Parents. Feels bad man.

>>4207944

My parents are loving and support me in any of my hobbies

Boyfriend used to, and still does to an extent but it's much better now. He's not into any real nerdy hobbies at all so it's hard for him to understand. When we first starting dating he'd even humiliate me in front of his friends, and it reached a high-point of generally dickery 6 months ago when he slapped me around when I told him I was going with some friends to a con. His thinking was if he left a few bruises, I wouldn't be able to go and 'embarass myself' anyway.

Needless to say we had a heart to heart and he agreed to stop standing in the way of me and my hobbies. He doesn't encourage it and he's still dismissive, but he's changed at least to the point where he isn't slapping me around for simply having different interests to him.

>>4207959
Dump that piece of shit.

>>4207959
If he's slapping you around over that I think you have bigger problems in your relationship than he just doesn't like your hobbies.

>>4207959

>Slap
>Still together

Nigga, you just went full retard

>>4207961
>>4207962
>>4207967
Agreed.

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So...what you are telling us is that you have a boyfriend who beat you up (even "just a little bit") for being a nerd. And that you're staying with him despite that, coupled with the fact that he also humiliates you in front of friends, because you guys had a "heart to heart" and he agreed that next time he feels like beating you up, he has to have a better reason than you being a nerd. Did I get that right?

>>4207969
I dropped the link that post, but you guys know who I'm talking to.

lol nope

its cause im yellow, people kind of expect it

OH SO YOU LIKE NARUTO HUH

yeah dude

>>4207961
>>4207962
>>4207967
>>4207968
>>4207969
He's a stresspot kind of guy and had a pretty rough childhood. No excuse but he hasn't showed any sign of hitting me since, that sort of thing isn't in his character, it was just a kind of 'flip out' moment.

>>4207959
eh your boyfriend is an asshole and I can't believe you willingly put up with that shit

Yeah
/cgl/

>>4207975
You realize that what you're describing is such a CLASSIC aspect of an abusive relationship that they even have a term for it, right? It's called the honeymoon phase, and it cycles around. He's going to do it again.

>>4207975

Enjoy being a punching bag once your stuck with him due to kids

>>4207976
I give as good as I get.

>>4207982
>>4207984
I'll keep it in mind. But he's not the abusive sort. He just gets stressed out too easily as I said. Our relationship has been good for the most part.

>>4207984
>implying you have to stay with your SO if you have children with them

What century do you live in?

>>4207991
>not the abusive sort
Then why is he abusive?
>I give as good as I get.
Jesus, why do we have to HIT EACHOTHER. THAT IS RIDICULOUS.

>>4207991
He's not the abusive sort, yet he hits you.

>>4207991
You're scared to be alone and boyfriend-less I get it... It happens to a lot of girls. But seriously, being single is much better than getting knocked around by someone who is supposed to love you.

inb4
>but he does love me!
No.. no he doesn't

Well this thread rolled headfirst down Bullshit Mountain pretty fast.
You know who makes me feel bad about my cosplaying? Anon's boyfriend. She should break up with him because he makes me feel bad and I don't even know the guy.

>>4207997
>Then why is he abusive?

He was only abusive once.

>>4207998
Once, like I said.

>>4208002
I can't deny I'm scared to be alone.

>>4207995

She won't ditch him now, imagine when they have kids together?

>>4208009
Girl. GIRL.
WOMAN. DON'T BE DUMB.

My boyfriend kind of does.. but only because he teases me about it a lot. I just recently starting showing my power level to him and he's taking it pretty well so far...

My parents don't know because I KNOW they will be judgmental and think I'm nuts and need to 'grow up' I can hear it now...

>>4208012
I don't understand your counter argument here...

>>4208014
If he does it again, I'll leave him. I promise you of that.

>>4208009
>He was only abusive once.

Classic woman in denial.

>>4207995
Just because you are raising three little bastards on your own doesn't mean everyone should be that way. It's a fact that when a couple has children the will tend to stay together despite mutual unhappiness

>>4208015

>My parents don't know because I KNOW they will be judgmental and think I'm nuts and need to 'grow up' I can hear it now...

If your parents found out that your bf put bruises on you they would be ready to put the boots to him.

>>4208023
Wow.. way to assume you know about a person's life story...

If they have no other options, then yes. But that is usually not the case.

>>4208022
He does make me feel shitty to the point where I'm crying my eyes out sometimes. But it's hard to even begin to imagine a life without him. He's just.... there. In the future, in the past and so on. It's terrifying to imagine a life without him.

>>4208027
Um... I'm not the same anon who's bf is hitting her...

>>4208009 I can't deny I'm scared to be alone.

Being alone is some fuck awesome stuff.

You can do what you want, when you want without checking in with anyone.
Worry about being with someone once you reach 23-25. By then you have seen some of life, figured out who you are without some asshole interfering telling you what you SHOULD like, and thought about what is most important to you in a mate.

>>4208037
Ok, I'm kind of crying in front of my computer now :/

Sorry seagulls.

>>4208031
Furthermore.. I said my boyfriend teases me about it. That is not abuse... unless I am mistaken?

But no.. not the same anon.

>>4208037
I say don't worry until you're 30, but that may be because I'm having too much fun :3

>>4208041
Don't be sorry, we are the ones who are sorry for you. You deserve BETTER.

My bf thinks its weird but doesn't really mind it. Hell he doesn't even give a shit that I crossplay. He'd rather not see me in a binding shirt, but he doesn't tell me to stop.

My parents give me weird looks every time I get something in the mail related to cosplay (they always know too) and that kind of discourages me.

inb4
>OMG you're still living at home??

Yes, I am.

lol I'm scared for anon if she goes to dump him because of /cgl/ and he beats her to pulp because of it

No one knows I do it.

>>4208048
I'll talk with my parents about it I think. Maybe go and stay with them for a few weeks.

>>4208062
I applaud your ref pic anon...

But I'm in the same boat as you.
(my gf knows but only because she does it with me) but no one else does

>"I love you honey"
>"I love you too, by the way Ill be going to a con soon"
>"NOT ON MY WATCH YOU FUCKING BITCH"
>boyfriend proceeds to beat his SO
>"Now that you have bruises, youll be too embarassed to go to the con!"

Sounds like olev.

Why do girls love abusive men so much? No, really. Why do they?

>>4208098
They don't. How many times does Broodmother have to tell you to go away? You are clearly lost.

>>4208098
Because they weren't when they first got together. Then the chick is scared to break up and be lonely... Or scared to break up because she fears even more abuse for trying.

It's not like girls go hunting for abusive men.

>>4208104
>girls go hunting for abusive men

In other words, ALPHA AS FUCK

>>4207959

gave that bitch a smack, bitches love smacks

pic is related because chivalry is not dead, but her BF not chivalry get

My parents don't care enough to look down on it too much, they just think it's a waste of money. They sometimes like the outcome if I'm doing something cute, but always comment on the price.

Half of my friends think its a waste of time, the other think it's a hilarious but fun hobby and respect the fact that time and effort are put into things, and that some skill is required.

Not really since usually when they actually see my costumes they get like "wow, you made this yourself?". I think that if you're fat and ugly and can't make good costumes then people make fun of you since it's a stereotypical image of a cosplayer, then again if you're like that other cosplayers will laugh at you as well.

>>4208009
hell dump that nigga, plenty of average nerds who share the same hobbie will gladly court you, and have 20%less chance of hitting you.

no foreveralone.jpg here

>>4208134
read:
>average to small penis
>lower to no income
>no health insurance
>shit hair

I don't even wanna know what that girls childhood was like. Dad must have been a dynamite individual.
Both amazing and terrifying that a little bit of trauma goes such a long way. Essentially makes a person incapable of having a stable relationship.

>>4208148

Most women have been in at least one abusive relationship. It's like an experience.

>>4208151
As a man who has hardly ever hit anyone, besides my little brother, finds this to be disturbingly believable.

holy shit yes
know better now tho, goddamn to i ever

>>4207975

He didn't "flip out". He very deliberately attacked you in order to obtain a specific outcome--leave bruises so you couldn't go. That's premeditated. And he's going to do it again. Even if he doesn't hit you, he's controlling as fuck.

Believe me... I've been there. My ex used to stand me up before we went out and circle around me, telling me everything wrong with my appearance so I'd "learn better" and "not embarrass myself". Control is control is control, and abuse is abuse.

Look at it another way--he has serious mental health problems he refuses to address. Leaving him might force him to seek the help he needs. And, as a mental health professional, I promise you are not capable of giving him the kind of serious help he needs. Only a detached professional can give him the anger management and coping skills he needs.

>>4208170
> My ex used to stand me up before we went out and circle around me, telling me everything wrong with my appearance so I'd "learn better" and "not embarrass myself".

Was the reason for you staying with him anything to do with the quality of the sex?

>"You know what gets me sick and tired? The battered-woman motif. It’s so misrepresented, the way we have to constantly look at it in terms of male oppression and tyranny, and female victimization. When, in fact, everyone knows throughout the history of the world that many of these working-class relationships where women get beat up have hot sex. They ask why won’t she leave him? Maybe she won’t leave him because the sex is very hot."

>Camille Paglia

>>4208021
>If he does it again, I'll leave him. I promise you of that.

"Well I kind of deserved it that time, so it doesn't count."

"It didn't even hurt that much and it's not like I couldn't cover it up with a long-sleeved shirt!"

"He was having a bad day, you can't blame him for snapping."

Seen it all, darling. Sometimes people don't deserve a second chance.

>>4208197
This.

Sex is good in abusive relationships. And physical abuse can turn women on to an extent.

Nope, I've always had family that have been good about it.