lolis are catty bitches

Idk if this is related, but did herajika take down almost all of her flickr wardrobe pictures? My confession is that I want to be like herajika by this time next year (skinny, knows how to dress well, has lots of lolita friends, ect)

i want to die.

this is the best thread.

I'm on a lolita spending freeze and am NO BURANDO, BERI SADDO right now. Sale season is going to be very tough.

I spent a day dressed head to toe in BTSSB and Meta clothes and hated it.

>>5240577
is it because you worried constantly about what you were sitting on/doing?

I feel sad that I'm a tiny little asian. I wish I was a tall european so I could rock the classic or gothic look.

None of my lolita clothes make me happy anymore. I don't understand it. I feel like this is a sign that I'm need to take a break from buying new lolita stuff and from the fashion in general, but lolita is my addiction and I can't stop buying, planning outfits and looking at other lolita pictures even if I don't get that much joy out of it anymore.

>>5240575
> NO BURANDO, BERI SADDO
I laughed harder than I should have.

>>5240577
Meta is really ugly. If I was wearing anything Meta, I'd hate it too.

>>5240588
I'd rather be a tiny little asian, than a short chubby white girl :( I'm embarrassed to be a lolita because I'm so fat.

I'm realizing I like my handmade clothes way more than my brand. I wear my handmade stuff all the time but I only post pictures and go to events in brand. I know if I got rid of all all of my brand I'd be shunned by my local comm.

>>5240589
Personally the season has me down. I want to sell half my closet because it's too cold to be wearing skirts, and my winter-wear is taking too long to ship.

Sometimes I want to leave lolita, but there's no other type of clothes that I like to wear and that flatters my body.

The things t-chan did are my fetish only I would feel guilty contacting her given the circumstances.

I'm way too paranoid and anxious to own expensive brand, but I can't help it.

One minor detail (something stupid like a little tiny mark somewhere no one can see) and I freak out over it for maybe two days straight.

I have friends that give no fucks if something /tears/ on their $300 skirts.

Makes me very sad.. I stopped taking my anti anxiety medication, so I think I should work on getting back on those.

I buy cheap crap on ebay.com and etsy and sell it for a 500% markup on my local european community website.

Nobody ever noticed because the community's full of newbie lolis who don't have paypal and never browse foreign websites aside from Metamorphose etc.

I need the money to pay for my education, so what.

I feel terrible complaining about this, but I'm too small for brand. I know it's better to be smaller than bigger, since it's easier to get altered, but it's just so frustrating. I can never say anything about it though because otherwise I'll get people yelling at me. The small brands are all gothic or classic though and I just love sweet prints.

I hate that I ever posted pictures in lolita online. I did it for fun, I really didn't want attention but it just happened and I wish everyday that I could take it back. I've become a sad, miserable person. I hate myself now as a result.

I have a closet full of brand that I never wear. I don't think it helps that I moved after college and don't have any friends to hang out with.
I like the few local lolis here but they have been friends since before lolita, and are younger and into different things.

I got a cheappo JSK off auctions so I can trade for my beri expensive burrando dream dress. It worked and now I has my dream dress. TBH her cheappo JSK was a dress she wanted and she also bought mine for cheap too. Fair is fair, Y/N?

O, nvm I dont really care what you think because I got what I wanted.

My Iron Gate skirt is too short for me to wear =3=

Lolitas that whine about being too fat for brand.

As an ex-obese whale, I get that it's hard to change your lifestyle. If you don't want to fine. Stop fucking whining when you can't fit into brand.

My toast is too crispy and I don't like eating it now, but I don't want to waste my toast.

My package from China hasn't updated in a week, it's just sitting there in China. I used EMS. In that time a package from Japan was sent and I received it. I hate China.

Sorry for being a gripe and not a confession.

Lolita makes me feel so pretty. I get lots of compliments in it. Collecting and wearing it is the only thing stopping me fr om just walking out into the woods and falling asleep so I don't make a mess. I know it's pathetic, I'm just so sad right now that looking at it and thinking about Jesus are helping me cope. The elegance and gentle appearance of most lolitas is so comforting. When I wear it I forget about being molested and feel pretty again. When I wear it I forget about the family drinking and fighting and cracked heads on hard floors or smashed coffee tables. I forget about crying and hurting in the bathtub, I forget about all the pills. I want to be those brightly shining lolitas who are gentle and sweet and not ugly and useless.

I'm alright with it, as long as they don't have fattyfat cankle legs. Flabby arms are fine, I guess, but the legs, mang. I just can't do it.
And as long as they don't try to resell their brand as if it were in perfect condition after being stretched within an inch of its life.

>>5240720
lolol I posted in the wrong thread.
Oh well. Still kind of relevant to this one.

I'm not a lolita, but I love the look of deco-den and all the cute accessories like hearts and bows and cupcakes on everything. I know it isn't all like that, but damn, some of the sweet things are just so irresistably cute.

I think I'd want to be a classic lolita if I did ever get into it, though. I like the non-printed dresses in the rich jewel-tones a little better than the busy pastel prints. Nothing against sweet, I just don't think that's what I'd want to wear, y'know?

I feel like Lolita is starting to die and it makes me feel paranoid. Last year, the users on LJ and e_c_s were more active. Now there are less posts and less comments. More leaving lolita sales posts.

This makes me sad because I really like lolita fashion even if I'm new to it. And also I appreciate that there are a lot of us and now our numbers seem to be dwindling! Don't let lolita die

Sometimes it frustrates me how no matter how hard I try, I can't get any recognition. I don't want to be e-famous, I just wish that when somebody makes a thread on here about 'good lolitas' or 'pretty lolitas' my picture would get posted. I know it is not deliberate, but it makes me feel so ugly and insignificant. I feel very stupid for feeling like this.

Also, I wish I could be Pixie_Late

There is a lolita I know who causes a shitload of drama. People assume that because she has been quiet recently it means that she is no longer misbehaving. The truth is, she is still exactly the same but I am too afraid to speak out because I know people will say I told you so and will judge me. She recently got herself some new minions but what they don't realise is that she is already bitching about them and manipulating them behind their backs. I want to get her out of our group so bad but she is firmly rooted in our group. And whenever any drama about her gets started again the rest of the group gets dragged in, even though we have done nothing wrong and it is just this one girl. I don't understand why I let this bitch treat me like shit. I wish I could be stronger but will any other comms want me? Because people keep bringing me up in her drama, people make assumptions about me even though they have NEVER met me.

>>5240755
I am >>5240680 , and trust me, enjoy being obscure. It's a much happier place. I would trade with you in a second, less than a second even. If you don't have any hate, people will make it up for you when you get "recognition." Just... don't. You are probably a beautiful, wonderful person and you don't need anon to verify you.

>>5240752
I wouldn't worry so much. The more people come, the more people will leave, chances are more people are coming than leaving.

Personally I don't post much anymore because no matter what you say, someone will jump down your throat for it.

>>5240806
I was hoping someone will respond. Thank you, I feel less worried now. It seems like the posts and comments are a lot less than last year.

Also I understand that in this comm, people jump down your throat for saying something they don't like. That is why I don't post anything too

I can't buy any lolita.
It's been a year since I've decided to become one, and I still don't own a dress. My parents are starting to find themselves living check by check, I never hear back from job opps, and my uni's sucking me dry, even if it's only 2k.
To put it simply, I can't spend anything, even on thrifts. I feel uncomfortable everyday I go out.

>>5240752
I have noticed a similar thing but I think one of the main things is the rise of tumblr. Last year tumblr was starting to get more popular, but it was all about blogger blogs. Now, tumblr is #1 and way less dorky than blogger and it's easier to post pictures and get followers, so I think people are migrating towards it and leaving livejournal more.

As far as the sales community having less traffic I honestly think it does have a lot to do with the economy. Furthermore, neither community has been the same since the long shut down.

My loli confession is that my boss just gave his resignation yesterday, the other guy in my department has been threatening to leave for months if not years, and I am suddenly far more nervous about my job security. I wasn't planning on staying in it for very long anyways but after splurging this month (I probably spent around $3000, on clothes for myself and holiday gifts for my family) I am battening the hatches for a long dormant period in my paypal. It's a confession because I decided not to express the extent of my anxiety to anyone.

>>5240755
There may be another reason for this - do you have many lolita friends on cgl? Friends usually don't post friends here, even if they think the person is pretty or well-coordinated.

I know all about lolita and brand, exchange rates and shopping services. What each print goes for, when it was released, what stores are good and which ones are bad, different kinds of petticoats and different kinds of lace... But I own next to no lolita. I've been into the fashion and a large part of the community for years now, but all I have is a milanoo dress from years ago, a few petticoats, hand-altered things from local thrift stores and home-made headdresses and a pair of bloomers. I can pair things with the dress (like good shoes and a black sweater with a faux fur peter-pan collar and cuffs) to make it look better, I can use what little I have to create several outfits... but really, I'm rather pathetic. I'm knowledgeable, more so than most the girls in the lolita community where I live are... I just wish I had a job so I could save up money to go to college and invest in some decent lolita clothing.

>>5240831
I agree. All of the popular and cool people in loli are posting on tumblr, so things like D_L look bare. Egl itself is more of a place to answer noobs and talk about new releases, so there isnt going to be much there if it isnt drama.

>>5240849
I don't think that's all that unusual. Lots of people are like you or once had a lolita wardrobe and have had to sell it all for some reason. But don't tell anyone since you'll lose your loli-clout.

Not a lolita, but here's a related confession.

I use to be one of those guys that saw lolita and laughed at it with his friends. "Look at those ridiculous girls." and such. However, as I've spent more time on /cgl/ I find lolitas fairly attractive.
Though not 'sweet' I believe it's called. Basically the one with lots of pastels and ton's of accessories everywhere. I like the ones with darker tones, and less ostentatious colors. The main things that come to mind are mori, dark gothic, and the few military lolita threads I've seen. Though it seems like sweet is the most common type of lolita.

>>5240831
>>5240831
Oh I see so everyone is on Tumblr. Ok that makes me less worried about the comm shrinking.

I've started giving into the pressure to have brand. I'm more than capable of making my own dresses, and I've been active in lolita for five years now. I guess I just want validation, and it feels like you have to have brand to get it.

>>5240881
Actually classic loli is what's in now.

>>5240752

A lot of people stop posting and hide more in the shadows online because they don't want to be made fun of it. Let's face it. It hurts. They're just protecting theirselves. Some girls leave lolita because of that. it wasn't what they expected.

I feel that this might be more related to the economy world wide tho. People are loosing jobs and the cost of lolita has gone up. People have to leave lolita behind in order to survive and sell all their stuff off to make ends meet. It's so sad to see all of this happening. But, I think the economy has a lot to do with such a small fashion dying out world wide.

I'd really like to have a snail mail Lolita penpal. Someone who likes vidyer games and doesn't not like slightly chubbier lolitas. I'd just really like to have a Lolita friend and it doesn't matter to me how far away they are. Maybe another Loli who is too far away from her comm for meets or is too shy to go.

>>5240913
A lot of the older girls are also leaving the lj comm because of all the newbies. It gets old seeing 3 bodyline reviews every day and the same questions asked over and over. I've migrated to tumblr.

>>5240913
That makes sense too. A lot of my friends have been losing their jobs. It hurts and lolita is just a hobby so they sell it to make rent and pay the bills.

>>5240922

https://www.facebook.com/groups/129599770469067/

Knock yourself out, anon, I mod it myself to make sure no weirdos get in. (And it's a damn good job too, I'd hate for anyone to end up snail mailing that girl who had "being a slut, lolita, pedophilia" in her about me... NOT THAT LOLITA)

>>5240793
hmm... is this a UK comm?

>>5240717
If I ever see you at a convention, you're getting a gigantic hug and, I don't know, a cookie or something else that makes you smile. (Admitted, we're both anons, but roll with it.)
I'm not a loli, but I am a cosplayer. When life's bad, I do more complex costumes to have something to take my mind off it, and cons are that sort of event that has me thinking "If I can just make it to this date, I'll be okay."

>>5240910
mind telling an ignorant fella what defines "classic" lolita?

>>5240717
This is going to sound retarded but take some vitamin D, and get a blood test. It's entirely possible that you are vitamin deficient, and it's one of the leading causes (and easiest to treat) of female depression.

It's the most pathetic thing in the world but if I go for week without taking it, I find myself sobbing in the shower and wanting to step out into traffic. When I take it regularly, I feel just fine. On days when I anticipate lots of stress I take a double dose (I usually take around 1000mg a day) and I feel like fucking superwoman.

Other than that, seek help. If you're a student, many universities offer free counselling. You don't have to go in and divulge your secrets to a stranger, but just having someone to talk to once every week or two about your superficial stresses can help you ease and organize your mind, get an unbiased/outside opinion on things and help you get some perspective.

Just remember, when it hurts so bad, you're not alone, and it CAN get better.

>>5240997

http://hellolace.net/styles/classic

>>5241007
Not the person you were referring too, but I've been coping with a lot of negative things as well, so I think I will try the Vitamin D supplement out. Thank you for posting the suggestion, hopefully it will help me.

I'm not a loli, because i don't own any dress...

but I'm crazy about SailorLoli and i wish i could only do coords that involves navy and sailor collars, and even with red, white and navy.
I've drawn some dresses, but i can't design for shit. lolita is a soo far away dream...

>>5240504
This would be an awesome space if it weren't so cluttered :/

>>5241008
ok yeah I could get behind that.

>>5240967
I don't really wish to give any hints where I am from. I just really needed to get that off my chest. I want people to give me a chance and get to know the real me :(

>>5241096
It looks pretty organized to me.

Ever want a lolita community that's near to you to just die out?

I live in New York state and there's one particular lolita community (hint: it's upstate) that is filled with people so frigid, unlikable, unfriendly, ita, have a 'holier than thou' attitude, and can't take any criticism.
It makes me feel uncomfortable coming out that I like lolita and have coords because of them. I'm so afraid that their wank and drama is going to linger in that community and that they might find a way to cling some of it onto me. And they're the type of lolitas who would claim to be 'non-judgmental' but treat their comm like an exclusive club and act so elitist. They're the type of itas whom even if called out about their bad coords would seriously come back and say 'well we're better anyway because we're not stuck up brand whores.' I just wish they'd see the hypocrisy.

>>5241160
If you live near albany there is a lolita/aristo couple who frequently makes trips to the nyc metro area for meetups. You could try to befriend them and hitch rides.

I believe that is the area they live in, but they may have moved recently so I'm not 100% sure. But if you have access to any of the passenger rail systems you should try and come to the city occasionally, the community here is wonderful.

>>5241185
...that feel when you live in western new york....
>sadfrog.jpg

i admit that i am an attention whore. somewhere deep inside of me, i crave for attention and people telling me how pretty i am, how well dressed i am, how talented i am, and other compliments. when i became a lolita, all those things happened. i got the attention i wanted that i was never able to get from any other niche group that i joined and i think this is why i have stuck with lolita for so long and why it is such a big part of my life.

in a way i find myself to be stupid and pathetic because i know internet fame means nothing yet i want to become even more popular and have over 200 comments on d_l, have more than 2000 followers on tumblr, and have people wanting to friend me on facebook all the time. my craving for attention has gotten so bad that i feed off of the negative comments or threads about me on cgl and i love every moment someone talks about me here even if it is in a bad way.

>>5241355
Like the negative attention? Well, it's better than suffocating in it, I suppose.

I half regret that i started my dreadlocks before converting to the church of the lolita because no matter how well I style my hair I'm gonna get laughed off /cgl/ for lol nappy hair. The lolita hair aesthetic and my own hair aesthetic are in violent clash with each other.

infanta/dear celine> all other brands period

>>5241160
I wanna say Rochester.

>>5241355
You are not alone. I am not a "popular" lolita but people recognize me and I like the attention too. I know where it stems from though: I was raised by parents who never gave me any approval of the things I did and no matter how much I tried to be perfect, they would always find a fault in me. Through lolita, I found people who would acknowledge a coord I was proud of or people who would admire me for one reason or another and it made me feel good. I know I use lolita to fill that void in me that my parents left me and it's probably unhealthy but at least lolita isn't destructive in any way.

>>5240922
sup baby, how you doin'?
I want what you want...

>>5241389
>>5241355
>>5240680
i want to know who you are! which popular lolitas would make such confessions? ~stalker mode~

>>5241160
You didn't need to say upstate for me to know where this community is; and I'm not even in the Lolita scene.

I hate Asian Lolitas because the guy I like has a thing for Asian girls and Lolitas and I can only be one of the two.

>>5241463
I know that feel. He SAYS he likes me, but I'm not Asian, I'm not a great lolita, and I don't even look cute in that young way he likes...

I wish I'd never tripped here, so I could go to meets in other towns and make friends without people already knowing who I am and disliking me.

I fucking love brand elitism and it's one of the only reasons lolita interests me anymore

i haven't liked the vast majority of brand releases over the past couple of years

pic somewhat related

>>5240642
Elaborate. What do you sell in particular? The 500% markup sounds tempting.

I love shit-talking myself on /cgl/ because it starts the conversation, and then I get to see what people really think of me. Nobody even knows I go here.

>>5241560
I love sparkle grandma.

>>5241570
I do that as well. I'll start shit about myself from time to time. But, I always include stuff about better-known girls so it isn't as obvious. Then again, I'm pretty much an unknown. So there isn't much of a point in doing it.

>>5241376
fuck em. i believe you can coordinate any kind of hairstyle with any style lolita (though in my opinion i'd love to see some nice clean dreads with classic).

>>5240612
What did t-chan do?

I've been into Lolita for 6~7 years, and my area just now has a pretty decent Lolita group. Nice, no drama, not itas, not overrun with sweet clones. I've really hit it off with some of the girls, making some great friends, and now I feel bad that I'm planning to move to the other side of the country next year.

I am a fat lolita with a closet full of brand that the people in my com hate me for. Part of me enjoys the attention I get from it but the other part of me feels awful because those dresses drive me to lose weight..

Can you girls tell an interested guy something?

Why are there so many, for lack of a better term, 'slutty' lolitas? Is it just something about the fashion that seems to attract promiscuous girls who see it as a fetish?

Do most girls see it as a fetish?

Other people on /a/ have said that girls indulge in lolita to 'meet men'. Is that true?

>>5241570
>>5241584
I thought I was the only one who did that. Nice to know I'm not the only one.

Even though I'm really friendly, nice, and active in my community, I want a new one. I really hate these people, but it's all I have.

>>5241666
It's harder to get guys attention in lolita, so girls try to be more sexual and willing to compensate.

>>5241666
Lolitas usually have some sort of fascination/complex about sex. Either they claim to be precious never touched virgins who would never do or even speak of such a thing OR they boast about how much sex they have and how great their boyfriends are in bed and how they can't want for their boyfriend to get home so they can fuck again. The ones that claim to be virgins usually arent-if they can't even admit to masturbating then there's just no way they'd admit to having sex.

Oh, also, they seem to have some overwhelming hate for anime fans. If they find a lolita that likes anime she's usually shunned and called a weeaboo for it. Overall, Lolitas are among the worst type of woman possible. Materialistic-their dresses are hundreds of dollars each and they throw fits over said dresses if someone else gets it and they don't, bitchy, drama obsessed, and judgmental as fuck.

>>5241666

It's just the noisy slutty ones that attract attention.

Also, your source of information is /a/. How can you take that seriously.

Don't go creeping on lolitas. If anything they're even more sensitive against sleazy guys who seem to think lolita is a sex costume.

I haven't bought lolita since getting out of school. I don't know why. There are things I'd love to have but I haven't had the energy to purchase them.... It's been almost a year since I bought anything lolita related and I don't know why.

>>5241376
>dreadlocks
>lolita
...i kind of want to see this. if they're done nicely, it would be refreshing to me to see a different hairstyle other than puffy pigtails.
if morilolita is something that exists, i think dreadlocks would look awesome with it.

My confession? Lolita makes me feel comfortably feminine for once in my life. Some days I'll wake up and be like yeah, today is a good day to throw on a compression vest and swagger around the mall. Then other days I'm tearing open my closet looking for frills and heels. I'm awkwardly androgynous, and my build is very mannish, so I could never find clothing in stores that made me feel comfortable, like I didn't belong in them or something. I have no idea what it is about lolita that makes me feel happy and pretty, but I'm glad that I don't feel ill or like I have to crawl out of my skin every time I put on a dress.

>>5241750
fiscal responsibility?

>>5241713
I hate the whole weeaboo part. It was gonna be my secret that I add to this thread but you beat me to mentioning it, anon. Damn.

The only two hobbies I've had for a long while have been lolita and animu/collecting figures. Lolita communities will brand you as an obese weeb for liking anime (despite going to anime conventions in most cases) and most toy collectors are weirded out and often laugh at lolitas. Sucks both ways, I guess it's why I don't have any anime friends or any lolita friends, they just don't click well.

>>5241750
THIS PICTURE! Is it a set? Where can I find it? It's perfect for something I'm making!

Sage for unrelated, sorry for interrupting the thread

Okies, my confession is... I don't know why I'm a lolita. I have half a wardrobe of brand I never wear. I think I'm just addicted to buying more, more more stuff. Kinda went out of control recently, put a lot of things on my credit card since I was buying Christmas pressies, and now I want the Chocolate Chess release to make up for missing Twinkle Carnival. I don't even like Twinkle Carnival. Or Chess Chocolate.

I spend a lot of time and money putting together mostly-brand coordinates (usually tights and shoes are offbrand), but I can't be arsed to do my hair and put on makeup and actually go out in it. I have a fairly active lolita community in my area but I'd rather hang out with my nerdy ex-classmates on weekends. About the closest thing to lolita is that when I shop at regular clothes stores I automatically chose the frilly things.

I've thought of just selling off the lolita stuff but I've only had them for a couple of years, and I've fought the urge to buy any lolita stuff for six years. I think once I sell them off I'll just buy them back again. I also don't want to go looking for my dream print all over again, but even though I've found them I don't wear them.

Gah. What's wrong with me? Why won't I wear the clothes I wanted to buy so badly?? Why do I keep wanting more???

>>5241768
No, I don't think it's that because I can spend it on other stuff without blinking an eye. But I think it's more that I don't have time to wear it (crappy retail job to gain experience/never had a job before) and now dropping $300+ to get a brand dress or a good handmade dress made is just too much.

I might need to go look at taobao shops and see about custom sizing. Maybe it's just that I want something else from lolita, I don't know.

>>5241769
I find that strange, since outside of meet-ups, conventions are one of the few places I can wear OTT lolita and feel safe from harassment.
I know of two friends off the top of my head who are lolitas and cosplay often, and it's just really nice to be able to talk about the fashion and then resident evil.

>>5241781
I had like, four pictures from this and they're all gone wtf.
Anyway, It's from a Victorian Maiden photoshoot I believe?
Try searching for that plus rabbit/bunny heads in google or something.

>>5241781

>>5241816

>>5241818

>>5241822

>>5241769
I know that feeling. Most people though don't mind me liking lolita and wearing it with my collection buddies. But I've been perma-branded a weeb in my lolita community (this was years ago) and so after all these rumors of being a disgusting, rude person.... I've just broken off from hanging out with other lolitas.

Ironically when I see lolitas go to anime conventions (the ones you know don't like anime) I can't help but wonder why they're there. But I'm more happier around my doll collection friends, my anime friends, and my toy/figure collecting friends more than I was with lolitas. They don't mind that I dress differently than them. They like me for me.

While it's more "ok" to like anime now and wear lolita there's still a huge stigma about it. There was one lolita secret where a person lost respect for a lolita just because she bought anime goods and merchandise from her favorite TV shows.

>>5241825

>>5241837

>>5241839
and I think this is the last one I have.

>>5241666
Lolis are quite sexually... Compliant. They will do a lot of things for random men.

>>5241828
>bought anime goods
>lost respect

How dare she spend her money on something other than blushing bunnies and English Breakfast.

>>5241862
lolo

when people ask me how i afford all my brand, i lie. i lie and say that i worked for it but the truth is that 90% of what i own was bought using my parent's money. the worst part is that i used their credit card by saying i was buying school and art supplies but that was not true and all the new things i buy are from selling the old things i bought with their money. my parents are poor and worked hard for the money and i blew their savings on lolita. i am an awful person and i hope that one day i can pay them back with interest what i owe them because i ruined their chances of buying a nice home when they have worked for years to finally have the guts in trying to buy a house. even when i know what i did was awful, i am still a shopping addict and keep on buying lolita although i have stopped using their credit card. in a way i am still using their money because i am selling my old dresses to buy new ones. i had to get this off my chest somewhere.

>>5241884
I have to ask... Why don't you use the shift key ever?

I dislike almost everything Angelic Pretty puts out, but I LOVE very extravagant Sweet Lolita dresses, such as ones with a lot of ruffles and bustles and stuff like that, rather than a simple dress with a LOT of print.
Which is why I'll probably be forever a DIY lolita.

>>5241666
>>5241862
[citation needed]

While most of the "lolis r whores who suck dick for brand" stuff is coming from /cgl/ trolls (congrats for falling for trolls, are you guys new here?), lolitas are usually a little older than cosplayers. Of course they are less insecure and prude, and more sexually active, duh.

>>5241801
Yeah, that's the odd thing. I wear OTT sweet to conventions when I'm not cosplaying and have loads of fun. But then again, that might be becuase I actually like anime. I can't imagine a lolita who didn't like anime showing up at a con and then... what do they do? What's the point?

Also, I'm jelly of your friends. Ironically enough, after I make my next brand purchase I'm thinking about starting up a Rebecca Chambers cosplay.

>>5241905
I don't like anime, but I go to cons to hang out with my friends and play vidya games and meet new people.

If that helps at all.

>>5241795
Wow, are you me? I'm going through the same exact thing. I'd love to chat with you about it. Email in field.

>>5241568
if you're still following this thread, it's mainly jewellery and hair accessories, fascinators and little hats and stuff.
You can get that stuff everywhere on the net and still people buy it for way too much oney from me lol
just stalk brand websites and popculture for hot things, I sold Lady Gaga-ish hair bows before many others and made good money out of that

I hate entitled poorfag lolitas.

That said, I've just been "collecting" dresses because I don't wear them for various reasons (ugly, lazy, dresses slightly too big, lack of complete coordinates, living in a shitty place, etc.). Even so, I enjoy loocking at what I have.

*looking

I am so very tired of young lolitas. Or lets say, girls who "behave" young.
I go to meet-ups for chatting with like-minded people, occasional photoshoots and fancy locations, not to endure your LOL XD EVERYONE IS LOOKING AT ME!!! crap

I don't understand why people just assume because I go to conventions and don't cosplay anymore and just do lolita that I hate anime.
I went up to one of my loli friends at nyaf while she was in a fucking adorable kigurumi and she had to give me some elaborate explanation and apology.
DUDE. I DON'T CARE. I fucking LOVE anime. I may have a shit tun of brand and am always in the latest print AP shits out but man I love anime. I go to panels, have fun with my friends, buy tuns of shit at conventions, ectect.
I also hate how because I am brand-size now (Not thin mind you but I don't have to undo the back lacing on new jsks ever anymore) When girls start to bitch about having trouble fitting into brando that I can not relate.
I used to have a 100cm bust. I FUCKING UNDERSTAND. Don't look at me like I have always been some skinny bitch and I don't know that feel.

>>5241916
Huh. I guess there is that, I can see going to a con to chill with friends. I remember reading a story here on /cgl/ from someone who went to a con (comic con, I think it was?) and saw two lolitas there who were complaining about all of the cosplayers and how there wasn't anything interesting there, and when asked why they were there if they didn't like comics, they said "to show off our dresses!" Or something like that.

>you are not allowed to like cosplay AND lolita
>you are not allowed to like normal fashion AND extraordinary/subculture clothes
>you are not allowed to like lolita AND gal
>you are not allowed to like more than one thing, ever


Just like the people who freak out when someone listens to, let's say, both metal and country
>cosplayers bitching at lolitas at cons, lolitas who fucking cosplayed the day before
Die in a fire

I'm too big to fit into most brand (yes, yes, I'm a fatty-chan, working on losing weight though). I realize there are a handful of places I can get custom sized items but... I'm scared to. My measurements can be pretty inconsistent thanks to up and down weight gain/loss and I'm afraid of ending up with an ill-fitting garment I can't do anything with because I managed to royally fuck up my own measurements. I'd rather try to coordinate with off the rack items that I'm confident I can fit into then take what I feel like is a gamble on custom sizing, even if that means I'm limited to items not specifically made for lolita. I've never gotten anything but compliments for my coords, but I know I would receive a lot of rage if I were to admit this publicly. Not that it wouldn't be unwarranted. I realize how stupid I'm being about this.

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Thank you sooo much! Have some platypus in return!

>>5242011
Are they safe to handle, aren't they venemous?

>>5241993
Those bother me D:
I LOVE sweet lolita and visual kei and boystyle and cyber and yamanba and hime gyaru.
But apparently I'm only allowed to like one of all of those. ;_;

I don't care about replicas, but I wish people would stop glorifying them. They're knock offs. Knock. Offs. Also stop trying to justify their reasons for getting them, get it because you like it. End of story.

>>5241160
hey there, I recently moved to the area and live in rochester and I know excatly how you feel :/ for I attended their most recent meetup and yeah...

>>5242037
I agree anon. Although personally its much more okay in my eyes if you aren't a hypocrite about it. Okay, so you agree with replicas. Fine. I dont but that's okay. They exist and aren't goin away so whatever. What I hate is when a "replica hater" decides its okay because "I don't normally agree with replicas but the price is too high" saw a shitton of that in the Puppet Circus Replica review on EGL.
Bitch if you don't agree then don't buy them. But buying them means you do agree on some level. Stop making up reasons to support why it's okay in this ONE instance just because you want it

Pic only sorta related as its a replica

>>5242037
Agreed. Admittedly, I will buy replica fabrics to make my own clothes and modify them as they're not as expensive as brand, so I don't feel so bad about it, but I HATE it when people pass off replica for the legit stuff.

>>5242100
I agree. I am not morally opposed to replicas, in fact 100% of my music is stolen, and I had a little 5 finger discount run for awhile. I have no issue with "stealing". But when you're a hypocrite about it, or when you try and pass your knock offs as real, or when you claim ~brand is too expensive~ I will think less of you as a person because you're an idiot.

>>5241969

I know that feel, sis.

This time last year I was 105 in the bust, I've gotten down to about 94 and still losing. I can actually wear some brand now, it's glorious.

Isn't it one of the best feelings ever when you realize you need to take in your clothes for once?

>>5242006
I'd say get the largest brand dress with shirring you can find so it can fit you while you're losing weight. Keep your tops from Target and thrift stores so they are pretty disposable. Also skirts with shirring so only your waist measurement is the only measurement that matters.

At a meet-up, try to find a point where you can throw in a "I'm working on losing weight so I don't want to buy many clothes yet". People will open up more if they know you are working on losing weight, and love to offer tips. Just don't fuck it up by getting a fat cupcake and filling your tea half with cream.

I make a ton of money and have literally 0 debt so 70% of my 130k a year income is disposable. In turn, I have a gigantic wardrobe filled with brand and beautiful cords but I've never worn them out of my house, been involved in my local com, or posted on a egl or anything like that but I lurk like crazy and wish I was brave enough to do any of those things):

I love lolita, but I have yet to buy a dress because I feel like i'm too ugly for it. I feel like it would be a waste of money on me.

I know I'm late, but whatever.

>>5240580

I was actually worried of showing my face in front of people because the clothes were so fucking ugly. It doesn't help that I hate sweet. I'll choose classic and punk loli over it anytime.

>>5242262
Holy shit that's amazing. Let's be friends!

>>5242119
Fucking love that feeling!
I do not love the feeling tho, of my first ~from the brand~ blouse was an AP size L, and I just tried it on today.
And then laughed my ass of about how big it is on me. I was seriously just going to buy the other size L blouses AP usa had in stock.