By ending yourself.

>>24748031

Watch anime/read manga.

Masturbate. Furiously.

;_;

I wank.

Watch K-ON! Always cheers me up.

I talk to you guys.

RAPE. THE. MAIDS.

b-but...I'm happy in my solitude.

i write books where I am god and i control the lives of a few feeble mortals in a fictional Tennessee city for giggles.

By hugging my girlfriend.

But I'm not lonely.

I use the devil's proof to prove that my roneries doesn't exist.

I'm too used to being alone. II don't really suffer it.

People are overrated.

>>24748210
Hug?

>>24748210

Sup Taiga.

I work almost on a daily basis

I go to sleep. I'm always so sleepy.

I play World of Warcraft with my guildies.

you spend hour after meaningless hour surfing 4chan to fill the mass void.

Cease caring about everything else. Loneliness will follow.

>>24748301

Pretty much.

>>24748210
You are my hero.

I haven't been texted or called in 4 months ;_;

>>24740663

>>24748301

Yup.

If I stay away for too long I start going into withdrawal syndrome (OH GOD WHAT I AM DOING WITH MY LIFE, etc.)

Thank you /a/ for being the only thing that keeps me going.

Aw c'mon /a/!

Don't be so gloomy and sad!

Be awesome like I know you are!

ITT: Undiagnosed depression

The past 120 calls that were not from my parents were from Telemarketers.

>>24748353

Then take the initiative faggot.

I don't.

Fuck, no one in this thread read Legend of the Strongest Man Kurosawa.

Talk to online friends, go on walks, smoke

>>24748210
this.

and to:
>>24748053
next step: make awkward advance due to desperation; never talk to "someone" again.

Beyond ronery now. Just living a very numb existence.

Oh god, I'm usually ok with my solitude, but this thread is starting to make me feel really sad.

>>24748610
>next step: make awkward advance due to desperation; never talk to "someone" again.

;_;

You're all fucking pussies jesus christ. It's not that hard to meet people you know.

>>24748673

You don't belong here.

fake it til you make it /a/, or die alone

If you are alone it is because you want to be. Don't feel lonely just because you're alone. Make sure you know what your true wishes are and then you will realize you are actually happy.

>>24748031
fixed

>>24748769
;_______;
that's fucking awful
ive done that to men before

Accept the fact that I won't escape it because it feeds itself almost inherently, and continue moving along.

can't miss what you never had.

If you find it that hard to make friends you should get off 4chan and seek medical help.
Seriously, you probably have major depression mixed with social anxiety, both of which can be treated medically.

>>24748769

>>24748779
Kubo, is that you?

>>24748819

>you probably have major depression mixed with social anxiety

I've known I've had this for at least half a decade, doesn't mean I feel like doing anything about it.

>>24748795

Why would you?

>>24748841
Take drugs.
It helps.

>>24748819

I have both of these but am currently in therapy. Seems to be helping so far.

>>24748841
You don't want to be happy?

>>24748841
If you want to, you have to. If you don't want to, then you have no reason to feel bad for yourself.

>>24748819
Those social anxiety meds haven't done anything for me. I've been diagnosed/labeled/what-have-you with Avoidant personality disorder, and Lexapro isn't doing shit.

the only thing that keeps me from committing suicide is my daily dinner with my waifu

/a/ - Social Anxiety DIsorder

I hold it in my hand and crush it.

>>24748879
What a wasted existence

I enjoy being alone more then being with others.

ITT: The problem with otakuism

>>24748941

I'm more alone when with others ;_;

>>24748879
i enjoy the knife the in this picture for so many reasons

>>24748819

if /a/ took your advice there would be no /a/ left, just a den of normalfags.

>>24748769

I've already erased people who do that.

Not just talking about my contact list.

ITT: What moe perpetuates

>>24748769

Fuck i'm thinking of a couple of bitches that have done this..feels bad man.

Cutting myself

>>24748962
And this would be a bad thing?

>>24748879

Seek help.

>>24748977
I think you've got the cause and the effect backwards.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yATI48dcsMU

I don't ;_;

/a/ is my only "social" interaction. How sad is that.

>>24748958
this. i've been to parties, and i always end up sitting in the corner while everyone is making out and having sex five feet away with disgusting, fat bitches. that night i drank until i passed out, only to wake up and get bitched at by some ugly chick for drinking too much.

>>24748031
>How do you hold back the crushing loneliness, /a/non?

Family. Call them up, visit, make plans to do things together.

Hated my older brother as a teenager. Skip ahead to my mid-20s, we hang out, go see a movie, fish, or hunt at least twice a month together.

Even if you don't have any siblings, do something with your folks. If they're dead and you've got no other relatives, turn to organized religion and just wing it. Take notes, start your own sect, and always be surrounded by friends.

Just one take on things. Happy livin, yo.

>>24748210

Pretty much this.

>>24749063

Are you new? This is the case for many /a/nons.

Fuck this thread. I have just realized how pathetic my life is.

The crushing loneliness is actually a preferable alternative to the crushing anxiety that social situations produce.

Oh god... guys... why....

I hardly have any friends anymore, and I'm mostly in doors, I feel so alone...

..:(

Hating and avoiding the world?
Finding happiness from imaginary worlds and stories.
Falling in love with imaginary characters.

Now I see why Anno calls you fucks 'self-inflicting autistics'

Out of curiosity, how many of you ronery /a/nons have or are on good terms with your siblings of the opposite sex?

>>24748777
>>24748777
>>24748777
>>24748777
>>24748777
>>24748777
>>24748777
>>24748777
>>24748777

>>24749199

Very much so.

>>24749208
say what you will about it, fucker had a mad lego collection.

>>24749199
See
>>24748819

>>24748031
I lurk at /r9k/ and thank god that even though I am just as lonely as them, I am not nearly as much of a pathetic whiner with a sense of entitlement.

I love you, /a/.

i have a Question: Do we like anime because we are lonely and socially retarded or is it because of anime that we have become this way?

I think a good number of us could've been normal, successful, pussy-chasing bros if it weren't for that first foray into whatever anime we saw as children, whether it be toonami or bootlegs or etc.

>>24749028
He said "perpetuate," not "cause."

People become lonely for a variety of reasons, but once they find waifus/moe ect. to use as a crutch, to stave off the feeling, the underlying problem isn't solved.

It's like taking advil for a broken arm. No matter how many pills you stuff down your face, no matter how numb you feel, your arm is still broken. And, eventually, the advil will stop working.

You guys could all be happy if you wanted.
So what if you're fat? Loose wight.
So what if you're ugly? Feel good about yourself and no one worth worrying about will care.
So what if you have horrible anxiety? Therapy and medication haven't existed this long because they don't work.
Take it from someone who has been to the brink and back.
THERE IS HOPE.

>>24748053
Does not work.

FUCK THIS THREAD YOU MAKE ME FEEL FUCKING SAD YOU FUCKING FAGGOTS FUCK YOU.

FUCK.

I just realised I haven't spoken to anyone outside of my family in 6 months.

I have no crushing loneliness, my gf prevents this.

Fuck you /a/, I was feeling good today ;_;

>>24749383

How do you get one?

By having friends and not being lonely.

The loneliness is not the worst. That fucking depression dog pic with the "Remember being happy, die a little inside" qute pointed out that there is worse..

>>24749253
The first one, definitely.

"Normal," socially adjusted people, they all watched anime as a kid. Everyone played Pokemon, everyone watched Dragonball Z or Caballeros del Zodiaco or what have you.

The difference is, they were able to move on.

We were not, because, well, we are inherently broken as people.

To use a phrase, it cannot be helped.

>>24749361
Go to some sort of academy, the kind that meets often and has few people. You'll make friends after a 1-2 weeks

>>24748855
this... or anime... or 4chan...

>>24749403
mutual friend's birthday party back in high school. She made a sparta reference and I reciprocated. Exchanged msn names. And stayed up talking every night all summer.

You fuckers want to be lonely. You ignore advice just to feel sad about yourselves.

>>24749212
"good terms" being?

I dunno, my big sister is a total bummer. she's as fucked up and weird as I am in some ways, but too naive to be depressed and she has a boyfriend. he's a tool, so I don't hang out with her.

my little sister has the same sense of humor as me. she's 10 years younger than I am, so take that how you will. she lives with my parents, whereas I live with them half the time, but we're both really isolated.

this anon, btw is diagnosed with major depression and anxiety. I hang out with people every once in a while, but I get displeased with my ability to interact with people while I am out, so I tend to avoid it. I definitely fit Anno's "voluntary autism" template.

I encourage all of you anons unsatisfied with your situation to get into therapy. There's probably a cheap one-on-one counseling option for you if you go to school, and/or something you can work out with your city's mental health center.

>>24749538
Feels good man ;_;

I talk to my closest e-friends on msn

Just smile all the time...

>>24749314
>Feel good about yourself and no one worth worrying about will care.

oh, that's how you do it, I wish I'd known that before. shit, now all my problems are solved.

zen Buddhism

>>24749279
FUCK YOU ;___________;

>>24749538
It's very easy to give motivational advice. Always Together, Onai Master Kurosawa, K/a/mina posters, these things and people have perfected the delivery of a simple idea. "If you work hard, put yourself out there, and keep at it, you will eventually get to where you want to be!"

This is a falsehood.

You can put every sort of effort you want. You can lose weight, buy a new wardrobe, go to a psychiatrist, learn a new language, go to social events, do whatever.

It's all meaningless if the world doesn't reciprocate, or, worse, if it doesn't even notice.

Please excuse me if I sound a little bitter.

>>24749664
Just in case you're being ironic, no one really gives a fuck about minor details, and they always do their best to respect others. Don't underestimate people. They think too.

>>24749538
>>24749573
feels comfortable.
it doesn't require work or risk.

in my case, my parents did all my shit for me when I was a kid because they knew I was a kid and couldn't do anything for myself. the idea was "he's just gonna fuck it up, so we should just do it for him"

And now I have no initiative or drive to succeed, and it's my fault (?!??)

>>24749751
You shouldn't change for the sake of people noticing you're changing, but for the sake of people seeing you as a respectable person. Yes, you do seem bitter. Besides, how many times does that happen? Normal lives are normal. It won't be any different for someone. They are not especially destined to be lonely.

>>24749751
I guess that's true if you have high and/or unrealistic expectations.

I get what you're saying, and I feel that ways a lot, too. But just because you're not going to turn into Socrates doesn't mean you shouldn't study, know what I mean? Really, life is about either driving yourself to become the best (and thus famous) or learning to settle for what's available to you. SETTLING, meaning learning to expect less. marrying a girl who's handsome, not pretty. etc.

>>24749036
"Okkusenman" sounds a bit like "oksennan" which means "I vomit" in Finnish.

Thanks a lot.

I make doujins to hold back the lonliness

>>24749905
Please not yaoi...

>>24749212
Older sister - good terms. She may be a professional but is still pretty much the same from when we were growing up.

Younger sister - not so good terms, but I try. I blame that boy she met. He's a fucking wanker that doesn't even have a driver's license.

Younger brother - starting to relate to him a little more despite the huge age gap. He's trying to teach me how to play the guitar, but is annoyed with all the questions I ask.

Parents - same old, same old.

Living alone is still kinda lonely, but I'm really only in the next town over from my family. I hang out with colleagues sometimes and an old friend every now and then, but I still have my "so ronery" moments. Takes time, I guess.

>>24749879
>You shouldn't change for the sake of people noticing you're changing, but for the sake of people seeing you as a respectable person.
Yes, I gathered that. However, in whose eyes do you become respectable? In those around you. Oh sure, you can BELIEVE IN YOURSELF WHO BELIEVES IN YOU all you want, but it's absolutely worthless if nobody else notices or cares. Caring only about how you perceive your own respectfulness is how /a/ got here in the first place.

>Besides, how many times does that happen?
Exactly once. And, for a given person, that's all it takes.

>Yes, you do seem bitter.
Gee, I wonder why.

>>24749990
>Female Computer Club President
>Please not yaoi...
I have some bad news.

>>24749889

I'm learning Finnish right now! Thanks for the helpful information.

btw, g2bed. It's 3:34a.m here. ;_;

>>24749990
Only once....................or twice

>>24750087
Yeah, going soon.

>>24750069
There's a good reason there's so much motivational material out there. Because it works. In the very least, it worked for the people who made it.
You don't sound like you live in a life of seclusion after having "tried to be normal". Otherwise, you should try again. Or preferably, >>24748777

I just tell myself

"There's always suicide"

so it at least feels like i have control over some part of my environment, and that is a decent, if substandard or morbid, mood boost

I keep the loneliness away with rapid and steady dickings. It works quite well, let me tell you.

>>24748777

This.

Do what makes you happy. You like being alone? Fine, keep being alone. I personally love my alone time and spend it working out, watching anime, or reading random shit.

If you think that social activities are a must for everyone to have a fulfilling life then you're fooling yourself.

I thought I'd never fall in love, I never had even a crush on someone.

Then I met this one woman and all my sexual fetishes became irrelevant, I just want to be with her forever, cuddling together in the wintery evening.

She said she has hardly had any crushes either.
And now I find out she's fallen madly in love with someone, who isn't me;_;

would you rather have a friend, or a girlfriend?

you actually have to make an effort with looks and personality if you want the latter, but i don't see why birds of a feather don't flock in the case of the former.

>>24750335
I know how you feel..the guy I like doesn't even know I exist and was stolen by one of my worst enemies.

>>24750196
Er, if all that material worked, I'd assume there'd be a lot less of it lying around. Because, y'know, it worked the first time.

I mean, the fact that there are reams and reams of it everywhere would suggest that it gives people a temporary high, with customers needing to return to get another dosage of happiness once the first one wears off. Y'know, like every other industry out there.

But, now that you mention it, do you know what that sounds like? In particular?

[spoilers]Moe.[/spoilers]

But hey, I'm open to ideas. Let's see, what could I, and, by extension, other roneryfags, do to be less lonely, aside from everything I've already tried as listed in >>24749751 ?

>>24749013
yes

>>24750335

If it happened once, it could happen again. Just never give up hope.

DOOOON'T STOP
BELIIIIIIEEEEEVIN'
HOLD ON TO THAT FEELIN'

>>24750341
I'm bad with people and have gone without friends for years. I've got a good sense of humor though.

The first thing I do is not to think about it.
The second thing:
If it should hit me hard, I just go to danbooru and save more images of my waifu.
My waifu folder is 500 mb big and has over 1700 images

>>24750335

>>24750335
I'll give you the advice my grandmother once gave me:
"It ain't over until there's a ring on the finger."

Also, brotip: Doubt can destroy relationships. In the event they ever start going out - if you are the type she confides with - create that doubt. Even if it's a damned lie.
Go for the fucking gold, anon.

>>24750378
Lol look at the name

I had a lot of friends a couple of years a go, and now they don't see me anymore.

I basicly just wake up, sit on the internet, and go to bed... I go out with friends only sometimes...

I hope I'm not the only one this lonely..

>>24750335
Just tell her you're in love with her as well. Don't start a relationship with her, or anything. Wish her luck.
She won't hate you for it, and it's always nice to say how you feel about things.

>>24750378
We are very good friends and just when I thought "wait a second, could I really have emotions?"
I've never fallen in love, but this seems to be the case ;_;

>>24750398
Nop, she is pretty much the only one who I think I could ever love. I'll wait for her even if it takes years and if she gets married I'll send a letter to congratulate her and cry for the first time in years. She likes letters.

>>24750502
Goddamn, you're an asshole. It's one thing to try and win a girl, it's another to destroy her life and someone else's for yourself.

>>24750599

If she's out of your reach, move on with your life bro.

You don't want to be like that guy from 5cm per second.

>>24750487

Oh god damn it

>>24750639
Not her life, just that relationship. I know you guys hate that NTR stuff, but you need to become the guy you're always raging at to get a chance. They'll find happiness elsewhere, provided they are normalfags and not our folk.

>>24750487

step 1: go to coffee shop, get a coffee, sit down
step 2: listen to girls talk
step 3: feel your brain melting
step 4: ask yourself if you can deal with that for 1-2 hours after a full day of work when you just want to relax
step 5: say to yourself "Ah, single... feels good man"

>>24750502
I wish only the best for her, even if it means suffering myself.
>>24750585
Things would become awkward since she is basically the only one I can talk to without worries, she likes listening and I like to listen to her too. If she knew she'd probably think I talk to her only because I love her. (Goddamnit it's difficult to speak like this, never really admitted my feelings even to myself)

>>24750335

Exactly. I wouldn't lie though.

It would go like this.

Me: "Do you love your bf?"
Her: "Yeah"
Me: "Does he love you and make time for you?"
Her: "I think so"
Me: "Then why are you here with me again this weekend?"
Her: "..."

>>24748031
Source

>>24750738
I don't want a relationship but I could use more friends even other nerds hate me.

>>24750733

That's beautiful.

>>24750599 Nop, she is pretty much the only one who I think I could ever love.

Everyone feels this way with the first girl they fall in love with. Trust me, I've been there.

You've just gotta swallow your pride, man the fuck up and keep moving forward with your life. There are 6 billion people in this world, you are bound to find another one of them you can love.

>>24750756
Tell her the truth! Tell her what you're telling to hundreds of anonymous people online.
So what if it's awkward. She might think it's a bit weird at first, but if you really manage to tell her you want the best for her and keep being normal friends, I doubt much will change.

Otherwise, say it on a opportune moment when you know it won't "damage" the way you two are now.

>>24750756
>even if it means suffering myself.
If you channeled that concern in a more positive direction, without being too damned clingy, you could probably win her over.

>>24750867
You don't know me, I'm sorry if I sound arrogant or "SUPER SPECIAL" but really I have not been able to fall in love before this and this girl is just too perfect a match to me it hurts.
She lives in her own world just like me and I don't think I'd have the patience to search for another girl who I could even think to love.

I've never met anyone who is like her.

goddamn I sound cliché ;_;

You know what happens when you finally get what you want most in life?.. You want something else. You want it just as intensely, and you brood over it in the same way as you did with your original desires.

If you make a point to spend your time reflecting on how much life sucks, then you'll never be happy no matter what you have.

Forget the "It's simple. Do (x) and you'll get what you want, fagget." advice. Accept what you have, accept what you don't have, don't worry so much, be open to the possibility of change, and spend your life doing things you enjoy.

>>24750880
The thing is, we have talked about how I seem unable to fall in love and how it would be extremely unprobable, but the motherfucker called me went and fell in love with HER.

>>24751034

Fine, enjoy waiting until you hit middle age, then regretting it.

>>24751134
I think that's how it will be then. ;_;

Guess what, you'll always be lonely unless you get up and do something about it. I've not got a girlfriend, hell, I haven't been on a date since I was a sophomore in high school (I'm 23 now, still in college lol). Get up. Get out. Get a hobby. Take up something healthy like cycling or running. Invest in your friends as much as possible, they'll return the favor, if not, they aren't friends. Things will never improve if you just lay around feeling sorry for yourself. I used to be bipolar/clinically depressed/social anxiety/add blah blah blah with all of the accompanying drugs. I'm not on any meds at all now, and things are actually working out for the better. Things will never be perfect, but that's life. There is always hope. You are never truly alone. Don't puss out, life is waiting.

>>24751099
1. Get to know the guy
2. Create doubt
3. ????
4. PROFIT

>>24751192
1. Get to know the guy
2. Find out he's actually cool
3. ????
4. BROS 4 LIFE

>>24751230
Oh, wait, forgot step 1.5: Tell him you like her too.

>>24751178

I run a lot. It's not a social activity at all.

(No, I don't go on a treadmill in my basement, I run to the local track and around it, or just around my neighborhood)

>>24751230
In the off chance he is a douchebag?

>>24751178
>Things will never be perfect, but that's life
The problem is that anons need to understand and be comfortable with this fact FIRST. Getting up and being proactive about things won't help in the slightest if they're still caging their perception and only focusing on the negatives at all times.

How come life seems to be less unfair to certain people?

>How do you hold back the crushing loneliness, /a/?

I talk to girls I know on the internet. It makes me feel like I have an emotional sinkhole where I can get all my "I just want a girlfriend, SIGH" feelings out. A couple of them are in similar positions but don't want to go out with me. Oh well. At least we rant to each other.

>>24751303
He'll make the girl unhappy. Punch him in the face.

Or do the anon thing to do and wait until they eventually break up.

>>24751307
That's how it is being human. No amount of stuff ever truly satisfies until you choose to be satisfied.

>>24751034

You just have to realize that EVERYBODY ELSE who has ever had an unrequited love has felt the EXACT SAME WAY.

>>24751363
>wait until they eventually break up.
You could always help speed up the process.
I'm just saying.

>>24751328
Because they've learned (LEARNED - NOT CHOSEN) to perceive themselves and the world around them in a specific way, just as very optimistic and positive people have learned to see things in a different light.

They lack the right kinds of experience to give them balance. Only time, reflection, exposure, and THEN choice can fix that.

>>24751328
It isn't, trust me. Rich people are just as miserable with this life as the rest of us.

>>24751440
Money can't buy happiness, but it sure does make the pursuit of it easier.

>>24751328

Some people are willing to blame themselves for their shortcomings, rather than searching for an outside source?

>>24751484
Indeed. They have better options, but are unhappy because they are like us - they fail to take the next step.

>>24751484
The pursuit of fleeting happiness, perhaps, but nothing lasting.

>>24751426

I think it is a choice. I was a pessimistic loser like most of /a/, and then one day I decided to stop being a crybaby bitch and look at the bright side of life. I made a conscious decision to be optimistic.

ITT: lonely nerds try to console other lonely nerds by spewing clichéd bullshit they've only learned from movies and television, without ever being in a relationship themselves.

>>24751539
At least the latter ones aren't actually lonely. Just alone. :D

>>24751539
Actually, this is experience talking. I've not said anything about dating. Dating isn't a prerequisite to happiness, in fact it's really the other way around. Girls won't want to be around you if you're a depressing whiny little dweeb.

>>24751484
>Money can't buy happiness

THIS IS WHAT POOR PEOPLE ACTUALLY BELIEVE.

>>24751539

no u

>>24751538
>bright side of life=anime vidya etc

>>24751538
You misunderstand me. It eventually -becomes- a choice given to you, but until options are presented to an individual a choice cannot be made. And sadly, for many people just having been told that something is possible isn't enough. They need to experience something that switches that light on in their minds first.

It all depends on what an individual has learned thus far and how they learned it.

>>24751580
Care to expand on that?

>>24751577
>dweeb

What is this, the 80's? Go back to bed, granny.

>>24751680

Expand on what, people without money desperately trying to convince themselves they wouldn't be happier if they didn't have to worry about where the rent was coming from?

It's just logic.

>>24750795
If even other nerds hate you ask yourself what you're doing wrong. Are you like my friend who was thrown out of Games Workshop because he went in... looked at their Lord of the Rings figures... and then declared he would never watch the movies because they weren't 100% faithful to the books? Seriously if nobody likes you, it's something you're doing.

>>24751267
I used to run a lot; at a nature/bike trail nearby that a lot of college girls jog on. Back when I was in good shape they'd smile, say hi, even start conversations sometime. That guy's point was: get your shit together, do your own thing, and it'll get better. If you have nothing going for you and try to find a girl she'll smell that desperation from a mile away and shut you down. You do your own thing and they'll just show up.

>>24751625
There's nothing wrong with that stuff. If it makes a person feel good, then it's great.

>>24751736
THIS. Money doesn't make you happy. But not having it will sure as shit make things worse.