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08/25/11(Thu)12:46 No.4890730>>4890695
I
know what it's like to have your outside be extremely deceiving (let's
just say that part of why I'm thin is not just the fact that I like to
run; I have several degenerative disorders that I've been struggling
with since college that affect my weight and general health). That,
combined with my personal experiences with my aunt and my friend, is a
big part of why I usually don't get involved in these debates and keep
my peace.
Because of that, I can understand that being "bigger"
doesn't mean unhealthy by default, just like I know personally how being
thin doesn't necessarily mean healthy. Mostly, what makes me sad is the
aggression, really. There's a difference between saying "I love myself,
fuck you" and saying "fuck you, I'm better than you because you're not
like me". I understand that a lot of people push that on women who are
heavier and I feel like that's just as wrong, especially unprovoked.
That's
where things get troublesome, because if they (meaning either side)
were really happy, they wouldn't say things like that and belittle other
people.
Also, just putting it out there, but I don't actually go
up to people (even people I know) and try to make them lose weight or
shame them for their appearance, that's not what this is about. For this
thread, I was just sharing my observations about some of these
situations. Naturally, it's not going to apply to everyone, nothing ever
does, but it's just what I've experienced.
I had no intent to
be condescending or rude in reference to you or anyone else, I just
wanted to offer the perspective of someone who has seen what happens to a
whole family/group of friends when someone claims to be happy as they
are, but really, really isn't. And yes, it can happen to or with someone
anywhere on the range of body sizes. I'm sure if I knew people who had
suffered anorexia or bulimia, I'd feel the same way about their
situations and their issues. |
