

thank you guys

>>8495771
>>stop acting like "true love" exists

Thank you

>>8495784
Give her the freedom to be herself. You're too paranoid and judgemental, you're causing her to hide things out of fear of disapproval.
Stop trying to control her, give her privacy if she wants it, and let her do what she wants. As long as she doesn't have romantic relationships with people besides you she is "acting married", what you're trying to do is get her to act the way you want.

>>8495799
>>As long as she doesn't have romantic relationships with people besides you she is "acting married"

thank you

>>8495773
>>8495764

Thanks you guys

This thread makes me kind of sad. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years so far. We're 18 now, and I can see a future life with us together in it.

OP, my boyfriend and I had our issues during our first year. He was very controlling and manipulative and short with me. I didn't really "rebel" away like your girlfriend has done, but I agree with the other anons that it's probably because of how you're acting. Communicate your feelings with her, but try not to argue.

>>8495816

what can I say? I've literally tried everything :(

>>8495832
>what can I say? I've literally complained about everything :(

>>8495836

great point, what do I do?

Can you make your self the object of her sluttiness by equalling her. You see guys are at their horniest around 18 - 20. Women peak mid 30s. I'm not writing you off btw. I know a couple in mid 40s who have been together from like 12 13ish. Still happening. They had kids. He got a vasectomy and still nails hell out of her and she eats it up.

>>8495743

grow some balls op

>I thinknI'm in the right here
>She's married, she should do as I say

It sounds as if you are the one not willing to compromise.

>>8495816
I'm sorry, anon. I'm not sure if I have the best advice since I'm younger and probably not as experienced as the other anons replying in this thread. :(

Maybe just give her a little space? Don't try to always question her on every little thing she does? You don't want to make her feel suffocated. You two should be happy in your marriage.

Do you all still do er... well, things like dates and all that? How has the romantic aspect of your relationship been?

>>8495870

Sir, I appreciate your input regardless of age. It's going to sound like a cop out, but I try to go out, we argue about money so much that I rarely suggest going out. When I need to buy something for myself it's a money problem, so I don't, but she can spend as much as she wants on herself. She can want to go out, but I can't. Yet again finances. We make enough money to pay the bills and get by, but going out is at her leisure due to her higher rate of pay. I sound jobless but I'm not I work in a shop making a little cash.

If I saved and used it to treat her she'd love it I'm sure. thank you very much.

>>8495889
I'm a girl, but sir is okay too haha. :)

That doesn't sound like a very happy marriage, anon. I mean... she should be independent and it's good she's using her own money to do what she wants, but you two are married now and you two should support each other.

She should see that you want to do things too, but she's always putting you down for them. I'm not saying that she should always buy you things and take you out, but who says that it should be the guy who always has to do this?

Finance seems to be a large problem in what you two argue about so maybe try to talk to her about it?

You seem like you need a little time to yourself too, OP.

I feel like if my wife read this she'd think I was lying about the 'trying' parts

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