Don't bother. You'll be disowned and you'll realise that your family does not love you at all.

Have fun!

>>8002811

unless you are financially independent you are going to suffer big time. even if you are they will probably get all crazy on you.

if you are still in college/living at home/living on their dime keep it hush hush. once you are independent you can tell them to go fuck themselves for being fundie homophobes. until then you will just make your life living hell if you come out to them.

>>8002811
1. Move out of your parents house (should be easy, lesbians tend to have strong-as-fuck nesting instincts, get an apt with your gf)

2. Tell your parents

3. Tell them to eat shit and die when they flip out on you.

4. Enjoy your newfound freedom and love life.

Why the fuck do all the gays in homophobic towns have so much sex and romance fall into their laps?
Sorry, but I fucking jelly.

It's a new era, family doesn't mean shit anymore, and your parents are a prime example of why this is sadly the case.

Remove them from your life before they do everything in their power to destroy it.

>>8002829
What this /adv/isor said

Tell them. If they don't like it, they can call the fucking cops. Let them deal with their pathetic shame while you leave and enjoy your awesome life, fucking your hot girlfriend.

>>8002831
Same.

I had a friend in high school with a mother very much like your parents. He told them that he was gay, and got himself kicked out of the house. He ended up staying with me for about a year in high school until his mother came around and apologized. She eventually realized that having a gay son was better than excluding your only son because he was gay. He was lucky; most parents like that don't think of it that way.

Seriously, don't say anything to them until you're independent. It sucks to keep something like that to yourself from people you love so much, but in the long run it's better for all parties involved.

Tell them they are going to hell for the abomination of eating shellfish and doing chores on sunday, as is clearly outlined in the book of Deuteronomy

>>8002859
Also, berate your perverted, depraved mother for refusing to go into self-imposed exile during menstruation, the laws of god are infallible and unchanging, and she should be ashamed of her wretched uncleanliness.

People still have issues with gay people in 2011? Wow.

>>8002811

Epic win.

But don't tell them,at least till you are sure you don't need parents anymore.

If you can live without them,go ahead,otherwise,hell no.

>>8002881

It's worse for guys, especially in the south. Feels bad man.

>>8002881
Apparently so.

OP here. I do live with my parents still, I'll be moving out next summer though. Is there really no hope then and I'm going to be shunned either way? :[

>>8002901
I came out once as a trail to people I don't know.
I'm not doing that again.

>>8002961

As nice as it would be to assure you that your parent's love for you will overcome their bigotry, I'm afraid it rarely works that way. The moment you come out, you're the devil in their eyes.

I'm so sorry.

>>8002961
Religious parents can't be reasoned with OP. You're better off keeping it hushed. Least you can have your girlfriend over and have secret lesbo sex.

>>8002961

Pretty much.

Maybe they will get over it,but it takes a loooong time.

There is no reason to want to be with people who despise what you are,even if they are your parents.

I plan to marry a gay dude and we can be each other's beards.

>>8003005

You... what?

>>8003005

WAT?

I had a similar situation;
>moved out
>came out
>parents freaked and acted as if I did not exist
>enjoyed not having to live a lie/guilt free life
>parents started missing me
>dad called
>mom called
>each asking to forgive them/not to tell the other parent we talked
>each blamed the other
>told both the truth about each other
>they cant figure out if they want to be Christians or act like Christians
>I miss them but really dont care anymore

Do what is good for you

They're going to hate you and abandon you. As they should, gays are the shit stains of our society.

No advice to you, OP, just anecdata. Both of my "coming outs" were kind of shittily done, the first one was completely spontaneous and the second one was because my gender clinic told me to do it. My parents aren't super religious but still religious to a degree and as such I was scared shitless about coming out to them both times. I first came out to them as a "lesbian" in the middle of a teenage fight when I was 14 and they thought I was brainwashed into it by my then-girlfriend but completely accepted it in a few years. Later on (about a year ago, I'm now 22 and financially independent so I thought I have nothing to lose and I felt horrible about hiding it from them since we're still pretty close) I came out to them as transgender via email.

To my surprise they were totally cool with the trans deal and just told me that whatever makes me happy is what I should pursue. I'm having my chest surgery a few months from now on and they already told me they'd visit me in the hospital and that I'd be welcome to recover from the surgery at their place if I wanted.

Tl;dr - my parents were awesome about these things even though they must've been extremely hard for them to deal with, so miracles can happen. I'm sincerely hoping your parents will be as awesome about it as mine, good luck, OP!

Lesbians are excellent.

>>8003057
>>8003021
They'll pretend to be a straight couple while getting homosex on the side. Deep deep in the closet.

>>8003069

Nothing pisses christians off more than the happiness of non-christians.

Go die in a fire,or a cross,you guys love that voodoo shit.

>>8003100

That's actually kind of sad.

Enjoy being the rejects of society OP.

>>8003131
Easy for you to say if you're straight.

>>8003131
>That's actually kind of sad.
No it's REALLY sad.

Unless they were/are very good friends, that would be an awful life to live.

>>8003181

I'm gay.

>>8003131

Yeah, some people have to go to weird lengths.

My family is friends with this middle-aged gay couple, who were in their prime back when homosexuality was a real no-no.
For years, even though they were practically a married couple as far as they cared, they had to rent homes with two furnished bedrooms so they could convince their respective families and anyone else who wasn't a close, accepting friend that they were just room mates.

>>8002811
As a bisexual, I knew my theory of the friends effect is real. It is...

>>8002831
THIS. Seems like gays just get love thrown into their laps. All my jelly.

>>8003219
wut

>>8002831
>Why the fuck do all the gays in homophobic towns have so much sex and romance fall into their laps?

Reading "problems" like OP's annoys the fuck outta me. I live in a city full of gay women yet the more I date, the more I'm convinced I'll die a bitter, undersexed dyke.

>>8003200
Well I have Muslim parents who'd disown me if I came out and I don't really have friends close enough to replace having a family.

Being gay and having homophobes for parents is the worse. Sorry OP but if you tell them you'll learn that in reality, parents don't really give about you if you don't abide to their beliefs.

Op I'm pretty sure this has been said but there's nothing you can do, religious people are very egocentric and they usually won'nt budge fron their own narrow views. Take it easy, save up money along with your mentally deffective partner and move out. Unless you get the approval of your community'' bishop not much else can be done.

>>8003222

It's not the fact that they're gay (well, not JUST the fact that they're gay, fuck, that fact alone gives them about the 10th of the dating pool as starights, at best, not to mention the other hinderances), it's the fact that they're ALSO in a homophobic environment on top of it all.

I'm out, I live in a gay capital, and I'm still a 20 y/o kissless virgin.
Meanwhile, all these paranoid closet cases who's lives depend on not being found out manage to out themselves to the one person who not only happens to also be gay, but is in mutual love with them.

It's just not fair.
...Or maybe it's compensation. For the whole 'homophobic town, constant fear of discovery' thing. So maybe I should stop bitching.

>>8002831
>>8002844
>>8003222

>have one (1) girlfriend
>love falls into their laps

Even after spending years on /r9k/, i still can't get used to your guys' standards.
It's like talking to an alien civilization.

>>8003334
>implying you can't have love with one girlfriend

Bad fucking idea OP, your parents will disown you and treat you like shit for the rest of your life.

Ignorance is bliss, just let them think you're straight but can't find a decent man. You don't need to tell them this, ever.

>>8003353

Damn polygamists.
This is what happens when we allow gays to marry, it's a slippery slope I tells ya!

This is gay as fuck,

I told my parents and my dad pulled a shotgun on me. Not even kidding.

>>8002811
Where did that picture come from?

>>8003471

The internet!

>>8003441
LOL

>>8003353
Not saying you can't, I'm just surprised by the implication that everybody who has ever had a relationship is somehow outstandingly lucky.
It's obviously less likely in OP's case, i'll give you that and I didn't think about it before reading >>8003322
, but it still sounds weird at first.

>>8003441
should have sued.

>>8003441
He must be a faggot as well because he either didn't pull the trigger or he missed.

>>8003539
No he didn't pull the trigger. He threatened to and told me to never come around them again.

>>8004062

How long ago was that and have your parents soothened up?

>>8004062
Sucks for you man.

>>8004243
About 3 years ago and nope. Haven't spoken to them since.

>>8004974
How could parents do that to their own kid?

Don't tell them, man.

You can invite your girlfriend over for sleepovers like you are just friends and have freaky sex whenever they go to sleep.

It'd be awesome.

I know someone who said outright his son would be out of the house asap if he was gay.

Can I watch you two have sex?

DO NOT TELL THEM UNTIL YOU MOVE OUT.

I am dead serious. My husband is a transvestite, and his mother DROPPED HIM OFF in Atlanta at the age of 15 when she caught him with makeup on. 12 years later, she says she "can live" with his lifestyle now, but acts like she was justified in throwing him out. This hurt my husband very badly, and he can't help but feel like things would have been different if he had waited to tell her.
People who take issue with this sort of thing tend to be absolutely ruthless when they first find out. Your parents DO LOVE YOU, but they need time to process this information alone, which is difficult to do when you are still living in their house. They may tell you you cannot see your girl again, force you to go to one of those "gay to straight" camps, or worse. For your own sake, wait until you are living on your own to make this decision to come out to them. This is very detrimental to your long term happiness and you only get one shot at this. make sure you know what you're doing before trying this.

Well, if they are Christian, you'll have to pander to their beliefs, in order to minimize their retaliation (not that they have anything to retaliate over).
You should start off by bringing up how they're supposed to love and tolerate everyone, regardless of their faults and sins.
Then ask them if they love you.
then "even if I told you I was a lesbian?"
Some point after that you should bring up how this never affected anything in the past,
and if they get really mad argue that this is something you were born with and that yelling won't help anything, as we're all going to get judged in the end and that all sins are effectively equal in the eyes of God.
If you know any more pertinent facts about Christianity, use them.
Even if they don't try to kill you, they will want you to repent, and you basically will have to choose what you want to do.
Then you will need to to stand by your decision.


That is, if you think you can work a convincing speech out of this shitty outline.

I have bad news for you OP.

You will very shortly grow out of this, and have to come back out as a straighty to all of the people who currently think you're a lesbian.

>>8006687
I got to agree. As much as it sucks and as hard as it might be, you are better off not coming out to them until you are on your own. If you are lucky your parents won't have an extreme reaction, but if they do then at least you deal with it better if you are on your own.