The fuck is this shit? Get back to /a/

Was this a troll thread? I can't remember. Remember seeing the exact same post yesterday though.

will you be my girlfriend?

>>7413504
But /a/ hates Ayu~Chan
>>7413505
Not a troll, just someone giving people advice.
>>7413509
I'll be your girlfriend, anon-kun! :3

>>7413504
>>7413505
I was in her thread last night as well - she gives great advice

Hello Ayu! =D

She's here pretty often.

Takes forever to write back though, usually.

I'm 23 and yet I feel so OLD. I go around wearing suits while a lot of the other guys my age wear jeans and tank-tops. My girlfriend and I listen to classical music, while others listen to rap.

Why am I so LAME?

>>7413597
Hello Aezo-kun! How are you this evening?
>>7413612
I try to answer back as fast as I can. There are just so many who need so much.
>>7413622
You're not lame anon-kun. When Ayu~Chan truned 20, Ayu~Chan felt as though all the days of acting like a kid were dissipating and grim responsibility was taking hold. Do whatever you like, anon-kun. Don't judge yourself by what other people do.

Welcome back Ayu-chan

And no, this ain't a troll thread, it's one of the most useful/helpful/caring threads in /adv/

woah woah woah. Hold the fuck up.
Ayu~Chan doesn't have a trip?
I was so sure she did... but i can't remember

>>7413622
Dude, classical music is great. Fuck pop music. You keep on being classy, and it's obvious your character isn't suffering as you got a lady friend who likes it too.
You'll have the last laugh when in 400 years this shit is forgotten while classical is still played on the Enterprise.

I self destructed because I planned my suicide and I found myself lost in life. People just go "I'll do X" as a career, but I didn't care for any of that.

Now I don't know, I don't know if art or music I do will ever be financially viable. Even worse, I don't think I'm creative or smart. All I can do is rehash and absorb ideas from works I really respect. I read Negative Happy Chainsaw Edge and all I could think was, "Damn...why can't I think of something like this?"

>>7413663

YOU DARE REFER TO THE GREAT VYRO AS ANON-KUN?

The king will hear of this.

Wow, someone actually pretending to be nice on an anonymous website.

You may make some of the lesser minded fools feel better, but anyone with half a brain should be insulted by your charade.

If you're REALLY Ayu-chan (because I don't remember if you had a trip), then what was the almost last thing that happened in the last thread (we thought he was trollin) and what was the plan?

>>7413675
She didn't last night, that is certain.

>>7413582
aww sweet! I have an internet girlfriend :D

Alright Ayu, maybe you remember the story last night about my ex whom I gave flower etc etc?

If she doesn't want to talk and stuff, should I even bother trying to get her back? I'm still deeply in love with her and think about her all the time, but I think she's avoiding me..Is this because the breakup is still recent? Or is she done talking to me?

I've lately been seeing things out of the corner of my eye and actually swear that I thought I saw a person I know wasn't there. I've also been getting strange head ache kinds of things, the one I had earlier today didn't even hurt I just felt high as fuck.

Things like this have been happening for a couple months now and I'm wondering if maybe i should consult a doctor?
What do you think Ayu~Chan?

This girl i barely know, lets say an aquaintence - know each other from talking in the odd conversation with friends (in the context of me and my mate, her and her friend I also know talking on the bus.), she is easily an 8/10 (we're not talking about big breasts and a dat ass, she didnt have those, it was how she looked, really fucking cute) and she got on the same school bus (with her friends and on the bus was majority of her class mates, it was a fairly empty bus, a lot of vacant seats) she was going to sit at a seat in front of me, but she stopped (i looked up to see who the fuck it was) and she stood there with a smile you would use when you see someone you know, and she asked if she could sit there, i said sure (ready to start a convo) she says thanks, sits down and i froze over. Like literaly, my throat went as dry as fucking sand paper, and i felt cold, and it was a hot fucking day. Im NEVER like that when it comes to girls, ive always been able to talk to them and get along with them, get their number and make it work. Wat do now that I fucked up a perfect opportunity?

Btw, one of my friend knows her over facebook and I'm thinking to add her, but haven't been on my account in a while so forgot my password, and really don't want to go through recovery process if its a fail way (in /adv/'s view) of getting to know her even more. Also, chance is I'm never gonna see her again, so wat do wat do wat do?

>>7413671
Awww thank you anon-kun! :3
>>7413675
Ayu~Chan is not a tripfag.
>>7413709
Then bring your king to Ayu~Chan, if I have so greatly offended Vyro-san's sensibilities. :3
>>7413771
That may very well be the case, Aezo-san. There are probably still some weird feelings since the breakup. I suppose just continue to be a group friend and comfort her in her time of need. If you continue to pursue her relentlessly, she might become resentful of you. And that's never good.

>>7413802
but how can I do that if she doesn't speak to me? Should I be inviting her to group gatherings and offering to give her a lift and such?

Also, she's spending a LOT of time with this guy, there doesn't seem to be any kind of relationship as he wants to get a sex change. But it's bothered me that she complained I did nothing but the vidya and he games three times more than I do.

>>7413773
If you really think it's a problem then maybe Rei-chan should see a doctor. Ayu~Chan is not a medical student so Ayu~ isn't skilled in these sorts of things.
>>7413793
It seems like anon-kun might have just gotten cold feet. Nothing to be ashamed or worry about. These things are normal, anon-kun. Just try talking with her some more when you have the chance, if you have a nother chance to see her again, take it! And strike up the conversation you missed out on.

What is the best way to getting rid of blackheads and do you have any experience taking biotin supplements?

Ahahaha, I AM THE KING.

>>7413697

Hahahaha. Thanks!

>>7413829
The sad truth may be that she might have moved on and doesn't want to get back with Aezo-kun. It's sad but these things happen and so many times in our lives we can't salvage a relationship. You could try helping her out from time to time, but not so much that you come off as clingy. She sounds like if you did that, she would resent you for it. But you may have to accept that the relationship is over and she doesn't want to get back together.
>>7413849
The best anti-acne product I know is retin-a. Its alot better than oxy or proactive. Be warned, it dries out your skin like its no ones business.
>>7413851
So what does King Vyro want with poor defenseless Ayu~Chan, huh?

>>7413484

I don't fucking trust you.

>>7413897
Fuck you, she's done no one anything but good, before you post shit like this - read the advice she's (he's?) giving out.

Evening Ayu~Chan

My new boyfriend is fantastic, I have never had better sex in my life. The only problem is that he is 40 and none of my girlfriends believe me. I'm in my 20s and they all imply that he has to stop every half hour so his heart doesn't give out.

How do I make these jealous bitches shut up without sounding like a whore.

Love and ribbons, femanon

>>7413940
It's not their business, just don't talk to them about it.

>>7413897
You don't need to trust, anon-kun. Ayu~Chan still loves you.
>>7413912
Haha thank you for defending me, Aezo-san. But Ayu~Chan is, for intents and purposes, whatever /adv/ wants Ayu~ to be. I'm the girl that lonely maleanons and lesanons need. Or a delicious trap that gayanons or femanons. :3
>>7413940
Aye anon-chan. Don't listen to what your friends say. If your happy with your boyfriend, isn't that all that really matters regardless of his age?

how can you tell if you are lying to yourself

>>7413843
But chances of seeing her now is zero, should I add her on facebook?

>>7413979
Ayu, for a change - tell us about you, I want to know what makes you want to come here - Every night - and have people ask you for advice - Every Night -.

You must have a life as well.

>>7413912

Don't you see. Everyone in this thread is giving her power over them. They are not coming here for advice, they are coming here to be told what to do. There is only one perspective being given.

It's a trap. Don't trust her. Don't believe her. She does not have your best interests at heart!

>>7413951
>>7413979
True and true, still it's kinda annoying. And telling them to mind their own business just makes them smirk knowingly at one another and I kind of want to punch them in the throat.

Also they keep talking about babies. All the time.

Might be time to get some new friends. Hm.

>>7413989
Sure! Facebook is a great way to stay connected with people who don't see each other much anymore. But know this, if you're trying to make this girl your girlfriend, you may have to make the effort to see her once or twice a week.
>>7413986
What does your conscience say, anon-kun. If you're lying to yourself, then there is always going to be apart of you that realizes. What makes you think your lying to yourself in the first place, anon-kun?

>>7414030
Because she will continue to control you when you wake up tomorrow, she will tell you what to wear, what to eat, where to go.
AT
ALL
TIMES

>>7414045
Well don't tell them to mind their own business - just try to not talk about it - if they start to, just listen.

Sorry, I'm also not a woman and am not sure how they speak to one-another.

Ayu~Chan, I love you and want you as my waifu. Are you the keymaster?

>>7414024
There are so many people who need so much help. So many people on /adv/ who just need another human being to talk to. Thats why Ayu~ is here, Aezo-kun. I'm trying to make a difference the best I can. Plus, /a/ doesn't like Ayu~Chan and I refuse to to back to /b/...
>>7414045
You maybe right, anon-chan. If your friends can't respect your right to choose who you want to date, then are they really worth having as friends? I wouldn't do anything rash but just let them know that you would support whoever they would choose to date because you are their friend, and they should do the same for you!

>>7414155
What happened on /a/ and /b/?

>>7413895

...I just want to be recognized...

>>7414147

What the fuck is a keymaster?

>>7414147
Ayu~Chan is no one but Ayu~Chan. Who is this keymaster? But I'd be happy to be your waifu, anon-kun! :3
>>7414185
Well I don't think I need to explain why I left /b/. Everyone knows its a hell hole. But I used to lurk /a/ and when I finally started trying to give advice, they shunned me. Specifically alot of the tripfags.
>>7414188
I recognize you Vyro-sama. Ayu~Chan never forgets anybody. :3

>>7414147

OH MY GOD

I KNEW THE GATEKEEPER WOULD COME WITH A PALINDROMIC NUMBER

GATEKEEPER, I AM HERE

TAKE ME WITH OU

>>7414235

Yay! And I don't know why the tripfags on /a/ were so mean. Besides the whole name-forgetting thing, you're cool.

>>7414235
>>7414234
I see nobody here has watched Ghostbusters. Oh well, it was a pretty shitty movie anyway.

Yay! :3 Do you like BDSM?

>>7414275
>Ghost Busters was a shitty movie

>>7414275

Ghostbusters? Shitty?

HOW DARE YOU?

The king will hear of this.

>>7414263
YOU MAY JOIN ME IN MY JOURNEY. THANK YOU, O GLORIOUS ANON.

>>7414270
I think there is just alot of bitterness on that board. I guess they were to devoted to their respective waifu's for Ayu~Chan. But Ayu~Chan is /adv/'s waifu. :3
>>7414275
Ayu~Chan is pretty open minded when it comes to sex. But BDSM just does nothing for me. I'm sorry anon-kun.

>2011
>watching anime
I seriously hope you waps don't do this

>>7414359
Ayu~chan, I'm worried for my future, I have no idea what I'm going to do when I'm older and I'm starting to freak out

I am going into grade twelve this summer and nothing interests me. What do?

>>7414359

Silly /a/. /adv/ has the best Waifu.

worthless attention whoring

>>7414442
if it is, it got you to post - so mission accomplished.

>>7414388
Have you considered going to a career rep? A friend of mine in college took a job skills class because, like you, he didn't know what he wanted to do with his life. You could also go to the job corps and see if they can hook you up. That would provide you with a steady flow of cash while you think of a career field you might want to go into.
>>7414377
But Ayu~Chan loves anime!
>>7414423
Awwww Thanks! :3

>>7414449
To be frank, I'm not even sure what a career rep is.

And how would I be able to find one from highschool?

This girl has daddy issues but is very sweet and mature and sees me like I'm some kind of great sage of philosopher and comes to me for advice and talks to me about once a week on facebook.

Is she into me? Do I have a chance? She's not exactly my type, but beggars can't be choosers.

what the fuck....am i reading

>>7414479
By daddy issues I mean she had a somewhat abusive father and likes older, manly men, and she tends to fall for douchebags.

>>7414483
One of the most (strangely) adorable things that I've seen on /adv/ in my many months here.

>>7414479
You shouldn't get into a relationship if your not interested in her. That would be dishonest. She may just see you as a friend or she may have a crush on you. I can't give you a for sure answer, anon-kun. I'm not her. Just continue to give her advice. Unless she confesses her feeling to you, I wouldn't think to much of it.
>>7414478
Check and see if your high school has a career counseling center. Mine did so yours might too.

>>7414388
Here is what I DID, since am in the LITERAL exact situation as you.

>watch fight club
>realize you hate your life
> be an atheist and grow nihilistic, life shouldn't be spent working jobs you hate because it's all you have got
>artistic expression is the only truth in the world

I posted in this thread earlier, so you know it doesn't quite work out! Or maybe it does! Regardless, no matter how bad it gets, you can always commit suicide.

>>7414551
How do I Tripcode?

>>7414576
Go look at the FAQ, regardless, your posts can be recognized from context alone, nobody is going to try and impersonate you.

>>7414555
Read up on some Russell, some physics and some neuropsychology. I recomment Steven Pinker's "How the Mind Works".

You don't understand the world. The only thinkg that really matters is yourself and your own pleasure. Keep in mind that helping others makes you feel good, so it's not an excuse to be selfish. Rather, judge your actions on whether you will be happy on the short- and long-term.

>>7414584
I've already had one do it perfectly =/

I have troubles. My troubles started when I wasn't even born. My mother has a little boy, and a few days after his first birthday, he did not wake up. About two years later, the "miracle" comes out.

Even though my mother considers me a miracle, I sure as hell wasn't treated like one. I can remember from my first year to about my third year of life being locked out of the house in terms of not having daycare.

Although this sounds bad, I was a smart ass mother fucker. I would actually just waltz my little ass into other people's houses and told them to deal with it. (people that knew our family) My sister would also be very controlling of me, and she's only four years older than me.

Ahh.. fuck it. I don't feel like writing a fucking book.

Quick, shorts in bars: acceptable or just tacky?

>>7414449

>>7414622
Tacky and slob-ish

>>7414653
Shit. I've got an hour to figure something out. Thanks.

>>7414661
append sleeves to your shorts: now you can into pants

relax, don't thank me

>>7414595
I probably shouldn't have used the word "nihilistic", because it's such a loaded word and I don't fully understand all the meanings it has. I'm 100% for helping others, I'm proud of my assiduous moral center and desires to do the right thing.

I just really mean that a ton of people I see live really weird unfulfilled office drone lives. Almost everyone, really. They obsess over money and define themselves through products although these things don't matter.

>>7414661
Good luck

>>7414555
To me, Fight Club was about a lost generation. These were people who were confined to an office cubicle or a dead end job. There was no "great war" for them to fight, no great adventure, no higher purpose or calling. So they engaged in fights as an expression of their frustration of the hopelessness of their situation, stuck in corporate America. That's my interpretation anyway. :P
>>7414608
It seems like you just need someone to talk to, anon-kun. Tell Ayu~Chan all about your problems.

>>7414602
It was probably a guy with a similar issue asking for more information on the topic relating to him. Me and you, we're identical, for example. Or rather, you're where I was when I was sixteen. Never knowing what you want to do, but just holding off on it and enjoying your life.

And then you realize there is nothing you want to do.

>>7414576
I don't use a tripcode, anon-kun.
>>7414622
Wouldn't advise wearing shorts. Cargo shorts might be acceptable though.

Gee, I sure am tired of the fake advice threads on /b/, led by Alice. Perhaps I should visit my old friends in-

>this thread

FOR FUCKS SAKE! I CAN'T escape THIS MADNESS!

>>7414776
Advice threads on /adv/

WAIT A COTTON-PICKIN' MINUTE
THAT'S NOT HOW IT GOES
I DIDN'T COME HERE FOR ADVICE

>>7414679

Aww, don't worry.

YOU'RE JUST A WHINY LITTLE BITCH. THAT'S ALL.

Every board needs a mascot. I consider Ayu~Chan to be /adv/'s.

>>7414776
Fuck off

A lot of people are bitter and lonely and need a place to vent, with no one in their real life to listen. And then there is a innocent little-sister avatar that will listen to their venting and actually reply with kindness.

>>7414807
>19105-untitled_1_large.png
>Ayu names all her files
>0/10

>>7414776
Alice actually inspired me to do this. She and Kawaro-kun on /a/. :3
>>7414807
Why are you trying to sabotage me when all I'm trying to do is help anon-kun?

>>7414823

Aw man. I wanted to be the mascot...

>>7414807
lol

For real though, I live this shit and am very proud of the views on life I've developed, as adolescent as they sound. Why don't you take off the mask and tell me what you find so abhorrent, and then we can debate.

>>7414846

Because that's what they do. They figure here on 4chan, they have everything under control. Then an anomaly comes along. And they have to try and control it, otherwise, what do they have?

If we spend any amount of time working together, and I think we will, you'll find I'm mildly to extremely insane.

>>7414894
I don't assume I have all the answers. There are many things I still don't understand. But that doesn't mean I can't help anon-kun to the best of my ability, Yuuki-chan.

>>7414894
I've read the FAQ and still have no idea how to tripcode - any help?

Now you can help the advice thread.
GO

>>7414969

No one can understand this world. One of these days I'll get that through my head. Fuck, I don't understand myself. All you can do is keep walking, and offer a helping hand wherever you can.

>>7414986

#4W]-2gOA
Or anything after the hash that you like.
Be careful, tripfags aren't really respected.

>>7414986

Ok.

Go back to the FAQ.

Press Ctrl+F

Type "tripcode"

Hit Find.


There, now you found it yourself and you've gained the ability to do that in the future too.

>>7414986
If I remember right, Name field goes <name>#<tripcode>

>testing Anon#cupcake

>>7413709

Did this get answered yet?

>>7415128
No, but I (the guy who posted that) am still here.

Having similar issues?

Not that hard to do (faker)

Testing...

>>7413709
>>7415128
I'm sorry it took so long to answer. I though I already answered it.
Try finding a real job first, even if it seems like its something you don't want to do. You have to find something to support yourself financially before you can express your more creative faculties. I know it sucks but that's the world were living in.

>>7415164

Without the suicide and being lost in life part. I'm an artist and musician but the thought of everything just being a rehash in ways of something else, and there seems to be very little actual originality and creativity, slows me down.

>>7415170
Ah but the REAL Ayu~Chan is not a tripfag! :D

>>7415079
>>7415079
>>7415079
>>7415079
>>7415079
Thanks much bro - it was the password that was weird, I used numbers and !

>>7415215
How depressing Ayu-chan...that's not the boiling blood TTGL gave me. I WILL reach the surface, regardless of what all of you say. Maybe crash and burst into flames if I do it right. But then again, I'm not really interested in living otherwise...so your advice is probably a lot more responsible lol.

>>7415221
Are you one of those guys who says shit like, "all the good stories have already been told"? That kinda viewpoint...sorry man, I can't help you. I contest that. There is still originality, just because something might be similar to another work doesn't mean it's not expressing a new individual's view point.

I simply meant that I myself was uncreative.

>>7415272

Well I'm not saying ALL the good stories have been told. TTGL was certainly awesome and new (I think).
It's just that when I come up with an idea I immediately involuntarily think of other things I know that it's too similar to. Eventually I have I to just get through the doubt and write what my heart is saying. After all it can always be changed later, but it might disappear if you don't get it out at first.

>>7415272

The problem with basing your life around TTGL is that there's no such thing as spiral energy

>>7415343
Not OP/other guy/anyone, but all I can think to say to this is "TV Tropes." Pure originality isn't such a big deal. It sounds like you have the right idea though. No matter how similar an idea is, GO WITH IT and fix it in post, so to speak. I'd say it's a better way to get the creative juices going compared to suppressing every idea you get.

>>7415272
I'm just being realistic, anon-kun. I just want you to succeed.

>>7415343
TTGL was filled with borrowed ideas. The entire thing is a reflection on decades of mecha anime.

Combining Mecha, a semi-sentient weapon that only works if the hero believes in himself, etc.

(I couldn't find the TVtropes page for that last one but I'm sure you know what I mean). But regardless, TTGL is it's own idea, and it is absolutely fantastic.

It's not a bad thing to see similarities in your work to something you liked. You liked an idea so much you want to put your own twist on it, and make it your own.

Take this image for example. When I saw this I went "SHIT, that's the cutest, most sympathy-generating thing I've ever seen. How come more creators don't put tsundere girls in a situation where their slightly unconfident and putting themselves on the acceptance of a stranger? It makes it feel so human." I mean, I'm still using the personality archtype of "tsundere" but I feel like this is a way I can really make it my own and improve on it, and make them more a human character.

I rambled and am shitty with words, but I hope you took to heart a little what I said.

>>7415474
Hmm, looking back, that Harhui thing is really shit and doesn't help my point.

Think about "The Dark Knight". Sweet movie, yeah? It's just fanfiction of characters that have existed for decades. Except, Mr. Nolan made it his OWN idea and it was sweet.

Bumping with some soothing sounds

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZD9nt_wsY0

>>7415619

I don't think I need any pick-me-ups today. Had a decent half-day of work, chatted up a nice but quiet co-worker, and made two different kinds of jam. A productive and satisfying day all around.

>>7415619
Is it just me or does classical music set a weird tone for advice threads? Not hating on your choice or anything.

>>7415693
I think it really fits the ingenue/innocent/little sister persona of Ayu-chan.

Anime, a lot of times, will romanticize violins and shit like that.

>>7415693
I just think its soothing and it helps clear your mind of distractions and helps focus on the solution for your problems. :3

>>7415734
I'll agree that it does fit the theme of the character well, but when most of the thread is people screaming "HOW I GET GURLFRAND" it creates a weird juxtaposition to me. I mean, crude generalization but whatever.

>>7415738
Fair enough. I guess it's just not an approach that's working for me. The music's enjoyable enough though.

Bumping some more.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YGRO05WcNDk

Met this girl almost a year ago, and we really hit it off and started dating, and now pretty much in love with each other. Shits awesome.

However, a while ago she told me she was raped two years ago and the next year had fucked a few guys (only 3 in a ear, nbd) and did cocaine for about 3 months fairly heavily (found out she fucked another guy for it for that time-period.)
She also experimented with meth. Other drugs she did I do too so i dont really care.

Shes off drugs and all that shit. I trust her enough to know shes not being a whore behind my back or anything (not that she was to begin with). No weird shit in regards to sex because of the rape. She is pretty clingy but I like that because I'm that way too.

I love her to death. Really. I could stay with her forever. But I do worry about that one year period of hers. It's a total secret. I'm friends with lots of her friends and didn't personally know her until last september, and I would have NEVER guessed any of that. her friends don't even know.

I think I just want somebody to tell me it's ok. I'm not going to break up with her over any of this obviously, because rape clearly is not her fault, and shes done dealing with it in a destructive way. I just want somebody to say something soothing i guess.

for reference, we are both 18. She was raped when she was 16. We both come from money in a pretty high class area in the south east. Not to sound like a douche. just thought I'd give some background if it counts for anything.

thanks!!

i believe this was you who I talked to about this last night, but I was hoping other people on the thread could have some input

>>7416118
>>7416118
Its going to be ok, anon-kun. Rape is a very serious thing and can have a traumatic impact on a person's life. Just continue being there for your girlfriend. Especially in her time of need.

>>7416118
this guy here.
...anybody?

Well I want a few things:
>Hook up with a hot cougar on a regular basis to learn sex stuff
>get with a dominatrix at least once
I'm going to college soon and I've been told I'm handsome and I have a 7" dick, so I know getting laid in itself is not a problem (virgin: only recently have I had the courage to talk to girls but since I'm going to college I didn't bother)
Another thing, I want to have a relationship while I'm there but after reading so much FML/TFLN I am getting a notion that lots of slutty/drunken cheating would happen and I don't want that.
/adv/?

>>7416173
ah your reply wasn't there when I posted right under you... sorry. But I don't think she's really in need anymore. Shits totally normal with our lives now. I just worry about her and am very sorry that it happened. Nobody deserves that.

But on the other hand, it's cool being a guy and being the more naive one, at times. I've always felt a little more BA than my peers for having more sex and doing more drugs, and now I'm with this girl who knows more than me about that shit, and is a very strong woman. cool shit.

But yeah, at night time I always think about this shit. Maybe itll go away in time.

>>7416193
>only recently have I had the courage to talk to girls but since I'm going to college I didn't bother
One thing I'd like to clarify is that I didn't want a RELATIONSHIP, as it would just have to end most likely. Random hookups/fwb would have been fine though.

>>7416118
Is she done doing drugs? Keep her close dude, it sounds like she's beyond that point herself and you being around as a steady figure can only help her get over it further.

>>7416259
yes she is. She deleted her dealers number from her phone after she quit coke (about a month before we met) and has stayed off. We have tripped acid together once, and she partied with that crowd only one time around spring break and got drunk with her sister when she visited her in college. Thats pretty much it all year. She'll drink at parties with me, but will only have like 2 or 3 beers max.

>>7416193
Hmmmm... I wouldn't know how too hook you up with anyone. But I think I can try to ease your fears about cheating. You see, temptation is normal and beating yourself up about it only makes it worse. If you get into a relationship and you feel the urge to hookup with another girl, you have to be the one to make the conscious decision to not cheat. Don't blame it on "instinct", don't blame it on the girl, don't blame it one any outside source. Part of having free will means you have to be the one take responsibility for your actions.
>>7416202
Try not to let it overwhelm you, anon-kun.

>>7416300
Not to be a self righteous douche but I was more concerned with the girl cheating on me, and that girls would cheat in general. I know that's not very true but part of me is afraid it will happen. I am the type where instead of cheating I would be frontal about it and say,
>"I'm going to sleep with other people now"
Just how I am

>>7416353
I'm not criticizing you for sleeping around. I think its perfectly fine to experiment. As for your fears about a potential girlfriend cheating on you, your going to have to risk it if you want a relationship. Trust is possibly the greatest foundation of any relationship.

>>7416300
I'm doing my best. Sometimes it's just hard to block it out of my head though. But then I remember how awesome she is.

Basically, there was this girl that I sort of dated last winter. The problem is, it was the first time I'd tried to do this sort of thing with a girl and I made a lot of stupid mistakes. Such as, in the 3 months or so that we 'dated' we only went out 5 times and we had very very limited physical contact (i.e. no hugging or kissing or anything, only held hands briefly while ice-skating once). We never were officially together or anything, but we were both pretty clearly into each other.

Anyway, after the last time we went out, we basically never talked to each other again. I tried texting her a couple times but she always said she was busy so I said we'd talk later. But we didn't, and eventually we just sort of drifted apart.

I've had all summer away from her (she's not from my country) and I've been able to think hard about how I fucked things up with her. And now I know exactly what I did wrong and have learned from these mistakes. I've tried dating other girls in the interim but none of them give me the same spark that I had with the first one.

So at this point, I think I want to try to start over with her. But I don't really know a good way to start talking to her again. Our school is a bit weird so classes don't start again until after the new year, but she'll be back in the country very soon.

Does this even seem like a good idea? And if so, how to handle talking to an ex who I haven't talked to in half a year?

>>7416396
Its ok anon-kun. You're not the only one whose been tempted to cheat on a partner before. Don't blame yourself, you're only human.

>>7416298
Then yeah, you're probably fine. I've never had a SO have a problem like you described but the same thing happened to my sister. It was pretty awful but none of us knew she started doing drugs until she told me a few years after she quit. She's been able to keep herself away though, so I think your girlfriend will be fine too.

>>7416455
I hope so. It's not like its a dealbreaker as long as shes not fucking anybody for it or isn't addicted. I think if she did more coke I'd be very worried. If she was just tripping more acid and shit, I'd be like high five, invite me over. But it's just odd to me. It's this side of her I've never seen, and seems to not even exist now.

>>7416426
Yes!!! You should try meeting up with her again. Take all the experience you've learned from your past mistakes and use it. Just treat her like and old friend at first, try taking her out like its nothing big then probe around and see if she's still interested in you. But be warned, what concerns me is that this might turn into a long distance relationship. And that puts enormous strain on the couple.

>>7413484
Alrighty then!
>be attractive girl
>get in car crash, and everything was fine ASIDE FROM LOSING ALL FUNCTIONALITY OF MY LEFT EYE!
>Surgery couldn't correct it so now I have glass eye
what the fuck do?

>>7416495
Get a classy eyepatch.

>>7416488
That's exactly what I was thinking, treat her like a friend first. Thanks.

>what concerns me is that this might turn into a long distance relationship
She's moving to my country permanently in September, so I know for sure that won't become a problem.

>>7416511
Look at it like this
>Some girls are VERY self conscious about their breasts or weight or a mole somewhere.
>I am self conscious about my lack of a full set of eyes.

>>7416495
>>7416495
Is the glass eye too noticeable? Has it affected your self-confidence, anon-chan? Have you been in a relationship since the accident?

>>7416538
Like I said>>7416530
And no, and I haven't been in many relationships at all as I just feel awkward with most people save friends, but they are friends.
And I'm still bumping into things as my depth perception is all out of whack.

>>7416480
am I just being a pussy about this?

>>7416530
Alright if she's moving there permanently then you should definitely try to rekindle that old flame you guys had. :3
>>7416566
That sounds like a big problem. I suggest getting used to your new difficulties and hopefully you've gotten used to it, you can work up the self-confidence to pursue a relationship. A relationship is tough work, anon-chan and losing an eye already brings enough problems as it is. I wouldn't advise getting into a new romance quite yet.

>>7416601
Definitely not, it's kind of a big deal. But I think that since she seems to have moved on, that you don't have to worry too much about it. Just keep an eye on it so she doesn't go back down that path again.

>>7416660
yeah, thats been my plan since I found out. She seems to be doing everything right so Im not worried. Sort of weird because I know all the guys shes fucked and I see them fairly often. One I hate and see everywhere, one I sort of know so its whatever, and one I'm pretty close with so its cool. But yeah, weird repercussions of that shit.

I also know the name of the guy that raped her. Probably check his facebook every day hoping something terrible happened to him.

>>7416682
>Probably check his facebook every day hoping something terrible happened to him.
Don't do that. You just pretend he doesn't exist anymore. It'll only cause stress otherwise.

>>7416716
I know, I tell myself that all the time. Sadly he's a good looking guy at an ivy league on a tennis scholarship. You gotta hate that shit.

At least he's from jersey...

>>7416639
I'm not even too concerned with relationships. I never needed to be in one to be happy (not saying I'm a prude) But I have been able to find happiness elsewhere.
I just hate being me now;
>at mall with friends
>on escalator, trip over little boy I didn't see
>fall down the last few steps
>woman all angry, but sees my glass eye and starts being all "oh you poor thing!"
yeah I could probably be more perceptive and I'm going to have to but it still sucks
And I can't stand being treated like that. Can't really drive myself places.
>I am now "handicapped"
I honestly don't know what I'm looking for here. I know I have to adjust, both with being more alert and accepting myself but I can't. It's just so... blegh

>>7416769
Aye anon-chan. This is something that you won't simply get used to overnight but I promise you you will get used to over time it and it'll become "normal" for you.

>>7416853
I may even be dealing with some trauma, as I remember the very last thing that eye saw. Out of the corner I saw a bit of shrapnel going right at it, from my sideview mirror. Every so often it plays back.
I also have more to drink when I do drink
>8-12 shots or so as opposed to 4-5
I also used to only smoke weed socially and even then with my closest friends, but no since I was told I should take time off from my job to "deal with stuff," I pretty much hang around and get stoned.
I don't see myself trying anything that isn't natural, so I don't think I'll end up doing like heroin or meth.
I looked into shrooms, but apparently it is a bad idea to take them unless you're happy and relaxed, which I am not. It would only give me bad trips.

>>7416966
>>7416966
Trauma is something from which people may or may not recover from. In your case it seems like it hasn't scarred you but I feel like you might be repressing some emotions, trying to cope with drugs so to speak.

>>7417084
You're probably right, but like I said, I don't think I'm going to find my answers here. Until I do I am going to go smoke a bowl or two out of my $400 bong and think about philosophical shit

>>7417120
Alright have fun, anon-chan!

Bumping with some more music
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kpqm1hxgH-w

Tchaikovsky is so good.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsGRglp6tvs

I think everyone depressed went to sleep. It's about 2:30am in America right now.

>>7417579
Its 1:26 were I am, anon-kun. :3

Ayu~~ my boyfriend is constantly distracted and I'm not sure whether I love him any more, should I break up with him? We've been dating for 3 years but maybe it's time for it to be over.

What qualifies you (or anyone else) to give advice?

I mean, it's like "I have problems, I'm going to go down to the nearest bar and ask some random person what I should do".

>>7417611
Breakups are never easy, anon-chan. But what makes "distractions" so bad that they would force you to break up with him? How old are you two? I know three years is a long time.

>>7417651
There is nothing that makes one "qualified" I'm just offering a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk too. I'm doing this becuase I love anon-kun!

Hey Ayu, I love lurking your threads. Please keep on being fantastic :)

>>7417651
If someone has been in a similar situation, they have hindsight.
Or perhaps, they might happen to know more information than you do on this subject.

I'm in love with my computer. Seriously, everytime I see a usb port, my dick grows to the size of Mount Everest. the fuck should I do? Embrace it or disregard it?

>>7417698

It just makes me very suspicious. I come here every day and give advice, but I don't really know much about anything.

Im posting this here because im looking for some more imput.

Ok I will bite, op.

I guess I should give you a bit of context before I dive in. First and foremost my mom was molested by her dad at a young age. It was such a painful experience for her that she blocked out the memory, which returned when she became pregnant with me. It should go without saying but this really fucked her up emotionally. This eventually led to my mom seperating my sister and I from our extended family entirely. As a result, I am fiercly loyal to the members of my immediate family ( mom, dad, sister).

So because of what he did I hate my grandfather. In fact I hate him so much that I used to think about murdering him. He died two years ago due to cancer but all the anger I feel towards him makes him still seem alive to me. On to the problem.

My mom and sister are afraid of me and I dont have the slightest clue as to why. I have never given anyone any reason to be afraid of me, let alone someone in my family.

They wouldnt admit it even when I asked them about it. I would write it off as me being paranoid but my dad has seen it too. He said it is because I am a very quiet, introverted person and it is hard for people who are very extroverted like they are to understand me.

How do I deal with this? I dont know if my dad is right or what. I am terrified that when they look at me they see me as my mom's dad. That thought hurts more then I can express.

Sorry that I am long winded but I havent talked to anyone at all about this. I dont have many friends and im not comfortable talking about it with the friends I do have.

What do I do?

>>7417693
Awwwww thank you, anon-kun!!!! That really means alot! :3
>>7417720
You're obviously a troll trying to bait me.

>>7417732
yeah, iknowthatfeel.jpg

>>7417758
What? That hurts my feelings. Only because my problem is abnormal, you refer to it as a troll? My respect for you has gone down from 3/5 to 1/5.

>>7417744
You need to explain to your mom and your sister that you would never hurt them in anyway. Tell them your introversion is nothing they should be afraid of. Although, it might help if you went out and socialized a bit more. It you might make a few new friends and improve your image with your immediate family.

>>7417781
>>7417720
OBLIGATORY: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygN8H3kI1qE

>>7417803
>>7417803
I have explained it to them several times before, once even to the point of crying due to extreme frustration.

Making new friends is hard for me due to being shy, but you're right. For a long time in high school I was consumed by this and other problems I was having at the time; so I did not make any efforts to make friends or get a girlfriend. Looking back now I feel like cringing because of how obvious a lot of girls were about their interest in me and how oblivious I was to them.

>>7417918
>>7417918
>>7417918
>>7417918
Don't focus so much on the past, anon-kun. Just now that you have the opportunity to improve your future. Are you going to a school? Try talking with some of the people in your class. That's always a good start. Just take everything one step at a time. I'm not suggesting you go out to bars or parties. Just talk to people. You'll see the improvement.

>>7417655
He just doesn't seem to care as much as I do, and I have a lot of university assessment (he just has a job, doesn't study, whereas I have a job, social life, and study, and seem to sacrifice things in my life to spend time with him.) I do care about him, but uh, there's a limit to how much i can care.

>>7418013
Ok ayu~chan I will when classes start in a few weeks. Did you ever have to deal with something like I did?

>>7418071
It seems like the biggest problem between you guys is that you have to sacrifice your time to hang out with. He just seems a little introverted, which in of itself is nothing bad. Just tell him to make more of an effort to see you when he has free time on his hands.
>>7418124
Ayu~Chan was very shy and not very social in high school. It all got better in college though when everything was more laid back and Ayu~Chan started going out more. Ayu~Chan was a late bloomer.

Bumping some more

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4uOxOgm5jQ4

I feel like I'm fighting an uphill battle.

>>7418421
Why do you feel like that, anon-kun?

i need someone to talk to, but i'm too prideful to actually respond further to anyone that even feigns interest in listening. i won't respond further, but i just wish i could put my pride aside to talk to someone that pretended to care at least.

>>7418499
Hi! Do you have MSN? I'd really like to talk to you right now.

Hi

Pretty much I am disugsted with my girlfriend and I don't know what to do. I love her, but at the same time I am pretty sure I don't want to be with her. I am always playing happy, but at the same time she's all I really have.

>>7418514

i do, but i'd rather not post it here.

>>7418514
I'm sorry but I can't just hand out my email, anon-kun. If there's a problem that your having, your going to have to tell me in the thread. Its nothing personal, I hope you can understand.
>>7418525
How long have you two been together? What exactly are the reasons for wanting to end the relationship?

>>7418544
That's an awesome album, by the way. I just created a dummy MSN account if you want to add me. archivallockbox@gmail.com.

>>7418499
Tell me your problems, anon-kun. I'm listening. >>7418514
Ayu~Chan feels embarrassed for not having seen the link and thinking you were talking to Ayu~...

>>7418454
I don't know anymore...I guess it's my lifetime of depression. Perhaps my parent's divorce about four to five years ago. Maybe that feeling that I could have achieve something great but my father didn't recognize my potential, gifts, or talents and so I was not able to develop to my highest potential. It could be that feeling of being left behind because all my high school class mates are finished with school and are now in careers or grad school. Lack of friends? Loneliness? Apathy? I don't know anymore...

>>7418549
2 years next month and I've known her for about 4 total.

I am just tired of the way she acts and how she doesn't really take care of herself. She doesn't shower every day and when I get on her about it she gets mad at me. She is overweight, so I try and make sure she eats at least a little healthy, so she does for about 3 days and then quits(this has happened about 50+ times so far, I think the longest has been a week). She got a gym membership recently, has gone about 5 times in 2 months. She doesn't really seem to care about stuff I care about when it comes to her, whether it be health issues or the way she dresses.

She is very controlling when it comes to money, she is also very controlling when it comes to who I talk too. She is constantly checking my phone/other accounts and if it's a girl I am talking too(it could be something simple as hi, she will literally grill me until I tell her all I know about her). Yet it's okay for her to talk to any guy she wants, even after I told her I'd dump her if she didn't stop talking to him.

Really I don't know what I see in her at this point. I have no problem saying I love her, though at this point I think it's more so me being afraid to be alone and her being my first more than actually wanting to be with her.

>>7418580
Are you pursuing a degree? Working a job? Staying inside your room all day isn't healthy anon-kun. Ayu~ knows that too well. Have you tried keeping in touch with your high school friends?

>>7418564
There's no reason why you should feel embarrassed, Ayu~Chan. Thanks for running these threads, you do a great job.

highschool easy. All 90s on state tests...no study.
Engineering school. studying 30+ hours a week and get a 2.7 first year...dissapointing... tips?

I have a problem with my penis, it won't get erect anymore.

I'm 18 now.

Ayu~chan, I asked last night about meeting girls, and you suggested I talk to girls in classes and such.

That's a nice start, for when I get back to college, but right now I really do have no females in any of my social circles; what do I do in situations like this?

>>7418591
>>7418591
The biggest mistake one can make in being in a relationship is either being with someone for reasons other than wanting to be with that person. I understand your fear of being alone, anon-kun. You said your not happy being with her anymore, and you're still in the relationship. Doesn't that come of as dishonest? Your girlfriends health worries me though. I do think that its very sweet of you to care about her like you do, but unfortunately you can't force another lifestyle on people. Even if its better for them in the long run. I'm sorry anon-kun, but the way things are going you may have to end the relationship.
>>7418621
Haha Ayu~Chan isn't an engineering expert so I'll try to give the best advice I can! Are you sure engineering is right for you/ The way I see it, most people into that career solely because it's in demand and pays well, not because they enjoy it. Are you sure engineering is right for you?

>>7418610
Yeah, I have a year of psych left (yeah, I know, I have an understanding of others yet I don't understand myself). I don't work. I still have contacts addresses for my high school friends but I had a major fall-out with all of them because, well, they seem to be directionless. They're all alcoholics and drug abusers ( I had my fair share). They also work at minimum wage job and seem to be content with it and there's no desire for self-improvement or cultivation.

>>7418637
That sounds like a health problem. Maybe you should consider seeing a doctor, as embarrassing as it sounds. Most likely though, given your age, is that you can't seem to stay aroused long enough. In which case is nothing to worry about unless your actually having sex.
>>7418638
You may just have to wait it out, anon-kun. If there are no girls in your social circles you can't really expect them to come flocking to you, you have to go to them!

>>7418699
Well, where might I go?

>>7418692
Then its best to stay away from those types of people. Try making friends with people in your psychology course or on your campus. Even just simply talking to people can yield positive results!
>>7418724
Try going to a library or a bookstore. Go to unlikely places because in all honesty, a bar or a rave probably isn't a good place to meet girl you would want to be with.

>>7418741
Hey Ayu~chan, if I leave an AIM will you be my friend?