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12/30/11(Fri)00:24 No.5293263I
met my previous boyfriend at a convention. He was a pretty good
cosplayer and seemed nice at first, but turned out to be completely
worthless; not only was he a pedophile, but he was extremely aggressive,
paranoid, secretive, and manipulative. ALL he did in his spare time was
play video games, talk shit about people in the convention circuit, and
obsess over money and status- neither of which he possessed. He was
also an asshole about my interest in lolita, which is the ONLY thing
(outside of the occasional pop-culture cosplay) I'm interested in within
the nerdy world. We were noooot compatible, but I clung to him because I
was convinced we had ~so much~ in common and that the "normal boys"
would hate me.
I met my current "normal" boyfriend when I joined
his band, and couldn't be happier about our relationship. It's very
healthy, and he treats me with patience, respect, and kindness. The
nerdiest he gets is playing Battlefield on PC-- and after my last
relationship, that's a pretty huge relief. He's also way hotter than the
last guy, in way better shape, and he thinks it's cool that I'm into
lolita. I performed at the last major con I attended, and he happily
came to see me and walked around the hotel holding my frilly-ass hand.
TL;DR-
Nerdy guys aren't necessarily going to be compatible with you just
because you're nerdy, too. Don't be blinded by the sheen of their arc
reactors. Normal guys will accept your interests if they accept YOU-- and if they don't, "normal" or otherwise, fuck 'em. |