Maybe it's because you're a flake or something. If they just kicked you out and won't talk to you, why would you want to go back?

If you REALLY want to go back, for whatever retarded reason, make a fake facebook, say you just moved to town, and that you were looking for a comm in the area.

>>5698721

I'm not a flake and I followed the rules of the community. I didn't do anything wrong and it's the only community in the state.

>>5698723

If I did, it would perhaps look too new and they won't probably still let me join.

>>5698709
Which comm is it?

Well, I don't know anything about the situation, but it kinda says something that you've gone straight to cgl to tell everyone about it instead of talking to the girls in your comm.

What the hell did you do to get kicked out ?
How did it happen ?

>>5698739
>>5698752

I'm not naming the comm and I did nothing or anything wrong. I just logged on one day and found I was removed and then I clicked the join button and the rejected it without giving me a reason.

>>5698750

You want me to make a lolita secret out of it because i can do that. Sorry, I'm just frustrated and angry at the moment.

>>5698774

Then who am I?

Pathetic, you're pathetic for wanting to rejoin those fucking saps.
Go out there and do something different.
Become the best lolita ever and prove those cunts wrong

I doubt you got kicked out for no reason. You should be able to ask the admin or whatever what's going on. If it's because you missed an event, I can see why. People put hard work in to planning that shit, and it's pretty annoying when someone flakes. Didn't save the info? Still your fault. Best you can do is try to talk to someone, but instead you came here.

>>5698791
>>5698776
>>5698709

Point is you should talk to them rather than come here and whine to us while we speculate what you did wrong.

Perhaps they just don't like you. Sure, it sucks but it's not the end of the world.

>>5698791
Well now that attitude will get you no where

>>5698794

The admins are not going to re-add me and I will ask them politely in a day or two.

>>5698796

I didn't do anything to be hated. How would it feel to go to a high tea when you are the only one there, just you and no one else?

>>5698834

Nor did the [disliked minority], some people are just jerks.

>>5698776
Ssshhh it's okay.
Just go talk to them.
It'll be alright.

You probably deserved it. I'm an admin of a community and I wish I could kick some people out, but I don't because I don't want to deal with drama and backlash. Flakes piss organizers off pretty bad, especially if we have to make reservations or something like that. Move on and get over it.

>>5698887

I'm not a flake!!! The next closest community that I know of is more than 800+ km away.

Look. Do you know how to contact anyone outside of the community? You said it was on Facebook, so message the person you were closest too on Facebook and ask what's up. Then deal with it in real life instead of whining about it on 4chan.

>>5698903
Weird that you'd say km if you live in the US.

ive had to kick people out of anime clubs its never pleasant, just do yourself a favor and walk away, OP

>>5698918

I never said the US.

>>5698776
Erm...well I don't really give a shit whether you make a secret about it or not tbh. It just seemed to me like a weird way of dealing with the situation.

I really doubt they did it because you missed a meet though. Probably it was an accident, talk to them, sort it out. It's not a big deal anyway, you're kind of making a fuss over nothing.

OP, check it isn't a mistake! We thought a girl in our Facebook group had been banned a while ago, and it turned out it was just Facebook being dildos. It's likely to be something like that if you have no idea that you've done anything wrong.

>>5698953
You said "state" so I assumed that meant US.

>>5698953
Canadian? Australian?

>>5698976
Wouldn't it be "province" if it were either of those places?

>>5698993
Oh yeah, you're right about Canadians, sorry. Australians do call them states, though. I've watched enough crappy Australian TV to know that.

>>5698974

OP is probably ausfailian. Only place I can think of that matches the criteria given.

>>5698903
>I'm not a flake!!!
>>5698709
>I missed a recent event because I didn't save any info on the meet.
Sounds like you're a flake.
I recently hosted an event where people flaked. The amount was pretty substantial and it was very embarrassing to go to the restaurant with 2/3 of my party.

>>5699062
Well, in OP's defense, they probably thought the information would still be accessible to them as the date approached, but then they were banned from their comm. So it wasn't totally their fault.

I wish people still used IRC

Facebook just gives me the creeps, but practically everything not full of neckbeards is dependent upon it now.

>>5699084
I know, I hate it. I'd delete the shit out of mine if it wasn't my only way of finding out about so many things.

>>5699075

Thank you anon.

>>5699075
If that is the case, then... well... wtf

OP, just sell your lolita shit and move on.

Op, maybe they just don't like you. I left my comm cause I wasn't happy with it and I'm still lolita. Some girls miss me and we're still friends but others dislike me and I don't care. I left because I was faced with animosity and I felt I was going to be booted anyways. Point is. Who cares? Why feel the need to surround yourself with people dressed the same as you?

OP you are getting really defensive for someone who didn't do anything wrong. What were your most recent interactions with them? Conversation on fb, or in-person meet. Did any conversations strike you as seeming unusual?

If you can't figure out what could cause these people to "kick you out" then either you are an aspie who needs help understanding complex social interactions, or these girls are just random bitches and you should move on and stop wasting braintime on them.

>Were you close with anyone in the group?

If YES, were most of your conversations comprised of you complaining or generally Being Sad all over them? You may have been removed for being a downer.

>If NO, were you in the group for a long time?

If yes, you may have done any number of things, either remained too aloof and made people feel YOU were uninterested in THEM, or been to friendly too fast and made people feel uncomfortable. You may have flaked on meets too regularly, or contributed too little in some other way.

>If you had NOT been in the group a long time,
It is possible that you just make a poor first impression?
You may even have just been dirty and smelly? I have no evidence to base this on, but I'm grasping at straws in an attempt to think up plausible reasons with no real information.

Seriously though. Talk to the girls in the group, not 4chan.
Derp

OP,

Why would you come here and make this thread instead of simply asking the people who kicked you out what is up?

It could be a facebook error (our group had some people kicked erroneously) or if you did something they should tell you.

It just seems silly that you would come here instead of messaging the prople in the group.

>>5698709

Hi Lauren.

OP is clearly a child and socially clueless. Otherwise they would not come crying to 4chan of all places asking what do do when the answer is obvious.

Grow up and talk to people who actually know what's going on before jumping to conclusions.

Scottish?

>>5700168
Probably not.
If it is her it would be very pathetic since we did make it clear why she was not being accepted back.

>>5700241
why wasn't she?

>>5700241

What happened?

>>5700376
>>5700384

^ thirded

>>5700376
>>5700384
>>5700443

^
Fourth-d

>>5700376
>>5700384
>>5700443
>>5700466

Too much. She continuously flames one of the more popular members on b-t-b and l_s then denies all knowledge of it. Amongst a million other things.

I was also thinking this could be a girl from my local comm.
If so, the same reasons apply - she was making hate pages about one of our members, and trying to turn us against her (the other girl). We're generally a very calm and quiet community and bullying isn't tolerated, so we collectively decided to delete her from the group and ignore any further drama she tried to cause.

>>5700501

Collectively as in everyone was in it behind her back without her knowing?

itt: everyone hates communicating with each other! LET'S DO EVERYTHING BEHIND EACHOTHER'S BACKS AND NOT EXPLAIN WHY LOL

christ it's like watching Kamen Rider

>>5700917
What do you expect? All lolitas are retarded each in their own special batshit insane way.

>>5700501

Which comm is this?

>>5700831
She was confronted by several of us on three different occasions, asking why she was doing it and asking her to stop. She would lie about it ("that wasn't me! My friend was using my Facebook account!" etc.) and play nice for a day or two, then go right back to trashing the other girl to the rest of us.

Eventually we decided enough was enough, and discussed what to do about it (yes, this part was behind her back) and agreed on removing her from the group.

OP sounds like a girl in our local community. She is a hugely obese black girl with a terrible attitude. We all agreed to give her the cold shoulder if she showed up to events, and she learned her lesson. She hasn't been banned yet though.

>>5700999

I hate people like that.

I think it's pathetic that a bunch of girls are acting like a high school clique and not allowing someone to hang around others with similar fashion interests.

Don't try to defend yourselves either, dramawhoring bitches. inb4 LOL OP. I'm not a Lolita anymore because I quit due to stupid cunts like you.

>>5701651

At least in our community, all the girls are nice.

>>5701651
I don't get how it's so awful to only want to hang out with certain people. The way I see it, a lolita community should be like a big group of friends, and you're not going to get along with every lolita just because you all dress the same. It's not fun when there's friction. Is it bitchy to want to be around people whose company you enjoy?

>>5701651
Just because you like the same fashion doesn't mean you're all going to get a long or be friends. As a former lolita, you should know that. Not only that, you should know there are a ton of people who love starting drama and then acting like they've never done anything wrong because they're really delusional.

>>5700981
Seconding this question.

>>5702222
I disagree with your statement based on the fact that I think a comm should be more like a club for people involved in lolita from the entire area, not just people that you are friends with.

Chances are you're going to have at least one friend in that group, and to kick someone out and deny them the enjoyment of hanging out with their, smaller group of friends in lolita, just because your "main" group doesn't like them would be extremely catty and elitist.

I've been part of a group where there was a circle of friends that involved a girl who was extremely rude and weird to anyone who she wasn't immediately friends with. She never washed, her pants were always hanging off her ass, and she would butt into conversations with me and my friends to say awkward things.
You seriously just have to get over yourself and deal with it. And if it goes too far, you can talk to her or her friends about it, but a community should involve everyone unless things get really out of control.

sorry for the rant, but like
opinions man

>>5702222
That wasn't the point I was making. The point is that it's cuntish to make it like a high school clique. So we have X city community and Y runs it, but if Y doesn't like Z, then Z is banned and can't hang out with them. It's fucking retarded and elitist.

Bitches need to get over themselves.

The girl got kicked out of another community before hand for attack serveral members. She bad mouthed our community to them even when she had never been to a meet, saying we how evil we are.

The girl is just plain twisted and needs to grow up. She has been told this. She is the only person to be banned from our community, clearly it isn't no high school cliche because we don't want our members being seriously scared like they were in the other community.

Oh she flaked in a big way by running a meet and deleting it without warning less than a week before, no explanation and deleted partically everyone on her fb.

>>5702408
Good lord your English is atrocious.

>>5698709

Wow, everytime i come on cgl, im amazed how faggy this place is. It gives me headaches. Carry on.

>>5702298
Why should a whole community be forced to hang out with a girl when, just going by the things stated in this thread, she does nothing but create a vile atmosphere for just about everyone in the group by ranting about people behind their back and trying to get someone to hate another that they don't like?

If others want to be friends with her outside of the group, no one would stop them, but if she's just causing a sour mood for a huge part of the group, I can see why she'd get banned. No, you don't need to like everyone in a group to be accepted and vice versa, but when you're spitting around venom you can expect to get consequences for it.

>>5702770

I think the English is good.

ITT: People confusing the words "Elitist" and "Exclusive"

Elitist is when you judge based on how someone dresses; eg. Refusing someone a place in a group of girls with tons of brand because they have no brand, not inviting OTT Sweet girls to a Classic Meetup.

Exclusive is when you exclude someone for any number of other reasons; social awkwardness, unpleasant aura, etc.

After a time, it's not shocking for groups to become exclusive. People pick who they like best and hang out with them, and through natural means, some less charming members become excluded.

Although it's generally assumed that meetups posted on Public pages will be open to everyone.

>>5699015

Australia has states? D:

>>5702782

Princess Jellyfish!!!

>>5704823
Even I know the difference.

>>5702869
bbbbbbbbaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwww why is she in my group when she has cooties

My money is on fat, ugly, smelly, socially awkward(I prefer the term "goofy fuck" alternatively "goober"), wearing hot topic or some combination thereof. They probably just didn't feel comfortable with you there. Which means you probably don't want to go back. Move on.

>>5702408

This has Lauren Sim written all over it (see last weeks BTB - the secret was deleted)
Members from both Scottish community and Northern England community explained the situation

Lauren you weren't banned for no reason.
You were banned for being a completely vile young girl.
Its bad enough when communities bitch behind each others backs but to tell girls at meets they were too fat for lolita, make a girl cry because she thought you wore a wig and to then run and tell another community our community was "all under age weeaboo itas who don't own brand" when you in fact were the youngest member with the least amount pf brand is ridiculous.

>>5707530

Demanding pic of Lauren!!!

>>5707539
http://www.youtube.com/user/LoliSourGrapes

lol banned from hanging out with other people who have similar interests

snobs. I hope a bird shits on you when you are wearing lolita lol

>>5707555
banned for being a cow. If she turns up to another meet I'll chib her with my parasol

>>5706294
Australia has six states and two territories.

>>5707546
>>5707550
oh my god, I remember this girl from when she first got into lolita and was posting on egl! she pissed me right off for some reason, wasn't she on gtfoegl?

>>5707573
link?

>>5707608
>>5707608
found em
http://getoffegl.livejournal.com/466915.html
http://getoffegl.livejournal.com/470631.html

also she kept spamming angrylace
http://angry-lace.livejournal.com/?poster=lolisourgrapes

I knew she was annoying but i didn't expect she'd ever get banned from her comm for being a bitch. lol

Any more Lauren stories?

>>5707853

I second this.

I only ever went to one meetup. She made me feel so horrible and disgusting simply for not wearing brand. It put me right off lolita

>>5708870
Just peering into this thread but... I thought in EGL there was a lot of emphasis on doing stuff yourself and original creations.

But a lot of threads here seem to be more about brandfaggotry than DIY

So how do any of you know that OP is Lauren?

>>5708923
hi lauren

>>5708923
This. How are you for sure it's that girl? It seems like lolitas being bitchy and kicking each other out of their princess tea parties is an everyday occurrence. How do you know this isn't shunned lolita #6391?