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 12/30/11(Fri)00:24 No.5293263I
 met my previous boyfriend at a convention. He was a pretty good 
cosplayer and seemed nice at first, but turned out to be completely 
worthless; not only was he a pedophile, but he was extremely aggressive,
 paranoid, secretive, and manipulative. ALL he did in his spare time was
 play video games, talk shit about people in the convention circuit, and
 obsess over money and status- neither of which he possessed. He was 
also an asshole about my interest in lolita, which is the ONLY thing 
(outside of the occasional pop-culture cosplay) I'm interested in within
 the nerdy world. We were noooot compatible, but I clung to him because I
 was convinced we had ~so much~ in common and that the "normal boys" 
would hate me. 
  I met my current "normal" boyfriend when I joined
 his band, and couldn't be happier about our relationship. It's very 
healthy, and he treats me with patience, respect, and kindness. The 
nerdiest he gets is playing Battlefield on PC-- and after my last 
relationship, that's a pretty huge relief. He's also way hotter than the
 last guy, in way better shape, and he thinks it's cool that I'm into 
lolita. I performed at the last major con I attended, and he happily 
came to see me and walked around the hotel holding my frilly-ass hand. 
  TL;DR-
 Nerdy guys aren't necessarily going to be compatible with you just 
because you're nerdy, too. Don't be blinded by the sheen of their arc 
reactors. Normal guys will accept your interests if they accept YOU-- and if they don't, "normal" or otherwise, fuck 'em.  |