>wearing a collar to an anime con

Oh what, did your girlfriend decide to try on that 15 dollar collar you bought in the dealer's room and suddenly she's your submissive? Let me guess- She only wears the collars to ANIME CONVENTIONS? You sound like shallow poser trash. I fucking hate people like you. Congratulations on making the community seem like a bunch of club dragging neanderthals worse than fucking furries. UGG UGG U TOUCH SUB I KICK UR CUNT.

You're a terrible dom and a terrible person. I hope you kill yourself.

I for 1 always ask before taking a sub anyway

>>5213165
She's been my submissive for three years. Only collared her last year. And no she wears it all the time. I'm so sorry you felt the need to look like a moron by posting your harsh dislike for a certain lifestyle.

Do you really expect hambeasts to think logically? Seriously, they're hambeasts for a reason and it's not just because they're fat.

I'm not even in that part of the fetish culture and I know: FUCKING ASK THE PERSON HOLDING THE LEASH.

That really is common courtesy. If the sub isn't talking and is just sitting there looking about and only the person holding the leash is talking to me, I know what's up.

I've even asked "can I pet her" when a sub was on her knees because I wanted her to know I wasn't ignoring her.

OP, sorry this happened. And I'm sorry to your sub as well that people were rude enough to treat them that way.
But in their defense, most people who do attend cons are just playing pretend. They have had no exposure to a public dom/sub relationship outside of a con.
But if it helps.. try not to do it at anime cons or stand about. Remember your the population. Most people are going to think you're cosplaying something. You and your sub don't want the unwanted physical attention, that may happen when people think you're cosplaying.

>>5213177
Okay. I say I'm not a part but.. Gothic clubs, fetish wear, etc etc... I'm slightly more exposed than the average person. But I wasn't 'schooled' on the appropriate way to interact with subs.

>>5213147
Lol you're all fucking losers with insecurity issues. Doms, ahahaha. Twats.

>>5213177
I do realize they probably don't know but in any case, you shouldn't be grabbing anyone regardless of their lifestyle, and I'm not about to make my sub take her collar off since it's like a wedding ring for the both of us. It's a very meaningful gesture (at least for me) to give a sub a collar and I won't do it unless I'm completely serious about the person.

Y'all are some weird motherfuckers

>>5213182
Completely serious that you can treat them like a piece of dogshit. Okay.

>>5213183
I don't blame your for thinking that. Most who aren't in the scene usually will never be ok with it. So I understand you're point of view.

>>5213182
Do you leash her in public?

And yeah. Regular con-goers tell people off CONSTANTLY about touching people and jumping them and grabbing props. We ALL hate it.

Honestly, I'd frightened that people have been grabbing her -collar-. That can't be comfortable in the least.

>>5213185
I don't treat anyone badly... I'm not sure what you're talking about.

I'm not quite sure you understand what a D/s relationship is anon.

>>5213186
Oh no, I'm fine with it. I just think y'all are some weird motherfuckers

>>5213189
They don't. Ignore em.

It's just an easy troll point.

>>5213188
No I don't. I'm not really into the leash thing.

Dear BDSM people,

I don't care what you do behind closed doors. But in no way do I want to have to deal with your affectations and roleplaying in real life. This is not like "acting gay" or "public displays of affection by norms". You know exactly the effect it will have on outsiders, which is part of the thrill. You inconvenience and annoy me. Fuck you.

>>5213189
I care about you so very much I turn you into an object. I'm a nice guy!

>>5213194
The only indication my sub shows of our lifestyle out of our house is her collar which can have a logical with most people that see it.

See this is what I hate, complete ignorance. D/s isn't all about whips and chains... that's BDSM which can be a part of a D/s lifestyle, isn't practiced by all in D/s relationships.

And this 'role play' is very insulting. I'm in a legitimate relationship and it's honestly insulting to hear that my love for my sub is 'fake'.

>>5213200
You are being trolled, just ignore it.

Different anon here but if your sub acts like anyone else but for the collar, why doesn't she get rid of the weebs tugging on her collar herself?

Surely a collar is in itself a symbol of ownership and thus objectification?

Not trying to step on any toes but I thought that was the whole point?

>>5213193
And that STILL grab her collar? What the actual fuck?
Should I just never wear even lace collars if that shit happens?

But I guess it's not TOO deviant if you're not using the leash. Odd that they're still grabbing her without that attention drawer.

Anyway.. I have nothing to add, so I'm going to head out.

>>5213194
If it's just a collar.. not that odd. I thought for a moment that they were being deviant in public and drawing attention to themselves as well.

>>5213197
Eh, it's an agreement really. Some just take it further than others. The subs can want it just as much as the doms do. It would be a shitty relationship otherwise.

>>5213200
You have to admit.. you stormed into here declaring yourself and deviant activity.

Also, those hambeasts aren't here. If they are, they hear about how they shouldn't touch people constantly.
And I'm not sure, but are you new to 4chan?
This anon doesn't know that it's not "roleplaying". It's ignorance, not hate. They didn't say "fake".
Take it with a grain of salt.

You seem to be getting upset. Maybe you should head off as well?

>>5213205
Maybe you should head off as well, sis? lol

>>5213212
>I have nothing to add
>write 2 paragraphs

Haha. I must be tired. Always.. good luck keeping the weebs off her. I hope she starts to defend herself.

There's a big gap here between interactions with a sub who acts like anyone else and a sub who isn't allowed to interact with anyone but the dom in public. And I think because the latter got raised it's what the hostile people are reacting to (or they're trollan).

>>5213209
It's not that black and white. Different Dom/mes see the significance of collars differently. It can mean ownership to one, and a marriage proposal and sign of ultimate trust to another.

>omg gaiz some hambeast ttly grabbed my subs collar i beat them up
>im so edgy n hardcore lolololol

god damn it

Some people won't agree/understand your private sexual dealings.

Get over it.

fat lesbians wanting to stand out.

fat lesbians wanting to stand out errywhere.

>>5213220
But anon said that their sub acts like everyone else in public, which is probably why she was so approachable in the first place.

>>5213224
>>5213225
>>5213226
U mad?

>>5213227
But then that goes back to why the hell she can't get stop the weebs pulling her collar on her own.

wow it sure is hard to hear you with your head up your ass like that

>>5213230
Because OP isn't making sense.

I've tried to take this thread even semi-seriously and all I can keep thinking is:

>Do you Catan?

Oh my god my sides. That's what I get for hanging out on /tg/ so much I guess.

>>5213229
>>5213229
>>5213229

naw op mad silly

>>5213230
Ugh... sorry, I stated earlier but I guess it didn't make it into the thread. She doesn't need my help and I don't give it if she doesn't want it. She can handle herself. She's not a damsel in distress or anything and I don't treat her like one.

I doubt you're even a remotely decent dom if you can't even handle people tugging your subs away, OP.

>>5213238
>mfw I'm stay here

Ah.. I think we all just assumed based on your protective reaction and "MY submissive" that the relationship could be understood on some level by outsiders. Meaning that she is a complete and utter submissive.

>>5213239
>possessiveness
It's a common thing in relationships.

>>5213239
He is the insecure dom, you know the real bitch dom?

>>5213242
>He
LOL

God damn it... OP, it's alright... seriously.

One of you needs a "back the fuck up" face on all the time it seems.

OP, what do you do when it happens?

I think people should ask before grabbing ANYTHING that belongs to/is attached to someone else, at a convention or not. No matter if it's a collar on a sub or a keyblade on a Sora cosplayer..

>>5213241
Sounds like she's just a jealous bitch who likes to boss people around and found someone who doesn't mind being bossed around then, only to add collars to add to the sugoi look at me being an edgy kawaii bitch factor.

>>5213243
Oh, well that explains a lot now lol, this just got even more hilarious. "BAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW THEY TOUCH MY SUB, BAWWWWWWWWW I WILL WHINE ABOUT IT ON THE INTERNET AND ACT TOUGH BECAUSE I'M A STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN LOL

>>5213246
Lecture them on common courtesy after I stop my sub from kicking their asses.

>>5213249
And another one...

>>5213250
You're overreaching simply because you mistook the gender.
Now of that was implied. Clearly, because you assumed they were male.

>BAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW THEY TOUCH MY SUB, BAWWWWWWWWW I WILL WHINE ABOUT IT ON THE INTERNET AND ACT TOUGH BECAUSE I'M A STRONG INDEPENDENT MAN
Fixed for you.

There's no way you're a complete moron. Don't overreach. 0/10.

Wow... this thread

Full of assumptions and implications. Stay classy ladies

>>5213258
*None of that

>>5213238
Well then what the hell is the problem? She can handle herself, so why are you whining on /cgl/, and for that matter, why do you even need to mention the sub/dom relationship?

Why isn't it just 'Bitches shouldn't tug anybody's collars'?

Did you just feel the need to say you could kick their asses if you wanted to?

>>5213256
Actually, I'm a sub and it's shitty doms like this that make me laugh so hard you wouldn't believe it.

>>5213259
>OP was totes classy and everything

>>5213233
HOW DARE YOU PRETEND TO BE HUMAN?

Tell me what you think about...love.

>>5213253

>lecturing them

laughinggirls.jpg

Generally it's a bad idea to do that sort of thing at conventions anyway. I know around here it's banned to have anyone on leashes or to be connected to another person (Death Note handcuff style, etc) due to it being at high risk of someone getting hurt. I know it's a lifestyle and often 24/7 but if you're going to events and this sort of thing has already become a problem then you and your submissive need to come to an arrangement to prevent it from happening. Ditch the leash and hold their hand instead and I'm sure if they work or go out in public daily you've already figured out a solution to their collar so if the collar itself is what's getting all the attention, do the normal procedure.

>>5213269
OP said that don't use leashes. They're pretty much just going for the collar.

Oddly, it's the collar itself.

>>5213269
I don't use a leash... this has been said earlier in the thread. I don't see what the difference is between grabbing my subs collar and grabbing your boy/girlfriend's gold necklace.

>>5213262

Another sub here. OP sounds like a child and I refuse to take this thread seriously.

>>5213271

>implying they don't do that too

egotistical swine

OP, I am ashamed to even be in the same lifestyle with you... You are a disgrace to all Dom/mes and I feel so sorry for your sub...

>>5213271
No difference. But we assumed there was because of the way you said it to be honest.
Easy mistake from just the OP. I think we ALL thought there was a leash involved.

OP confirmed for master troll of trolls

though you would have induce moar rage on a fetish site

>>5213273
I didn't even imply anything. You are just itching for conflict aren't you?

>>5213275
Why so? Can you explain it to me? Why is OP so radically different from yourself?

>be a sub
>someone grabs my collar
>politely but firmly remove their hand and tell them if they would like to take a picture with me, all they had to do was ask.

>be a dom
>someone grabs my sub's collar
>politely but firmly remove their hand, and tell them that if they want to take a picture with my sub all they have to do is ask them.


ruffians

What is "mes"?

>>5213280
Because they're using their 'lifestyle' to sound cool by posting on a public forum about her problems... Granted it is cosplay related but like another anon said, why mention the D/s relationship at all?

>>5213284
Got ya. And I agree.
Sorry OP. But I agree with them on that note. Next time, leave out that detail if it's not necessary.

Obviously your doing something wrong babe... Or your sub is a pussy for letting them touch her. No one has ever gotten close to even touching my collar.

>>5213284
Well, I think the point of OP was that not all collars are kawaii uguu furry collars, and that a sub's collar is more meaningful.

Honestly, I can only see the craziest weebs deciding the first point of contact is to grab the collar. I think that's why so many assumed the sub was having to be silent or something similar - who just grabs a collar without talking first? Or glomping...

If you don't want people grabbing her god damn collar then you should have given her a less obvious 'collar'. I gave my sub the trinity symbol pendant on a thin choker cord. It's really pretty and doesn't look so harsh and costumey.

This is why I think OP isn't really serious... When you're in a D/s relationship and you give a collar, you want it to be special and meaningful, not some BDSM honking leather collar...

>>5213282
>ruffians
>mfw

if only you were a man and not a /cgl/ sandyvagina, I would love you so dearly

all other love experience previously in your life would not be able to compare.

the sex would be great, too.

>>5213297
Was this thread posted on a fet comm/group or something? A lot of people in the lifestyle showin' up.. Not that that's a bad thing. Just curious.

>>5213302
No, it's people trying to be 'edgy' who know nothing about the lifestyle.

You know, most conventions have guidelines in place banning leashes and recommending that any collars worn have a quick release mechanism so that if someone were to grab said collar, you would not be dragged away or harmed.

Put your 'lifestyle' on hold and don't wear a fucking collar to a convention hall full of aspies. If you MUST wear a symbolic collar, have one that will break away if pulled on by some hyperactive, borderline retard. Or would you rather have your 'sub' strangled as some shrieking, socially inept fatty drags them away for a KAWII-DESU molestation party?

>>5213332
>put your lifestyle on hold
Wow... how insensitive. To some people, taking off a collar is like taking off a wedding ring.

Calm your tits. You sound like an insufferable douche and a terrible Dom with anger and restraint issues. Yes, it was inappropriate for some assclown to grab your sub, but this is 4chan, where people have at least an inkling as to how D/s relationships work. Go complain on Gaia or somewhere else that the brain dead weebs reside.

>>5213336
>taking off a collar is like taking off a wedding ring.

I don't know about the rest of the married folk here but I take off my wedding ring when I'm bathing, baking/cooking, swimming, doing outdoor activities, and especially if I'm traveling or going to a convention. Just because I'm not wearing my ring doesn't mean my marriage doesn't exist.

>>5213340
>implying everyone does exactly what you do.

I said to SOME... lrn2read

>>5213340
Seriously...what's the big fucking deal about taking a wedding ring off for a short period of time?

>>5213343
Because some like others to know they're married? What's the point of a ring if you don't wear it?

My parents were asked to remove their wedding rings to be medical staff at a sporting event last weekend. They would have done it with a shrug except both have gotten a bit larger since they were put on and now they can't get them off.

>>5213336
Fuck anon you don't know anything about the symbolism of collars. Don't talk about shit you know nothing about.

>>5213336
Unless you're in a full-time D/s relationship, the collar should be able to come off during certain circumstances like bathing or strenuous activities that don't involve genitals or a scene. If you're doing a scene in public or have one of those clunky-ass collars that weigh a metric fuckton, you're fucking weird and deserve the crap you get. Keep your bedroom antics to yourselves unless you're in a club or you're around people that have the same sexual proclivities as you.

>>5213346
>medical staff
Well that's fucking obvious... you can't wear any jewelry when you're medical staff... you can't expose potential patients to metals they could be allergic to. That is not the same as going to an anime con.

>>5213147
why would you be so stupid and show your fetish publicly at a convention? Idiot doesn't deserve any better than being enraged by other idiot. Protip, you're not actually different.

>>5213348
I'm not the OP bro... I was just commenting. And yes, I am in a full D/s relationship and I wear my collar all the time. I don't want to take it off and I've had no reason to.

>>5213351
This

Fuck if you want your sub to wear a collar 24/7 then don't make it be so fucking obvious.

>>5213350
Yeah but at an anime convention you're likely to lose it. My best friend is still upset after losing her ring some where in the dealer's room where it slipped off without her noticing. If you're traveling or going to a convention, it's common sense to leave pricey jewelry at home to avoid it being stolen or lost.

>>5213350
They're out at a public event where children are present, waving around the fact that they're special snowflakes and like kinky shit. How do you not see a problem with this?

>>5213359
Not every Dom is this fucking dumb. Seriously, many D/s couples are a lot more discrete.

>>5213355
Exactly. If need be, get your sub a necklace or a choker. A collar doesn't necessarily have to be a fucking collar.

>>5213358
It's harder for a necklace to come off... (at least that's what I have for my collar) I've had no problems with it.

>>5213336
Mechanics, dishwashers, people that work with caustic chemicals, electricians, doctors, and a host of other people take off their wedding rings for extended periods of time to prevent injury or damage to themselves or the ring. It's hardly uncommon.

Multitudes of people put aspects of their personal lifestyles on hold during the day or out in public for the sake of privacy or to prevent personal injury.
Not wearing a collar during a convention full of people who have personal boundary issues is a case of when it is appropriate to set aside lifestyle choices for the sake of personal well being.

Would you tell a furry to keep their fursuit in the closet rather than wear it publicly? That would be insensitive to their lifestyle, demanding they set it aside for your own personal comforts.

>>5213361
I'm well aware of that fact. It just fills me with a white hot flash of anger whenever douche nozzles like OP don't understand the repercussions of their actions and get pissy at vanilla people who don't know any better. It's fine to get angry at the situation, but learn from your mistakes. Flipping the fuck out and getting violent or throwing a temper tantrum isn't going to solve anything.

Cba to read the whole thread so forgive me if this has been explained already, and yes I realise a lot of it is trolling, but having a lot of friends in D/S relationships it's not just about ownership.

From a subs point of view being a sub is about trust, it takes a great deal of faith in your partner to fully let go and give everything to them, to take everything they give you and be grateful for it. They're not collared unwillingly.

From a dom's pov it's not just about using your sub as a foot stool and cum bucket. Yes there are sexual aspects but as a dom you are responsible for your subs well being and the level of trsut bestowed on you in return can be very rewarding.

It's a commitment and many people fear commitment in all it's forms. And fear is based on ignorance. Please try and understand before making disparaging comments, thank you.

>>5213363
I think they were trying to continue to reply to the anon getting pointlessly butthurt over people taking their wedding rings off at conventions.

>>5213367
>brofist

>>5213363
Well yeah, necklaces aren't going to just fall off easily but the whole issue was leaving wedding rings and stuff at home if you're going to a convention to avoid losing it and anon further up comparing how some see taking a collar off to taking a wedding ring off...as in implying taking a wedding ring off is this totally out of the question thing that no one ever does.

>>5213372
Ok well anon didn't know shit. It's not like wedding rings at all. A 24/7 D/s relationship is a very serious relationship and the collar symbolizes years of gained trust and affection. It's kind of in bad taste to take it off... usually in a 24/7 relationship a collar is never removed.

Just fucking twat them one, OP. If some hambeast was inappropriate with my sub, I'd break his/her arm. Wearing a collar in public is in no way an invitation to be manhandled by fat scumbags, but they love to get their sweaty, grease-stained hands on anyone they fancy. Most of them would benefit from a hearty kick in the cunt.

Goddamn I hate people who can't keep their hands to themselves.

Wow, there are some retards in this thread. Learn the difference between 'sub' and 'slave' before you start flinging insults at OP.

Sage because it's not really relevant to this board, soz OP.

>>5213367
Oh shut up, it's a sexual fetish. Pretending D/s relationships are a step up from committed vanilla relationships and require more commitment/devotion is fucking idiotic. Get off your high horse.

It turns you on, and that's fine. I've been there. But nothing you get from it, nothing, you don't also get from the right vanilla relationship and it is NOT superior. Better for some individuals, sure, but not in general.

Hohoho!!! I see double standards!!!!

Why are you seagulls all of a sudden defending the hambeasts? OP's s/o was grabbed, she's pissed... it doesn't matter what lifestyle she's a part of, it's still fucking inappropriate. You guys are something else, I'll have you know...

>>5213382
>This post
>The way everyone sees Doms.
Moron

While I don't have any particularly harsh feelings towards them, I will NEVER understand people who feel need the revolve their entire lives around their fetishes.

There is absolutely no difference to me between this and wearing a cum-soaked fursuit every day.

>>5213391
I never said it was better than vanilla relationships. You're reading way to much into it. I'm not on a high horse... I didn't realize I wasn't allowed to voice my opinions about my own lifestyle...

And BDSM is a fetish, D/s is a not. They are not one in the same.

>>5213392
This exactly. Grabbing someone by something around their neck is not only unpleasant but dangerous, no matter what the necklace is or what it represents. I would honestly break the wrist of anyone who tried this on me.

>>5213392
Not a single person made out it was okay to grab someone by the collar.

The reactions were:

1) Why couldn't she stick up for herself/prevent it from happening?
2) Why is it being a BDSM collar relevant - surely not getting grabbed by the collar out of nowhere is a bad experience for whoever.
3) What the hell good does getting violent do?

>>5213392
If they had just said "Stop grabbing my partner by the ___" then we wouldn't be getting on OP's case, it's the extra details OP thought they just HAD to include that are making people roll their eyes. I haven't actually seen ANYONE defend the people that grabbed them, just telling OP that maybe they need to rethink what they and their sub do next time they go to a convention for their own safety.

God damn it, everyone in this fucking thread is an idiot.

BDSM=/=D/s
Submissive=/=slave


FUCK!!!

>>5213396
>And BDSM is a fetish, D/s is a not.
Pffft yeah you're still on your high horse

>>5213406
Fine, believe what you want. It's no concern of mine.

>>5213406
Yeah... sign of an ignorant vanilla.

>>5213366
>vanilla people who don't know any better

>weeaboos grabbing a person's collar and jerking them around, disregarding personal space and common sense

>>5213392
Being grabbed by someone you don't know and manhandled is inappropriate.
So is going into a situation knowing that there are social inept weirdos that are grabby wearing a fucking collar.

It's like going to a gay bar then getting upset when another woman hits on you, or wearing a low cut top then getting upset when someone comments on your tits.

>>5213391

You may call it a sexual fetish if you wish. As I said, I have friends who are in d/s relationships, not I. I'm not on a high horse and no where did I refer to it as a 'step up'. A 'vanilla' relationship is no less and no more than a d/s one, it's just different. You don't need to justify your tastes to me anon I was simply explaining the more emotional sides to d/s.

>>5213396

Thank for replying in my stead.

>>5213404
you're the one throwing your toys out of the pram and failing to see that even with anons not getting terminology right, their main points still stand.

How about you calm down, stop insulting people and try to make the scene look calm and mature and not full of fucking aspies?

>>5213413
Please tell me you're trolling. How do you ever expect us to get taken seriously if your response to someone saying you're arrogant and immature is OMG u so ignorant & vanilla?

>this whole damn thread

OP was a jerk, hambeast was a bitch, and the rest of you are arguing about how you get your rocks off.

>>5213418
Never said they didn't stand. It's insulting to hear that my relationship is seen as a fetish. Sorry.

Relationship status and fetishes aside, I know everyone agrees that it's FUCKING INFURIATING when weeaboos grab your shit at conventions. Whether it's a collar or a prop or a dress, it's always annoying.

We should talk about weebs not understanding personal space or breaking props instead.

>>5213415
Personal space has it's place and all, but I think OP was more pissed off about them daring to touch their precious wittle subby-wubby. Yeah, OP has every right to be upset about aspie shitbiscuits grabbing their friend/lover/chew toy, but they were bitching about ZOMG NOT MAI WAIFU SUBBU.

I've got classes and this thread has long since gone full retard.

Can't all you faggots just all agree that being grabbed and yanked around suddenly by some random stranger is inappropriate and end this shitty thread already? Fuck, this thread isn't even remotely as entertaining as it should be.

>>5213430
Everyone agreed to that from the start.

>>5213425
Well too bad, it is. You should really be used to that.

It is SEEN as one, that is.

>>5213435
Good. Now all that's left is ending it.

>>5213439
Nah, it's fun poking. Don't be sad you missed out.

Holy shit guys, you've been arguing for three hours. This is why every other board laughs at /cgl/.

>>5213446
Something tells me the people posting now are not the ones who were posting 3 hours ago.

>>5213427
>We should talk about weebs not understanding personal space or breaking props instead.
Then that discussion should include ways to prevent weebs from doing such things.
Having a safety release on collars/neck wear/wrist wear, keeping a careful eye/firm grip on props, traveling with friends, those such actions. Working on looking intimidating is helpful as well, but not always feasible for everyone.
Actions in the event someone does act inappropriately should include contacting staff members and reporting the action to them, so that they can make note of the instance and take disciplinary measures. Learning basic self defense is helpful, but it can get you in trouble as well, since more often than not the defender is punished over the attacker.

>>5213437
>I don't feel the same as you
>No one can have a different opinion than me

Oh and by the way, it may be SEEN as one but that doesn't mean it is, genius.

I wish I had a domme.

So few dominant females exist. ;-;

>>5213469
They exist, they're just straight.

>>5213427
>it's FUCKING INFURIATING when weeaboos grab your shit at conventions.

This reminds me so strongly of waiting in line for autographs from Versailles (Jrock band) and some weeaboo jrock fan was in front of us wearing this shitty cloth over her nose to 'cosplay' a jrocker (while wearing plain clothes and normal hair) and there was this one Versailles fan that flew all the way from Japan to follow them on tour and she had a fake rose in her bag and the weeaboo was practically squealing over how cute it was and could she touch it (obvious Japan girl didn't speak English) so she gave her a confused look, weeaboo took this as a yes and went to grab the rose out of her bag and the Japanese girl slapped her hand and hurried away. Weeaboo didn't even realize what she had done and just stood there all confused before commenting that the girl was totally rude and she just wanted to see it.

>>5213459
um thanks for just repeating what I said but insulting me? You're a clever one.

>>5213493
You're new to cgl aren't you?

>>5213469
Don't get why you're even picky on the gender. I'd be glad to be there for anyone who knows what the fuck they're doing and even that seems to be impossible.

>>5213500
>implying subs aren't attracted to different genders just like vanilla people...

There are homosexuals who are in D/s relationships... And you're asking why does gender matter?

>>5213500
>Don't get why you're even picky on the gender.

It's called having standards.

>>5213503
Sorry, I don't see my D/s relationships as kawaii uguu take me I'm forever yours my hubbywubby relationships, my bad.

>>5213512
Just because you don't care about gender doesn't mean everyone else has to think like you...

And your response to me made no sense at all...

>>5213512
That wasn't even implied. Not sure what the fuck you were reading.

>>5213417

can you explain the "step up" differences in those two relationships I actually read every fucking post in this thread and I am still a little confused.

>>5213538
There is no difference, that's what the anon was trying to say, neither style of relationship is better than the other.

/pol/ here... You niggers are weird

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-509713/Im-human-pet-The-Goth-teenager-fiance-walks-dog-lead.
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You're a pet? No pets on the bus bitch.

My dom gave me a thin leather collar, but I wrap it around my wrist in public. We've decided it's an acceptable compromise.

>>5213564

I'm sorry but I agree with this. If it says no pets on the bus no pets on the bus. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You want to be treated like an animal? Then learn 2 deal when someone says no animals on the bus. You wanted it? You got it.

I know I'm late but I don't understand why he's getting mad. He could've just picked something else.

I have a sub and because it was "interfering with work" (her manager asked her to remove it and not wear it there) I got her a more subtle one - just a gold chain. To everyone else it looks like a necklace she really likes, because she's still not allowed to take it off unless I say so/am cleaning it or she's taking a shower (because gold tarnishes). There are ways around everything.

I don't understand why OP thinks it has to be a bulky leather collar 24/7 when he knows what cons are like and generally the people who go to cons with collars on are furries. Of course furries are going to touch other furries.

>>5213653
I'm a furry, and if some other furry tried to touch me out of nowhere, I'd break his fingers. Some of us actually understand the concept of personal space.

If it keeps happening, thats probably a sign that you need to change something instead of raging over the Internet. Would it be acceptable for her to wear a turtleneck or hoodie to cover up the collar when at cons?
Also keep in mind that even if she didn't just buy that collar ten minutes ago because she thought it was cool, most of the people there did. As a symbol, its meaningless to them. I'm not saying it's acceptable to be a grabby weeb, by if you can't handle grabby weebs, you shouldn't go to cons.

>>5213340

this. Don't want to lose that shit down the drain while I'm chopping veggies.

P.S.: your collar will never be a wedding ring. For that to be true the Dom would need to wear one, as marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and rings are traditionally exchanged by both parties.

>>5213340

you actually SHOULD remove it sometimes, especially for things involving water. Skin wasn't exactly meant to have something up against it for 50 years solid.

>>5213670
>marriage
>partnership
>woman has complete control and can choose to fuck over the man at any time

No, sounds like marriage is pretty much a d/s relationship.

>>5213647
Maybe he can claim the incident gave him PTSD and get her certified as a therapy dog.

>>5213672

you have no idea what a true marriage partnership entails, do you?

>>5213676
Oh this should be rich, please go on and enlighten me.

Now this thread is starting to get interesting.

>>5213672
When did /r9k/ start seeping into other boards? It's not deleted, is it?

Marriages are more final and more weighty relationships, that's it. If you decide to marry a woman when you're in an unhealthy relationship and don't trust her in the first place, of course you're going to get dicked over.

Why would you marry a woman who would try to take complete control and constantly weigh the options of fucking you over on a whim? Those women don't just turn into mutant beasts as soon as you put a ring on them, they're rotten before you even decide to purchase.

IMO people who live this way are the dirtiest of furries..fucking your pets? That's a disgusting mentality. Uhhhg you are so gross.

>>5213687
Thing is, that's all women. I know given half a chance, you would fuck a man over to get half his stuff easily, it's basic instinct within you.

>>5213689
Don't associate furries and beastiality. Fucking actual animals is way better than believing you're a half-animal.

>>5213681

sounds like you've only had bad experiences with marriage. This makes me sad for you. Partnership or Marriage can be a wonderful and loving experience that you can hold on to for the rest of your life. If you care about it you work hard at it and maintain it. Love isn't easy, but anything worth attaining never is.

>>5213691
>I know given half a chance, you would fuck a man over to get half his stuff easily, it's basic instinct within you.
It's not because I'm not female. I know /cgl/ is mostly women, but don't assume.

And what would be the point anyway? If it was a healthy relationship it wouldn't be about money. You can't have a relationship with money.

>>5213700
>If it was a healthy relationship it wouldn't be about money

You poor naive man... you have no idea how women work.

>>5213691

I disagree. A Man or Woman can choose to drop to their baser natures, but it's those who rise above that make the difference. I could make a counter point and say that all men will choose to cheat on their female counterpart if given the chance, because on a base level this would allow them to spread their genetic code as much as possible, but the truth Is that all men aren't scoundrels, just like all women are not golddiggers.

I don't understand why people do this shit in public, no I don't want to know about your crazy ass fetishes and I don't give a crap what you do in the bedroom, hell if you get off pretending you're a table that's completely fine with me, but I'm not ok with seeing that stuff.

>>5213703
I'm honestly sorry that you think that. I know the ratio of unhealthy relationships out there to healthy ones is staggering, but being jaded only makes you seek out all the wrong women because they're the easiest to point out.

I think you greentexted the wrong part though. A healthy relationship isn't about money, it's about communication, intimacy, and trust. If anything you should've greentexted "You can't have a relationship with money." It makes more sense with the stance you're taking.

>>5213703

You poor bitter man. You've never had the privelege of healthy love have you? What's sadder still..I'm sure you come from a single parent household. Your father left your mother and she raised you to be a respectable young man who never let's down your female counterpart. You don't want to see the same thing happen to your mother to the girls you date, so you hold onto the relationships even when being abused and are the one who is broken up with and broken-hearted. Would you like a solution? Raise your self worth. You are a good person worthy of other good people. You don't have to date a girl and keep dating her if she hurts you. Find a good one.

>>5213706
Says the chick that did the "tasteful BDSM" pics.

>>5213704
Most people are too jarred by one bad experience to understand this. I suggest looking at /adv/ if you want your head to explode.

>>5213711

This. I honestly hope that you find someone good. I hate seeing all the hurt out there. If I could make it all better I would. I'd help people out there find the right person for them.

>>5213716
Yeah. Even as someone who agrees with >>5213704 I was about to say "You can't have a relationship WITHOUT money" even when the relationship's not ABOUT money.

sage for /r9k/ shit

>>5213726
Oh no, I meant you can't be intimate with money, not that you can only be in a relationship devoid of money. Sorry, I see how you got that from what I said.

Well since this is now an /r9k/ thread, I only thing it's appropriate for me to be allowed to say:

>that feel when no gf

;_; I'm so alone.

>>5213720
I understand that. I often feel very old for my age. You learn and relearn the nature of people quite often when you are young. I myself come from a single parent household with years of experience that should teach me that all men are cruel, abusive, and simple-minded creatures who lack emotion. Yet snoring gently next to me is one of the tenderest human beings I've met during my lifetime. It's a few bad apples who spoil the bunch. You just have to learn to sift through those.

>>5213718
I obviously did that because it gives me the biggest hard on ever, not because it's my job to be dressed up.

>>5213734

Don't feel too badly dear. It may take a while, but when you are ready and if they are the right person, you will have a relationship. Be assertive about what you want, but not aggressive. There is a difference between the two. Love is in part compromise. There will be things you don't like about each other, but your love should overcome and temper that. If you're not happy overall, then the relationship is not compatible.

If you really desire one, seek out someone who shares your interest to start.

no offense, but it's an anime con, not an S&M fetish con, you shouldn't expect people to get what it is.

Even if you both dressed as Kaoru and Nana
which since you like S&M lifestyle, you should watch, it might give you some new ideas

>>5213742
Not to sound like too much of a pessimist but well, as much as I would like to believe what you say, I can't, from the looks of things, I'm not ever going to have a relationship, nor would any girl want a relationship with me it seems. I've desired a relationship for a long time and well, either a girl runs at the sight of me or just wants to be friends. Not that I have anything wrong with being friends with people, I enjoy being able to be friends with people but it just seems as if I'm not meant to have a relationship.

>>5213753
Well not if you never leave that dingy room of yours.

>>5213753

Would you like me to work with you a bit, maybe come to a solution that might help? If yes, I will respond. If no, I won't hassle you about it longer. I merely ask because I want to see healthy love come to those who desire it, nothing more.

>>5213758
Well, I wish it was that simple anon, if it was then I'm sure I might stand a tiny bit more of a chance, though I doubt being able to leave the house would do much. Still, I'm working on it and going to therapy.

>>5213761
What do you mean working with me? Sorry for the stupid question but I don't really understand what you would do.

Wow. you have a huge problem. Your fetish DOES NOT belong in public spaces.

>>5213766

Oh, just to discuss a few things. Yes, what the above anon said would help some. Being able to go outside is important, and that is not said in insult. You experience some levels of social anxiety with interactions that contribute to your loneliness, not by your own fault. These tend to make conversations with the opposite sex difficult and when successfully attempted to some degree lead you to dissapointment with lack of intended response, only encouraging you further to consider love as something unattainable. I can tell you a few things about the female sex that hold almost constant as a universal attribute.

>>5213775
Okay, well uh, I'm willing to listen and try and take in advice.

I see a number of people in this thread declaring that 'your fetish should not be seen in public'. Are you really that terrified of a person wearing a collar?

There's a girl who works in a cafe near me who has a tube in her throat to allow her to breath after an accident. I can't stand to look at it, horrible as it is to admit, puts me off my food, mades my stomach turn over and my blood run cold. But I'm not going to tell her to take it out. It is as much a part of her life as a collar is to a sub.

Now most d/s pairs have their social etiquettes worked out so that the brunt of their activities goes on behind close doors or in familiar company. The majority of them have the respect not to inact their desires in public just as most of you don't start having sex in the street.

>>5213790
medical condition, fetishized lifestyle
medical condition that cannot be helped, fetishized lifestyle that can be switched out for something subtle and not noticeable when in public

really? you don't see how those are very different things

>>5213780

Here are a few that may help. Simple but effective.

>1. Find a partner shorter than you.
Seems innocuous enough but studies have proven that 99% of the female population find a taller partner attractive.
>2. Be assertive about your needs and wants. NOT aggressive, but be open to your prospective partner about what you look for in a relationship while managing to balance their wishes too. This isn't a "first-date" tip. It comes later, after you find a prospective partner. If they are the right one, they will be considerate of your needs and vice versa.
>3. Common Interests to Build On.
I can't state this enough. There should be some physical attraction to your relationship, but the attractiveness of your partner should not be your biggest motive for liking them. Their mental/emotional interests should be the biggest facilitator of interest. Over time, these will become physically attractive to you as well.
>4. Female self-esteem.
Here's another "almost universal". Whether they hide it or not, women love compliments and we prefer them to be genuine. You will experience periods of frustration in relationships where you will be met with questions like "Do you love me?" often. Not because you don't show your live, but because we are insecure and like to be told we are appreciated often.
>5. Love requires work.
Much like a plant, love requires hard work, tending, and pruning to grow properly. If you ignore it it will die. If you over-trim it will die. It often seems like an impossible balance, but if you have the right partner it will become second nature. You will need to accept there are things you may not like about your partner (I.e., if she leaves the shower curtain open or clothes on the floor, simple small things usually). However if there are too many things you don't like about her then perhaps it is not the relationship for you.

>>5213790
That's like comparing a paraplegic to a lolita who uses a wheelchair because it's "kawaii."

Some things are choices. You must deal with your choices, not blame others. A gay man loving another man? Not a choice. Wearing a gaudy collar? A choice. Wearing a discrete collar that means no less than any other? A much better choice.

Dear fat hambeasts, keep your bdsm bullshit at home, animu cons are for animu and not a place where you flaunt your (non-anime related) fetishes to the world. Fuck you.

>>5213790

I'm more amused by how everyone seems to think absolutely everyone knows what a collar represents.

I mean who knew everyone saw someone wearing a collar and thought "OMG SEXUAL PERVERTS" and not "Oh god, another goth bitch."

>>5213798

>6. Your self esteem.
You need confidence to make the steps necessary to strike up conversations with someone you are interested in and pursue it further. If you are put into the "friend-zone" back away, especially if you are looking for something more. You will only be hurt by many of these friendships in the long run, as they will make you feel second rate, especially if these girls go on to find boyfriends to complain about to you.

>7. It's okay to be nervous. Take risks.
It's okay to be scared or nervous when delving into something like this. There's the risk of being burned, but also of great rewards and joy.

>8. BE YOURSELF.

Another point I can't stress enough, despite the generic nature of the statement. If you want someone to love you for more than a day, a week, a month, or a year, you need to show that person your true self. They need to get to know the real you so that trust can be built on a solid foundation. Find a partner who is equally truthfull with you.

I know that these days media makes it seem as if it's totally accepted and okay to be into BDSM activities, but, as someone who's had problems quite recently, I'm telling you, be safe.

Cons are not fetish clubs, no matter how slutty or rinque the outfits are. You're attending a "weeabo" festival, and they will assume you're one too. It's a pain in the ass, yes, but not ilogical.

Also, your sub might want to go out with a more subtle collar, something that will not catch attention as anything special, but holds meaning for you two. Why? Because, trust me, regular people might think you're a freak and some will use it against you and your sub if they ever have a reason to. Leave the obvious S/M collar for your private moments, or for scene gatherings. Those crazy fatties would had not payed attention to it!

Remember that when you're in a public event, being discret is important for you, but also for your sub and everyone else attending.
What would you think is a fistful of otakus attended a S/M or fetish meet-up and they were mad because the rest of teh people didn't know about their lifestyle, tastes, etc?

>>5213808

and finally, remember that you are worthy of not only giving love, but Recieving it. You are not second class, you are not "beta" or "friend-zone material". It is crucial that you believe this. Tell yourself that you are worthy, ever day if you have to!! Boost your self esteem, love yourself! It is vital! Accept your flaws as part of you, and love your whole self. You need to accept yourself before you can expect others to, and you need to believe that you deserve love before it will come. This is more important than finding your partner first. Firstly, love thyself. Knowing how to love yourself is the first step in knowing how to love others, because accepting ones flaws is often harder than accepting the flaws of those you love.

>>5213798
Well already we are off to a bad start, I'm really short so that pretty much hurts my chances a lot.

I don't see myself as an aggressive person at all but well, I think just about everyone I've talked to knows what I would like in a relationship, though I doubt I can say I'm assertive at all so it's something which probably turns people away from me and well, I've never been good with being assertive and taking risks, I don't understand how I could change the way I've been for my entire life, so another thing which really ruins my chances.

As for the common interests, I've always wanted to find someone who just enjoys video games almost as much as me or something. I also just enjoy talking and finding out about peoples interests and stuff since I don't really have any of my own and I tend not to enjoy many things so I guess that limits things as well. Though physical attraction for me isn't a case of who I find hot, if I enjoy talking to them and share some interests with them and just love talking to them, I will find them attractive physically.

As for this, I don't really mind having to do this at all and I would want to compliment the person I'm in love with without "prompts" to do so.

I don't really see putting in work to the relationship as any sort of problem. I mean I know things wont be super happy amazing all the time so I wont set up false hopes like that.

QUICK NOTE:

There is no such thing as a "BDSM" relationship.

Only normal relationships with bdsm aspects.

So saying that a 24/7 relationship is any less of a relationship because of the kinks both couples enjoy together is a little silly. It would be like saying a couple has a worthless relationship because they spend a majority of their time cooking together. Or that a "furry" couple is any less because they both enjoy furries. If your relationship revolves around one aspect, it really isn't much of a relationship at all!

Just like any relationship they can be deep or shallow.

Kink doesn't have to be "hard" and "edgy"- It can be fun and an uplifting experience for anyone! And pay no heed to those touting such bigoted vanilla-hate. BDSM and kink isn't some super secret club you have to devote years of dedication to ascending... In fact, I would go as far to say that there are very few relationships that DON'T have some power dynamics, even if it sways back and forth between each person. If you're interested, play around! Don't take love and lust so seriously!

And since your here, I'll assume that means you like cosplay! If you're a little shy about acting 'dom' you should pick someone you consider to have a very dominant personality for your next costume, and roleplay as them! I know a lot of people who would fall to buckling knees at the idea of their partner dressing up as their favorite bad ass character and making love to them!

>>5213807
Semantics are relative!~ I'm sure everyone has a different connotation to a "collar". It means something a little different to everyone. But it goes both ways: People should respect the idea that something means something different to you, but don't disrespect them for not agreeing with your mentality.

>>5213802
>>5213823

I agree with these two responses, as well. Honestly I'm just using this reply as an excuse to post this picture of cute cats.

>>5213825
As for my self esteem, it's pretty much non existent due to several things in the past so again, another thing which is holding me back.

As I mentioned above, my inability to take risks pretty much limits me and I guess I wont be able to have a relationship from what I'm gathering?

As for being myself, I've never really hid myself from anyone over the internet, I don't see the point I'm I've always been truthful about pretty much everything, I pride myself on the only thing I can be confident in which is giving my word and being truthful. So I'm really always myself.

As for my self worth? it's pretty much the same as my self esteem, I don't believe I have any, the same as I don't really see myself as beta but more like more pathetic then that. As much as I wish it was as easy to just be able to boost my self esteem with phrases to myself, I can't seem to find that spark which lets me do that, to be perfectly honest with you, I hate myself with a passion. I've not found a single reason to love myself and really I've wanted others to show me but well, I doubt that can happen. So I guess since I can't accept myself, others wont accept me either.

Sorry for the shooting pretty much most of what you said down, I understand and appreciate what you've said but I've seen this kind of stuff before and well, I don't see how it could really help me. Again, I'm sorry for just being a waste to your time but I did read through what you said I was just was replying to what you said with how I felt about each of the things you've said.

>>5213794
>>5213802

I am comparing the aspect of a visual that makes one uncomfortable, not the aspect of choice.

Also I never specified the type of collar. Do you walk up to a man with mohawk and ask him to have a more subtle hairstyle?

>>5213805

You make it sound like they only wear their collars to anime conventions. Or you imply that people should change how they dress and who they are when they go to an anime convention.

>>5213859

Dearheart, it is not a waste of my time to talk with you. I love you very much sweet soul, and want you to find happiness forever! I only feel great sadness that you are hurting so badly inside, that you hate and do not love yourself. I feel great sadness at this. Don't give up little one, it will be okay.

>>5213868
>Or you imply that people should change how they dress and who they are when they go to an anime convention.

But seriously, it's funny how I only see these ~unique~ bdsm teens during anime cons and never in real life. Can you explain to me why an anime convention is a good place to play out and flaunt your sexual fetishes? I'm not talking about just wearing a collar here, but all those kids that run around and pretend to be a dom/sub pair or half naked boys that hold up signs that say "Will yaoi for treats! ^_^" while some girls keep him on a leach and order him around. Why can't those people stop acting like raging aspies and dress and act for the occasion?

>>5213868
>Do you walk up to a man with mohawk and ask him to have a more subtle hairstyle?

Depends on the circumstances. If I'm his employer, yes. If he's a customer, no. If he's some random shit in public, I don't really give a fuck unless he's smacking me in the face with it or I can't see the movie screen over it.

Look, I don't give a fuck about peoples personal fetishes, but wearing a fonking huge collar and leash isn't something MOST people see everyday. So people are going to stare. Maybe ask questions. Maybe whisper behind your back. Maybe pick up their children and cross the street. If you can't accept that people are judgmental by nature, then stop and reconsider putting it out to be judged.

Look, all that's being suggested here is dressing appropriate for the circumstances. Would you wear full bondage gear to a completely vanilla wedding? Would you put on a formal gown to muck out a stable?

i have the feel some of thse BDSM couples are just average weeabos that read some hentai and think they are actually into it, then act as if they're not an average otaku congoer

>>5213851
Here's a tip from a different anon. Don't be so pessimistic. Being a downer hurts your chances so much more than anything else. So you're not tall and don't think you can work 24/7 on a relationship. There are lots of small girls or girls with shorter boys because they make them laugh and don't let their height be a problem. You won't be with your girlfriend 24/7 for a while, you'll have your you time, so you can put effort into the times you see them rather than constantly.

The ones that attract the girls are the confident ones. Realise that, hey, you're actually pretty decent. Fuck anyone who says otherwise, you know all your good points. Acknowledge you have flaws, but feel good that you're such a damn good guy. Like yourself, be confident. Talk to girls like you're confident in yourself and are happy to talk to them, but it's not the end of the world if you don't.

Hitting yourself in the face before you even begin is the worst way to start.

>>5213147
I like cosplay and i have a bdsm life style.
So alot of the time i do cosplays which have bdsm, or just add alittle if it doesn't look too strange with the outfit.

I don't think people who don't cosplay and are only into fetishes should go to anime cons or expos but i am sure with OP that is not the case.
I assume he/she likes cosplay as well.

I don't think anything is wrong with that.

Whenever my boyfriend has his collar on people take photos, i dont think anyone ever pulled him away to take photos. Not that i can remember.

Maybe you need to give out a more protective vibe and people wont do that?

>>5214381
i only read the first half of the first line of your response and i could already tell that you were replying to lonelyfag

i think that's part of lonelyfag's problem. you can smell him from half a thread away.

>>5214381
This.
I'm barely a couple inches shorter than my husband, and though we've agreed that I wont wear heels height isn't really an issue.

Being assertive is a good thing. Do you want to know what the main trigger of fights in my relationship is? Too much "we'll just do what YOU want to do." I'm not saying steam roller her, but ask her first and if she doesn't know THEN confidently go forth with your plan.

Friend, the more pressure you put on yourself the harder it gets. You're going to find a girl. Is she going to be "the one?" Probably not. But making mistakes is what will teach you how to find that mystical soul mate.
Settling for someone just because they're there isn't a great way to start a relationship, however giving someone a chance that you wouldn't normally is a great learning experience. I hope you understand what I'm saying here- just relax and have fun with getting to know people.

Oh, and don't stick your dick in crazy. Ever.

Hey Lonelyfag,

Are you slim? Are you ugly? Are you straight?

>>5214468
He's straight, pretty average-looking, but I'm not sure about body. He doesn't look fat.

Aw, well, if he were slim, non-ugly, short and gay, judging from his interests and cute personality I'd date him.

>>5214426
The problem is that an annoyingly large amount of people seem to think cons are an excuse to throw basic fucking courtesy out the window

Hey OP, or any other shyer people in D/s relationships:
I won't claim to know the details on collaring ceremonies. But if you're having problems with the collar itself, maybe an innocuous bracelet wouldn't be out of the question?

It's kind of a subtle way to signify ownership, but I can understand if the collar holds personal value.

ha ha ha, oh man. THIS fucking thread.

Me and my friend were asking this girl who's obviously leashed by this fat wierdo for a picture. Dude was glaring at us, but the fat fuck couldn't do jack shit to us.

Gee, I wonder why? 'Doms' my ass, you all a bunch of betta niggas.

>>5214581
She'll get it when she gets home.

>>5214447
/i'm an inch shorter than my boyfriend(I'm 5'7 for reference there)
he's bitched about me in heels maybe twice in our 3 year relationship. I told him to get over because it's not a big deal. And guess what? It isn't

I actually find it very unattractive for someone to complain about that. Insecurity isn't sexy.
and neither are flats with a nice dress

>>5214591

>implying an insecure fat neckbeard nerd has the balls to hit another person instead of just acting passive aggressively to their 'subs' in hopes they fucking learned their lesson

Same goes to all the shitstains in this "lifestyle." I fucking hate smelling your defecated underwear in conventions.

>>5214526

Since my pet deals with clients face to face and presentation is important, we decided to go with a permanent bracelet. It's a flat sort of bangle design with a single O ring in the center. The band is about a half-inch wide (O ring slightly wider), and the surface is etched to give it a little texture and make it less shackle-like.

Most of the people who I run into with a permanent collar, it's one of these. IIRC, Eternity also makes bracelets and anklets, in a few different color options.

>>5214597
Anon you're replying to
Considering I'm not a girly girl who wears dresses all the time and generally don't wear heels because I don't like having my feet hurt after a short amount of walking, I don't really find it to be a big deal. If it was absolutely crucial to my happiness that I wear heels, then my hubby would fully support it.
Honestly, on a few special occasions I've worn heels and hated how clumsy they make me, so it was a pretty easy agreement to come to.

I myself am pretty damn insecure about my appearance, and it would be fairly hypocritical of me to not be accepting of his insecurities too. We can't all be perfect 100% well adjusted self assured individuals with no esteem issues at all.

>>5214615
My boyfriend wrote out a document and signed it saying how i can do anything i want with him and he is mine forever.

I cut my name into his back with a knife.

I know it's not normal and sick you don't need to tell me i heard it all before.

>>5214634
>>5214634
Sounds like a good way to get strangled in a freak accident, even better getting decapitated

YKINOK.

>>5214667
All I can think of is how the person's neck would turn green from wearing it all the time.

[No disrespect to the D/s community. Just me being a hypochondriac]

>>5214691
brr, yes.
My skin is chemically reactive to all of the metals and gets contact dermatitis within days- I cringe to think of the discomfort something like that would cause someone like me.

ITT: People with control issues and bitches

LOL TYPICAL /cgl/

>>5214709
Ah, good point.
I have a metal allergy, and wearing something like that would make a rash break out within an hour.
FFFFF-- Thank god I'm not into that kind of thing.

Captcha: father's Codshow
What the fuck

>>5214634

It's... It's so ugly though! I mean I guess some can pull it off but... It looks like somebody just took craft supplies and put it around their neck.

Im sorry about what happened. But its hard to do the sub/dom lifestyle at an anime con. Please dont take it too personaly. They are just weeabos.

>>5214749
Do you get rashes from doing dishes too Anon?
It took me years to figure out the bright red weeping rashes were from where my forearms rest against the edge of the sink, not the billion different brands of soap I'd try in attempts to avoid it.

>mfw this thread

OP calm down, its a convention and while its not excuse for poor behavior it happens. Let it go and move on.

>>5214770
Hm, I've gotten rashes on the insides of my elbows when I was younger, but never along my forearms. I don't think I rest my arms against the sink when I do dishes.
It did take years to figure out a good way to wear jeans, though, since the metal snap always irritated my stomach.

>>5214770
Oh my good lord! I have a soap allergy too!!

>>5214789
Well, I'm just happy to know I'm not completely alone. It sucks so much to have gorgeous jewelery out of reach.
>>5214796
Sorry to hear about your soap allergy. Mine isn't so much about soap but how soap and hot water and skin and metal all react to each other and make me miserable. It's more of a chemical reaction not a genuine histamine response, judging from the ineffectiveness of antihistamines.
Straight up soap on it's own isn't something that triggers it, I can wash my hands and all that jazz.

>>5214653
everyone has insecurities, it's about not letting those insecurities get a better of you.

>>5214806
I completely understand the jewelry thing.
It's awkward explaining to people why I never wear earrings. I had a silver watch last year, it was so pretty and a present from my grandmother, so I wanted to wear it a lot, but it made my wrist break out so badly.

>>5214859
>that feel when you're allergic to anything but high quality jewlery
>that odd feel when you're some how allergic to rings no matter if they're made of pure gold or not
It's weird, for earrings I can only wear those gold hoops/backings that are pure silver/gold
but any kind of ring except wooden rings make my finger swell up like a balloon

>>5214818
Retard.

>>5214876
When I was little and my allergy was just discovered, my mom tried getting me into plastic earrings. There weren't any that I liked, so the holes in my ears just closed up.
I love bracelets and necklaces, but I have yet to find a metal style of either that doesn't slaughter my skin.
Feels bad, bro.

It's kind of amazing how many people don't know the difference between BDSM and D/s. There IS a difference.

BDSM: While it can be associated (and usually is a part of) a D/s relationship, it's not the main focus. This would be the fetish aspect. This is also what is referred to as a lifestyle.

24/7 D/s relationship on the other hand is like any other relationship. both partners love each other equally as well as trust each other fully. It requires a lot of commitment just like with any other relationship and can be very fulfilling.

Also the whole 'pet' thing is a preference. Not every D/s couple partakes in this, same with the 'slave' aspect. It's really about open communication (constantly) and the two individuals involved listening and trusting each other.

The role of the Dominant and submissive are very similar but both are trying to reach different goals. A Dominant makes sure to take care of their submissive, building trust and making sure the sub under their care is happy and content. The role of the submissive is relatively the same but the aim for them is to please to receive love and affection. They are not forced in any way and are more than willing to do all they can for their Dominant without prompting.

So basically it's an equal commitment with both partners just wanting to do right by their partner respectively.

>>5214876

this only started happening to me a few years ago. any earring I wear, even pure gold, I have to clean with rubbing alcohol before I put them in my ears or else they itch horrifically.

sometimes even the cleaning doesn't work. :/

I just can't figure out where this allergy suddenly came from.

Oh my fucking god will everyone just go to /r9k/ AGAIN. I'm sure the lot of you have gotten comfortable on other boards once it was deleted, but you seriously need to go back now.

>implying just because OP's sub wears a collar to a con that they aren't legit D/s

There was never any mention of OP saying their sub ONLY wears the collar to cons... There was also no mention of OP saying they don't cosplay...

/cgl/ why u imply so much? And when someone tries to defend themselves by justifying their actions, you bitch and complain because you were called out.

OP I hope you're not making your sub wear their collar while cosplaying... that's fucking tacky. No wonder weabs are grabbing her...

>>5215102
Sometimes exposure over time can eventually build up and trigger.

So let's get this
>OP's partner wears inappropriate item that could be construed as a cosplay prop fetish gear at a con
>Other weeaboo hambeasts treat OP's partner like one of them
>HOLYFUCKOMG SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE EXPLOSION

It's your fucking kink, leave it in the fucking bedroom. You are displaying just as inappropriate behaviour as the weeaboos/furries/insert fetishist gear people try to turn into a fucking lifestyle.

>>5214381
The thing is, not to sound rude or anything but I've heard this stuff before, I'm pessimistic on here about my chances when I vent but I don't exactly go into conversations with people with a negative attitude. But again, reading your post kind of confirms my worries about not being able to enter a relationship. I've never been confident, the whole concept is foreign to me and I can't ever see myself being confident so that pretty much shuts down my chances.

>>5214447
I'm not really sure what I say to this, I mean I wouldn't be passive aggressive and stuff about what I wanted and how I was feeling, I would let my partner know. But that said I don't even know if that is being assertive or not? Still I don't even see myself getting into a relationship at all so I wouldn't really be able to have a "learning experience". As for sticking my dick in crazy, sex isn't really on my mind when I talk to girls and want to be in a relationship with them. Not to say it's not there completely but well, it's not my motive, hell if I could say anything is my motive it would be to just cuddle up with her while playing video games and just trying to make her happy.

>>5214468
>>5214473
I'm not fat, but I'm out of shape.
>average looking
>mfw
and I'm straight.


Sorry for the late replies but I was asleep.

>>5215102
They normally coat the inside of the rings with rhodium.

>>5214653

>not a girly girl who wears dresses all the time and generally don't wear heels because I don't like having my feet hurt after a short amount of walking
>I don't like having my feet hurt after a short amount of walking
>my feet hurt

Ok, this is your fault.
The trick to wearing heels is to buy the kind that arent made for hookers. You know, the smaller heels-the ones that don't make you like 4 feet taller. Casual every day heels will not hurt unless you buy the wrong size/fit. "Heels hurt" is not a valid excuse unless you have foot pain issues. Which would also be your fault.

As for this thread I personally think it's hilarious. Obviously the fatass was in the wrong, but keep your disgusting sex shit in your house. Why should anyone have to worry about your slut getting dragged around by a collar. It's your problem. Don't like it? Take the collar off until you get home where you belong because you both look ridiculous anyway. You're giving everyone second hand embarrassment, fucking stop that shit.

>>5215214
it's possible to wear massive hooker heels for extended periods of time, they just need to fit properly and you need to know how to walk/stand in them properly

>>5215149
I have to ask... how does a collar suggest a sexual act? Receiving a collar is like the greatest gift a Dom/me can give. It usually signifies complete trust is attained. I agree that I don't particularly care for bulky collars but people have a right to choose what collar they want for their subs, it has nothing to do with sex.

>inb4 bdsm collars
That is not what I'm referring to. Those are temporary... and IS a signification of the fetish lifestyle. That's where you see most of the garish bulky collars.

What's this about Lonelyfag thinking he'll be forever alone? Boy you hush, I'd date and marry the shit out of you. Just saying.

>>5215214
Having naturally wide feet so heels are hard to find sucks. Blisters suck. Jobs that keep me OFAD suck. People telling me what shoes I should wear without knowing my personal tastes- yeah that sucks to. Look sugarplum, here's the situation. I'm a tremendous fatass as it is. I become a clumsy wobbly tremendous fatass in any heel over an inch. Do you want my huge jiggly fat rolls sumo slamming into you on the street when I can't walk a proper straight line in heels? Didn't think so. Not to mention how HILARIOUSLY out of place heels are going to look with my jeans and plain teeshirt or boring sweater.
The fact my husband likes it best when I'm at my natural height is a bonus, not something I'm sacrificing for his satisfaction.

>>5215229

Do you have any tips on how to walk in heels? They always kill my feet after a while, so I was wondering if I was doing it wrong or something.

>>5215393
What part of your feet hurts?

>>5215401

The front part, mostly. But I always thought it was inevitable that they would hurt.

Cloth collar.

>>5215102
Sometimes skin allergies develop from continued exposure to an allergen. When I was a kid, I could play in the grass with no problem. But a few years ago I was at the park wearing shorts and my legs were itching all over.

So, perhaps I'm new at this, but... why is it somehow expecting amazing restraint on the part of other people to keep their hands to their selves? I don't see how being in a con environment gives someone any more license to be touching other people than anywhere else.

>>5215921
Its more the age group than the location

>>5215922

Are they 4 year olds?

>>5215921
It doesn't. But it's also very common knowledge than anime cons attract a lot of underage idiots. For some reason, they'll find it fully appropriate to throw all common sense out the window. I think people are bitching about OP's naivete more than anything else.

>>5215926
It's not just age group; it's cons in general. (Admittedly, it's worse with the teenage hambeasts.)

I don't think people are mad at OP because of naivete so much as OP being an attitude-laden twat. "I can kick all your assess, dur hur hur hur, I'm into dominance, herp derp, I'm going to get into your face about it, duhhhh."

Tried to read everything, think I got it all.
OP is a weak dom needing to use anonymous as a mask to feel strong.

I am a collared sub and I wear my collar unless circumstances pressure me not to. I am a slave to my Master and I wear a plain chain to remind me of that. I am a wife and I wear my ring at all times on my chain, so it is close to my heart.

I plan to convince my master to choose an anime convention to attend. I plan to wear my collar at least one of those convention days. IF someone touches me in a way my Master does not see fit I will stop them myself. If I cant stop them I will call for my Master's help. If I think that will cause hurt to my Master I will call security.

My Master will never need to whine to 4chan.

You know... the majority of kids in collars at conventions aren't in actual dom/sub relationships. From OPs reaction, I doubt they are, too. It sounds to me like OP is just angry that their 'sub' (yaoi-loving friend in raver pants and fox tails) was asked to take pictures while they weren't.

>>5216051
Genuine question:
Assuming that you are ever to have children, will you still continue this behaviour in front of them? Will they be expected to join in?

I only just realized the possibility of you people having children.

Jewelryfag here. I bought my little sister a bracelet for her 18th that she loves to death, but couldn't wear because of allergies and the way the metal reacted to her skin that none of us knew about before.

I ended up coating the inside of the bangle (the part that touches her skin) with clear nail polish. It worked pretty damn well, and her skin stopped turning ridiculous Zombie Colors.

Maybe try that?

>>5216069
I am not planning to have children due to family history. But, if there were underage peoples within my Master's home I would assume that we would modify our behavior. My Master has had me blushing, terrified, humiliated or melancholy on numerous occasions by look alone. I would still wear my collar, chain and ring but perhaps keep the more sexualized aspects of our lifestyle in a separate area of the house.

Young minds are precious things and not to be fetishized lightly.

>>5216069
that one british couple from the article plans to start a family
they are on benefits and live in a council house, go figure. i laughed the hardest at that point

This stuff is adorable.

WE ARE DIFFERENT
WE ARE SPECIAL
IT'S MORE THEN A FETISH
nope, nope, nope

I don't understand why you can't keep the fetish in the house. No one wants to know about how you fuck and face it, collers look fucking retarded when you're in public.

>>5216157
They are a sign of trust, respect that fact. If you can't, go live in Arabia or something.

>>5216157
My Master and I do keep the fetish aspects discrete while in public. My accessories are tasteful and no more flamboyant than others in my community. I wear them so those that recognize them can approach me and have open conversations that we can not have with others.

I only "freak the (mun)danes" on rare instances.

I like how you feel the need to make a thread. LOOK AT ME I'M SPECIAL I DO ALL THIS CRAZY SHIT. No one cares.

>>5216200
>women
>not wanting to show off how amazing and special they are

>>5216200
The 282 post-count would suggest otherwise.

Attention whores

Attention whores everywhere

Is your life so boring you have to seek attention online?

>>5216213
... isnt that the POINT of /cgl/?

>>5216220
This is why /cgl/ is shit guys, because of people like this.

Fuck this, I'm going back to /d/ where the conversations are more than I'M A SPESHUL SNOWFLAEK and drama

Thanks for killing a couple hours, attentionwhores

>>5213147

How about you keep your fetishes behind closed doors like a normal person you stupid sack of shit? Oh my god I wanna fucking hit you so bad.

I find these nicknames for non d/s adorable

IT'S LIKE PLAYING HOGWARTS

I can't believe you people are actually supporting Op in her stupid gay fetish that she wants to show everyone. P.S. Op you are obviously an attention whore, if you dont want to draw attention to yourself then stop trying to complain about how people treat you. grow up ,the sub/dom relationshit is gay and nobody really gives a shit unless you try to do that gay ass collar thing in public. Honestly the only people who i would see wear a collar and leash in public are weeaboos so hypocrite much?

>>5214888
God damn trolls...

ladies and gentlemen, I'd like to remind you this is a blue board