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    59 KB Dealing with an irrational father? *incredibly long* Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:40 No.5150120  
    Newfag to /adv/ and never thought I'd post here but... it's incredibly long. I'm sorry. I'll try to TL:DR it, but if you have the patience, try reading my essay of a story.

    I'm 17, about to be 18 on the 4th and I've basically got a quick lifestory here to give you an idea with what I've been dealing with:

    I use to live a nice life until my mother died. She was sick and had fibromyalgia and died on May 7th. 2007.

    Now I'm left with my stupid shit of a dad who never played a role in my life . The reason I mention my age is because my dad makes constant threats to kick me out of the house for being insubordinate. Though his real reasons being he can't deal with me not going to school / financially can't support me. Our main issues are high school and money.

    High School went down the shitter for me. My mom's death lead me to do absolutely nothing my first year, and then my second year I had issues with another student. I'm now a senior and I use to be serious about school until I realized it's fucking pointless to try now because I'm going to end up 20 years old in high school unless I get my GED or something. Keep in mind I've been told I'm incredibly intelligent for my age and all my teachers agree that the GED sounds like the best option for me at this point.

    As for our money issues, like I said, we use to be upper middle-class, but we constantly kept moving around because of my dad's job, in which eventually he left from because he decided to join the army. Ever since his incident in the war, he has been jobless and on disability money from the government. For some reason social security also feels the need to give me a check as well so my dad can support me. The money only comes up to 2,400 a month. 1800 going to my dad and the remainder to myself.

    -continued-
    >> Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:41 No.5150128
    It's not that my dad doesn't have a job. He has a job, I got him one almost a year ago but it's a commission job so he only gets money when he works, but he slipped and fell on the ice in late november and now he's using that as an excuse to not work.

    Because of my constant moving, anytime I made friends, I'd soon leave them, so eventually I became the internet-addicted little shit that I am. I'm incredibly social however, though the lack of a car or incredible interest in the people that surround me prevents me from going out.

    My dad has constantly been giving me shit for my past mistakes. He never gets off the topic of school, ever. Worst part being that his fuse is the shortest fuse on the earth when it comes to me at all. I can't even speak to him without it becoming confrontational.

    Whenever I make a single mistake, I get a lecture of how I'm the most disgusting living being in the world, how I'll never succeed in life, how I'm not human, and how I'm not his son. He practicallly disowned me by saying "You are not my son, you're just an animal; A stranger in my home." He's also told me how the internet/computer will never help me get an education/will never help me get a job/ will never help me achieve my dreams/etc. I've actually been brought to tears several times because I just can't handle living wih him. I've tried to leave but it requires paperwork that I just don't have such as a state ID or anything required for me to board an airplane or even get a form of ID.
    >> Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:45 No.5150145
    The current deal being that he's using me as a scapegoat to get even MORE money from the government by claiming that I have some kind of mental disability in which he can't even pronounce the name of. I show symptoms of it: Mood swings, being depressed, etc... (I think it's Bipolar Disorder.) So the government is buying into it and now are going to pay him more money so he can sit on his ass, do nothing, and treat me like shit even further. He's also claimed my high school life by enrolling me into a school for nutjobs and slow kids. I never really cared about high school, but the more I grew and matured, the more I learned to love it and I started enjoying going until this stupid bullshit. The school I'm at now has no electives/no school events/ and the material is like grade school material. So I'm completely missing out on a valid education/social life.

    I know that it's a typical thing as a parent for a father to discipline their child when they do something wrong, I'm not so daft as to not recognize abuse when I see it. I'm abused at home and then he later casts it aside by pretending it never happend or saying "I just do it when I' mad" or buying me a small bag of chips or some shit. Like that's REALLY going to remove my mental scars. I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm bitching and I'm sorry that it's TL:DR, but I can't stress the fact that I have no idea how to deal with him.

    Also: I'm not rebellious, I'm not emo, I don't do drugs/smoke/drink, and I'm incredibly well-behaved at school.

    TL:DR
    No job, no car, no friends (outside of school), Gave up on school, and live with an abusive father. Wat Do.
    >> Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:45 No.5150146
    Wake up 5 in the morning.
    Beat him with a baseball bat
    ??????
    Profit!
    >> Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:46 No.5150154
    Seriously, claim he was raping you or something similar.
    >> Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:50 No.5150172
    Why don't you try to finish your school and find a job (shitty one, it doesn't mater) just to move out of the house?
    >> Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:50 No.5150174
    Wow dad sounds like an grade A asshole,

    try your best to get a job, make some friends at the work, buy your own shit, dont speak to him,

    Save up buy a car, learn, go out and drink/party with friends, meet new people.

    Live your life, dont waste it
    >> takeback !!mvRVKr78yKf 03/02/11(Wed)09:52 No.5150183
    >>5150145
    Talk to the government and see if there's any way you can move in with a host family of sorts while getting your life on track and sorting out school. If you are as well-behaved as you say you are, it might work.

    I've been in a similar situation, but I managed to get out of it by going to a university far as fuck away from him. My dad is pretty similar to yours, except he's kind of successful. But whenever it comes to me and ESPECIALLY school, he just explodes and I can't talk to him at all.

    I think what you need to do is more or less to book a meeting with someone inside the government, or talk to some else in your family. The enviroment you're in at the moment is obviously not healthy for you, and you've got to get out if you want to save yourself.
    >> Anonymous 03/02/11(Wed)09:59 No.5150214
    >>5150128
    >>5150120

    when you are 18, leave. leave and never come back. there are some people who deserve to die alone. focus on school, one thing at a time: first, your GED. then work on an associates. then shoot for a bachelors. get a job. even if its a minimum wage night time job. get a job. put your money in a savings accout that belongs to YOU and YOU alone. it will be YOUR money.

    alternatively, since you said you are intelligent, try the air force or the navy - i know it may not sound that attractive, but the pay is the same as any other branch and you have better odds of not ending up as a blood crater in down town kabul. do a couple of years, save what you earn, and reap the advantages of military service - like a college education. you have options, now sit down and plan.



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