Oh honey, it isn't that bad is it sweetie? You really should learn to be more tolerable, my dear.

>>5193128
Hun, shut the fuck up.

because they are bitches who think they are better than you when they really need their face smashed against the ground
a hard spikey ground

>>5193138
>>5193136
Oh anon.

It's not an American thing, if that's what you mean.

( And I agree, it's really annoying! Even legitimate criticism comes across as condescending when any of those types of words are inserted into the sentence.)

Everyone gets mad at me when I do it because they think I'm being condescending.
I don't do it to be condescending though, it's just a southern thing.

>>5193140
Hunbun you need to calm those tits

When people say it here, it's usually to be condescending. Sage for not really being relevant.

>>5193140
Haha, I can see this.
>>5193156
Yeah that's what I meant.
>>5193161
Ah, a southern thing? Yeah, that would make since. But really, it comes off as jerkish when I read it here.

Hello, sweetie.

On the internet it is used in a condescending manner.

irl some southern US, Canadian maritimes, and really-white-smalltown people all over North America use the terms just because it's how they talk. Tends to be older people, though, I haven't heard anyone in their teens and 20s use the words.

It's overweight women who are pretending they are mizz cleo or some shit. It's not cute, nor effective.

Well from my experience it's a "southern" thing.
I personally take it as a term of endearment and find myself using it on occasion by accident. I live in North Florida, but my grandparents are from the Carolinas and have a southern accent and say "country" things. And I've just picked it up from them a bit growing up around them.

It can be used in a snarky/sarcastic way, but I believe that most people, especially older people use it with the best intentions.

Take it with a grain of salt and move one.

>>5193229

Oops I thought you meant it in general.

It's probably meant to be condescending in tone here.

yes it can be a condescending term used on the internet but in real life I'll say "love" and "mate" all the time.
I'm assuming its a UK thing? Or at least a village in Wales thing. Just a term for someone I want to thank or talk to without knowing their name.

I absolutely hate it when people talk like this. Especially online, it pretentious as fuck.
It gets on my nerves when people on egl say stuff like lovelies
It just really pisses me off like OH MAN WE ARE ALL FRILLY GIRLS WHO ARE BETTER THEN HUMANS SO LETS CALL EACH OTHER LOVELIES
I mad
It sounds condecending as fuck

>>5193222

miss cleo was "jamaican" though....
(Nobody says that there, regardless. At least not in common parlance.)

Sometimes it's condescending. (You'll certainly know it) Sometimes it's simply because I'm an American Southerner. CURSES! Sometimes we(I) use it when being patient. I use it personally to show that I'm NOT frustrated with them or think they're a twat and that I'm giving them the time of day.

"Dear, I really don't understand.. Please explain more?" or "I'm not sure what you're talking about, sweetie.."

"Sure thing, sweetheart"
"Oh sweetie.." <- For a Southern that's "oh.. I'm sorry to hear that" not a condescending "well there's no helping the fact that you're a moron"

You can tell in person. Not so much online. It's easy to forget that fact.. Especially if you're a very friendly Southerner..


My bf is foreign and does NOT like when I use his name during a disagreement in text. I know well enough not to say "sweetie" and "dear". But I think he takes that as condescending as well.. I don't mean it way. It's just.. habit to make sure the person knows you're not writing them off.
"You're talking to me, why do you have to say my name. I'm already listening."

It's our way of saying we like you..

>>5193285
I call people 'lovely' all the time. It's pretty much a greeting for me, I always say "Hey my lovely/ies" but only if I know them. It'd just be weird if I said it to strangers.
I don't use dear/honey/etc because it really does sound condescending. especially online.

Britfag here btw

>>5193161

>>5193308 here

I'm sad now too..

I wish we had a better way of explaining why Southerns do it.. My friends from the North and Midwest came to con down here and said "woah.. everyone's so nice, Southern hospitality is a real thing."
Just a thing..

I have a habit of calling people "love" occasionally.
Usually only friends and people online.
If I tried it on anyone else I'd worry they'd think I like them or some shit.

I'm from North Carolina and recently moved to Pennsylvania. Half the people here think I'm being an asshole when I'm all "honey/dear/sugar," and half of them just don't acknowledge it at all.

Hell, I don't even notice it until someone gives me a weird look. I also don't think I've ever used it online.

>mfw I'm not trying to be an asshole, it's a fucking verbal tic or something you dickmongers

>>5193337
>>5193308
Oh man
I feel so bad when I use it in my daily speech.
Now, around the women in my town it's fine because we all do it.
However when I'm with people from out of town, or I'm out traveling, or on phone/video calls I try so hard not to let it slip into what I'm saying.
[As well as stuff like "y'all" and "gunna" and other Southern drawls.]

>inb4 Paula Deen y'all