/adv/ - Advice

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:05
No.10095377

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Anonymous 06/13/12(Wed)20:05 No.10095377

To all of you who feel awkward or inferior in some ways in social situations, and feel like you get little respect, try this trick. Works for me, and I've noticed people who act this way get more respect.

Look at people in the eye only when you are talking TO them, explaining an idea or concept that you have, or even a question or answer. Whatever. As soon as you're done, concentrate on something else, and appear uninterested in what they have to say, then look in their eyes again when you reply.

By doing this, you are exhibiting social dominance. You don't have to do it fully, but just bare this rule in mind. I've also noticed guys who do it seem to attract more girls (not sure if it works vice versa for girls, but girls too can definitely gain more respect by using this behaviour).

Give it a go. I've tried it, works. My gift to anon.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:07
No.10095389

Anonymous No.10095389 06/13/12(Wed)20:07 No.10095389

I can't believe I am saying this but I'm gonna try this.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:09
No.10095396

Anonymous No.10095396 06/13/12(Wed)20:09 No.10095396

>>10095389

Good. Just be careful, don't take it to extremes where you NEVER look at them, that will backfire. If they say something genuinely interesting, look at them, and also make eye contact once of a while anyway, or they will feel too inferior.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:10
No.10095400

Anonymous No.10095400 06/13/12(Wed)20:10 No.10095400

>>10095396

And one more thing, just remember to be friendly at the same time, not hostile.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:11
No.10095405

Anonymous No.10095405 06/13/12(Wed)20:11 No.10095405

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This sounds interesting, Thanks for the tip anon, I'll give it a shot.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:15
No.10095418

Anonymous No.10095418 06/13/12(Wed)20:15 No.10095418

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>>10095377
weird...now that i think about it, I seem to naturally do this without trying: perhaps an indicator that I'm naturally full of myself. How nice.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:17
No.10095429

Anonymous No.10095429 06/13/12(Wed)20:17 No.10095429

>>10095418

even when you meet new people?

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:21
No.10095443

Anonymous No.10095443 06/13/12(Wed)20:21 No.10095443

Why are you learning the value of eye contact at such a late age?

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:21
No.10095444

Anonymous No.10095444 06/13/12(Wed)20:21 No.10095444

>>10095429
usually. Unless, for whatever reason, I do feel inferior to the person, like if he appears stronger or smarter than me.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:27
No.10095466

Anonymous No.10095466 06/13/12(Wed)20:27 No.10095466

Tip: People with black eyes should not make constant eye contact with others for more than 1-2 seconds for the possibility of imposing unwanted blackness onto the subject.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:27
No.10095467

Anonymous No.10095467 06/13/12(Wed)20:27 No.10095467

>>10095443

Why are you being a dick? Most people don't think about this shit. General thing you hear is to maintain eye contact, this is different.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:27
No.10095468

Anonymous No.10095468 06/13/12(Wed)20:27 No.10095468

>>10095443
o wow you must be so cool XD

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:30
No.10095480

Anonymous No.10095480 06/13/12(Wed)20:30 No.10095480

>>10095467
>>10095468

I'm not being a dick. I'm just saying, if you'd tried this earlier on in life you would never had been in a position of feeling socially awkward in the first place.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:31
No.10095482

Anonymous No.10095482 06/13/12(Wed)20:31 No.10095482

That awkward moment when I'm terrified of eye contact.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:33
No.10095488

Anonymous No.10095488 06/13/12(Wed)20:33 No.10095488

>>10095480

I'm not socially awkward, I have a problem with respect and self confidence due to shitty parents.

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:34
No.10095495

Anonymous No.10095495 06/13/12(Wed)20:34 No.10095495

>>10095482

Ha. This is what I'm saying. Even if you don't feel comfortable with it, you have to just force yourself through it. You'll feel weird and think "should I be staring at this persons eyes for so long? is he/she going to think I'm weird?"

All the while they'll be thinking "oh shiiii this guy's confident, look at him looking me straight in the eyes. I'm feeling a little bit uncomfortable, maybe it's because I am bad at eye contact, I wish I had this guys confidence"

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:36
No.10095499

Anonymous No.10095499 06/13/12(Wed)20:36 No.10095499

>>10095495

*or her

Anonymous
06/13/12(Wed)20:36
No.10095507

Anonymous No.10095507 06/13/12(Wed)20:36 No.10095507

>>10095495

Pretty much what this guy said.

TerribleNews !!TDFCPWl9p+N
06/13/12(Wed)20:38
No.10095517

TerribleNews !!TDFCPWl9p+N No.10095517 06/13/12(Wed)20:38 No.10095517

>>10095480
>if you didn't have a problem, you wouldn't be here continuing to have a problem.

Psychology major?