Finding Love Through Graphology

by

Manhardeep Singh Ahluwalia

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PREFACE

I was introduced to the science of handwriting analysis as a surprise. Graphology came into my hands by chance. Let me share with you how. Being a voracious reader I almost finished all the books I had so I went to a local bookstore and I asked the bookseller to show me all the English books he had. He replied, “Yaha English reader nhi hai, toh hum English books nhi rkhte but aap peeche store mein jaake dekh lijiye agar apko koi kitaab mil jaati hai” (There are very few English readers in the town so we don’t keep English books. You can go to the warehouse behind the shop and look around if you find a book of your interest).

I went to the warehouse and started searching for a book. After digging through the books, which was like finding a needle in the sand, I got my hands on a book on handwriting analysis. I was skeptical about the topic. I quickly flipped through the book and the topic caught my attention. ‘Having nothing to read, this book, at least, won’t do any harm’ I thought as I bought the book. I never thought would go in depth on the same topic and use it in my day to day life so much.

Initially, I used the knowledge of the book and applied only to myself. I found a drastic change in myself. And then after a few years, I contemplated why not apply this knowledge to others too. Using handwriting analysis, I was able to filter and choose my friends wisely. To be frank, whenever I ignored a negative trait I saw in a person’s handwriting thinking ‘this person is not like that, maybe handwriting analysis is not 100% correct’, I was proved wrong.

I won’t guarantee that handwriting analysis is 100% correct, but 99% of the time it is!

This book contains my knowledge from reading different graphology books, knowledge from other experienced graphologists, and from my own personal experience. You will learn how to find the perfect love using various graphology insights. To do this, I have divided this book into three sections.

The first section deals with the general emotionality and expressiveness of a person. This is the first and fundamental thing we check while checking for the compatibility of two persons. The second section deals with the hell traits which signify a tough personality to deal with. People having these hell traits end up having unhealthy non-satisfactory relationships. The third section deals with the self-assessment, which means checking and improving yourself. In this section, you will be given techniques to improve and eliminate any hell trait if it appears in your handwriting.

So without any further ado, let’s start our journey together on finding the perfect love.

PART-I:

INTRODUCTION

Handwriting analysis is a very astonishing science. I would say it is rather an art as well as science because it not only contains specific principles but an effective analysis also depends upon the skill and art of the analyst.

In my personal experience, I have seen many people cry when I analyze their handwriting. I have seen various emotions of the people – excitement, astonishment, surprise, wonder and amazement. You too can easily come to know about a person’s personality just from their handwriting and this book will help you achieve that.

I had a childhood friend whom I knew for more than 10 years. I always thought I knew everything about her – her personality and behaviour. But one day, just out of curiosity I asked her to mail me a sample of her handwriting.

She did as I instructed. I saw her handwriting and told only one thing, “Well, you never share any of your emotions and feelings with anyone”. Hearing this, she burst into tears.

For more than 10 years I was friends with her but never knew about her personality accurately. After taking a look at her handwriting, I was able to find out what kind of person she is and what is her weakness (and, of course, her strengths).

Handwriting analysis is not a hit and miss system, it is a proven method. I have been proved wrong many times while performing against my own analysis thinking that ‘this person might not be wrong’, ‘my analysis may be wrong’ etc., but the analysis always proved to be right and my presumption wrong.

But before you gain the knowledge of handwriting analysis, you may lose something, you may not be able to write as naturally (or rather unbiased) as you write right now. This is because your conscious mind will try to manipulate how you are writing based on your knowledge of how you should write and how you shouldn’t. So to tackle this challenge, I would like you to grab a pen and a blank sheet and write as much as you can because this is going to be your last piece of naïve handwriting.

Before you continue, write as much as you can (I recommend the whole blank sheet with signature at the bottom). It doesn’t matter what you write, so if you are not able to think of anything to write, grab a book and copy the text.

Moving on, this part will teach you about the five types of emotionality level people have and how each one of them can and will behave. As you read, you can also apply the analysis to your own handwriting sample to analyze yourself (more in part three of the book).

Finding emotionality:

Emotionality or the degree of expressiveness of a person is highlighted by the slant of their handwriting. The side and the degree of the slant of the handwriting can be inferred as a person being either emotionally expressive or emotionally withdrawn.

CHAPTER – 1

THE EMOTIONALLY WITHDRAWN PERSONALITY

An emotionally withdrawn person is the person who holds his feelings to himself and does not show his emotions. It is important to note that this does not mean that they don’t feel the emotions, they do but they do not show it.

An emotionally withdrawn personality is of two types - emotionally withdrawn and highly withdrawn. Let’s look into each of the types in depth.

Highly withdrawn:

A highly emotionally withdrawn person is the one whose handwriting has a hard leftward slant. In a simpler context, the handwriting whose letters are almost about to fall on the left side of the page depicts a highly emotionally withdrawn person.

A highly withdrawn person is deemed to be very cold and non-expressive, but do not be mistaken, they feel every emotion and feeling. They just don’t express it.

Another aspect of their personality is that while taking decisions, they are very logical rather than being emotional. They use their head over their heart while making decisions.

Though they remain silent, they are great observers.

As a partner, a highly emotionally withdrawn person tends to be less expressive thus doesn’t feel the need to express the love by saying “I love you” or showing such gesture publically. While they are less expressive, they also dislike being very touchy. They love their space and doesn’t like touchiness while normal conversations.

Emotionally withdrawn:

The emotionally withdrawn person’s handwriting falls between high leftward slant and a 90-degree upright slant.

Just like a highly emotionally withdrawn person, the emotionally withdrawn personality is less expressive and doesn’t like to show his feelings and emotions easily. At times, however, they do express emotions and facial expressions while conversing. They are less emotionally withdrawn than the highly emotionally withdrawn personality.

While making decisions, they too tend to listen to their head more than their heart.

Talking about personality, the emotionally withdrawn person might be introvert by default who may open to a handful of people only.

Just like the highly emotionally withdrawn person, the emotionally withdrawn person is less expressive and dislikes physical touch while conversing.

CHAPTER – 2

THE BALANCED PERSONALITY

The emotionally balanced personality is highlighted by an upright, 90-degree slant of the handwriting. When the letters such as L, d, t, etc. are perpendicular to the imaginary horizontal base line of the handwriting, they are considered as emotionally balanced personality.

A balanced personality takes into consideration both logic as well as the emotional aspect of the situation and then makes a decision. They listen to both heart and head while making a decision which may sometimes leave them in a dilemma. But do not consider this dilemma as confusion or lack of decision making.

When it comes to expressiveness, a balanced personality will tend to show their emotions and feelings selectively. This means that yes they do show their emotions but selectively. They do not share feelings where they feel it won’t be useful.

They are ambiverts by nature and are able to easily mix up with people. They are great people to get along with. People feel very comfortable with them and usually share secrets with them.

CHAPTER - 3:

The emotionally expressive personality

An emotionally expressive personality is the opposite of emotionally withdrawn personality. They tend to express their emotions and feelings to people.

We can further categorize them into two depending upon their degree of expressiveness/ slant – Highly expressive and emotionally expressive.

Let’s look into each of them in-depth separately.

Emotionally expressive

An emotionally expressive personality is the one whose handwriting slants between the 90-degree slant and the highly emotionally expressive slant (hard rightward slant). They are the people who have an expressive face and emotions. In general, the phrase “speaking with their eyes” is the phrase used for emotionally expressive personalities.

Emotionally expressive personalities make use of facial expressions and hand gestures while conversing. They are also people who do not keep how they feel to themselves. They express their happiness or grief or what they are feeling like.

Various industry actors fall into this category as their work depends upon their ability to control the expressions and projecting the needed emotion on camera.

Not only actors, but the emotionally expressive personality is also a natural born salesman. They are good at selling things to other people or otherwise convincing others to do or not to do something.

This is a kind of personality that may like physical touch while conversing. An occasional pat on the back, touching the hand for a second or two while cracking a joke, a half-hug while parting or meeting, all are appreciated by this personality.

The emotionally expressive personality also has a high degree of empathy. It means that they are able to easily relate to what others might be feeling and then suggest appropriate solutions making them more convincing. To explain this in one line, it would not be wrong to say that they are the people who understand where actually the shoe pinches without actually wearing the shoe.

Highly emotionally expressive

A highly emotionally expressive personality is depicted by having a hard rightward slant of the handwriting. The handwriting is extremely towards the right as if the letters are about to trip and fall on the right side of the page.

The highly expressive people generally do not take a second to give their opinion. They are the people whom people call as very straight-forward or speaking without thinking. It is because they feel an urgency to express.

While taking decisions, a highly emotionally expressive person listens only to the heart. As they listen to their heart alone, many times they regret expressing their emotions too hastily in the situation to which they eventually get exploited by others.

In relationships, this type of personality has a very high need for expression of love. They need to hear you say “I love you” as much as you can. It makes their day and tea sweeter, the more you add, the better.

While in a conversation, they will be very touchy and would expect the other person to mirror their touchiness (which rarely happens).

On a darker side, they sometimes have uncontrollable emotions where they tend to be aggressive, sad or happy which seems or actually becomes uncontrollable for others to handle.

In a nutshell

•Human emotionality differs from person to person. The degree to which the person actually expresses the emotion (don’t confuse with feeling the emotion) can be understood through the handwriting’s slant.

•Generally, there are three degrees of emotional expressiveness – emotionally withdrawn, balanced and emotionally expressive.

•An emotionally withdrawn personality would have a handwriting which slants towards the left side of the page and is more than 90-degree angle.

•A balanced personality has a handwriting perpendicular or 90-degree to the imaginary baseline of the handwriting.

•An emotionally expressive person’s handwriting would slant towards the right side of the page and would be lesser than 90-degree angle.

•An expressive personality would use facial expressions and use of gestures while speaking. An emotionally withdrawn personality would not show such signs.

PART – II:

Hell traits to avoid

Now that you have checked your emotional expressiveness as well as you analyzed your partner’s or potential partner’s expressiveness, it is high time to also look for some “don’ts” in the handwriting.

This section will teach you what the traits are and how to find them in handwriting that may soon create your heavenly seeming love story into a burning hell (Trust me on that!). On a simpler note, having these traits would create problems in the long run of a relationship.

In my own experience, I have ignored such traits various times in other people thinking ‘this person is nice’, ‘may be handwriting analysis is wrong here’ but soon I’m proved to be wrong. Make it a rule, never ever ignore these hell traits. If they exist, the hell trait exists. But it is up to you whether you can deal with that trait or not.

So let’s begin acquainting ourselves with the various hell traits found in the handwriting.

CHAPTER – 4

LOW SELF-ESTEEM

Low self-esteem is highlighted by a low t-bar. T-bar is the horizontal line that cuts the vertical t-stem. When this t-bar is below the middle of the t-stem (vertical line), then a person who has low self-esteem.

A person with a low self-esteem acts like an anchor to a ship, it somewhere directly or indirectly stops you from your optimal performance or achievement. It hinders to bring out the best in the partner.

It is also a fact that a person with lower self-esteem seems to remain in a bad situation for a longer period of time. They do not work towards improving their situation. This is because they think that they deserve this bad situation and that is why never actually try to come out of their bad situation. Similarly, persons having low self-esteem remain in an unhealthy relationship for a long time, which leaves them with prolonged bad experience about relationships that somewhere affects the future relations negatively.

One of the needs of the people having lower self-esteem is that they constantly need reassurance. They need to be reassured that they are nice, good and are accepted. They need this reassurance every day. The day they don’t receive such reassurance they tend to be in a bad mood.

On a further note, a person with a low self-esteem may be with you only for reassurance alone. They may not love you but appreciate your reassurance. They feel good with you because you boost their esteem and make them feel that they are accepted. If such is the case, the same person will leave you if you stop reassuring them. They may even leave you and move to another person who might be reassuring them despite the person may not be good to hang out with. This is why people with low self-esteem are not the best people to be with.

CHAPTER – 5

THE CHASER

A chaser is a person who loves to chase, plain and simple. A chaser can easily be identified as their handwriting contains stingers. Stingers are those extra bits of overlapping or crusts (mountain) present on letters a, c or d.

This stinger doesn’t just represent a person being a chaser but a lot more about the person. Firstly, it represents a hidden anger toward the opposite gender. This anger may be because of various reasons from having a bad childhood experience to a bad past relationship. A person having a stinger in his handwriting dislikes the opposite sex. The condition worsens when that person’s boss is actually of the opposite gender. When that happens, they have a hard time following orders and accepting authority.

Similarly, in relationships, people with stingers have a hard time going smoothly with what the other person asks to do or not to do. They are not able to accept other gender’s authority in the relationship too.

People having stingers in their handwriting are chasers – they love to chase. They love to chase because they love what is difficult or challenging. They love being challenged. They love chasing those who are difficult to get. That is why usually people with stingers are attracted towards bad people. For example, a girl with stingers in her handwriting would get attracted towards a guy who is a playboy and who keeps changing his girlfriends.

In a relationship, when the chase is over, the relationship becomes boring for a chaser. The moment a chaser feels that he or she is in control of the relationship they will start losing interest in you. Similarly, if you give your 100% in the relation, it would seem that they are in control of the relationship and again they will lose interest.

Because of the above cases, it is very tough and at times would be foolish to rely on people having stingers in their handwriting. Even if you are a challenge to them, they may move to another if they find a better challenge than you. It is like a never-ending game of chase for them. That is why a person with stingers in his/her handwriting never gets satisfied in a relationship.

If you think about settling with a person who has stingers in his/her handwriting, their mind will soon wander off of you. They will lose interest in the relationship. That is why having stingers in the handwriting accounts for a hell trait to avoid.

CHAPTER - 6:

HELL'S K

Hell’s K is identified in handwriting by finding if the letter “K” is huge or is written as if it is a capital letter though when actually it has to be a lowercase letter. The people with hell’s K love freedom. They love to be like a free bird that can do whatever he wants whenever he wishes.

The presence of hell’s K in the handwriting also signifies that the person doesn’t like rules and regulations which restrict them. They are the person who would like to be treated like a VIP. While in a queue, they would prefer to go through a VIP line rather than wait in line like other people do.

Another aspect of such personality is that they hate being asked questions. They don’t like explaining why they did something or are doing something. Also, they hate being asked questions like “Where were you?”, “Why are you late?”, “With whom were you?” etc., you get the point.

Also, the hell’s K trait defines that the person may evade authority and will have a hard time following instructions and authorities, not only at their workplace but also in relationships. Therefore, it is best to avoid getting into a relationship with someone having hell’s K in his handwriting.

CHAPTER - 7:

Variety lover

A variety lover is identified in handwriting having an enlarged or considerably large y-loop. In some context, a person having a very large y-loop signifies that the person trusts other people blindly. Because a person trusts blindly, he gets disappointed or hurt frequently. As the saying goes “The more people you talk with, the more bullshit you deal with”.

The large y-loop also signifies that the person is a variety lover. They are open to new experiences, adventures and connections. For them, variety is the essence of life. If there is an absence of variety, it is boring for them. The same goes for relationships. It doesn’t mean that they would leave you since you are part of their variety, right?

They will keep wandering off every now and then, making new connections, adding up their variety stockpile. Make sure you are not part of that pile. The variety lovers also get bored with routine and regular relationship, it’s not that they would say it, but they will feel it.

Since you would not want to be one of the various variety a person has and don’t want to end up in their variety stockpile, it’s better to avoid getting into a relationship with the variety lover unless if you are a variety lover too.

CHAPTER - 8:

Self-deceiver:

The dictionary meaning of the word deceit is “the action or practice of deceiving someone by concealing or misrepresenting the truth.” Self-deceit means deceiving no one but oneself. Strange but true, the person with self-deceit tells lies to himself.

Self-deceit in a person can be located by the presence of a leftward loop in lower case letter “o” in the handwriting. It is a smaller version of “The Liar” (discussed later in the book). Having this trait there is one thing for sure that this person is lying to themselves about something.

Whenever I highlight this trait to a person having self-deceit there is one reaction I always get “No that is not me” and the best friend sitting just behind her would be nodding and saying “Yes I know she lies to herself.”

This highlights another aspect of self-deceivers that they are the people who know the least about themselves.

You might be thinking how do people even lie to themselves? Well, let me explain. The self-deceivers do not directly tell a lie to them but would reassure themselves with a false statement because they are too afraid to face the reality.

In one incident I saw a friend’s boyfriend hanging out with another girl in the mall. I immediately called her and told her what I saw. Being a self-deceiver she replied, “No, you might have mistaken him for someone else because he is here with me.”

Later I even met her boyfriend just to be double sure. That’s self-deceiver right in action.

CHAPTER - 9:

Dual personality

Dual personality or split personality is the presence of multiple personalities in one person. In this trait, the personality becomes dissociated into two or more distinct parts each of which becomes dominant and controls behaviour from time to time to the exclusion of the other parts.

In simpler language, there might be two or more personalities in the same person. Dual personality is highlighted by having multiple extremely slanting handwritings in the same handwriting sample.

A dual personality person is highly unpredictable and moody. This is because you never know which of his personality is in control at the moment. Because of their unpredictability, it is very hard to know this person completely. You just can’t be sure how this person would react to a particular situation because of this unpredictability.

Not only unpredictability but dual personality also brings in a lot of mood swings in the person’s personality. A person having dual personality would be on cloud nine in one moment and suddenly would go into feeling blue.

Because of such unpredictability and moodiness, it is hard to cope with such a personality that is why this trait comes into one of the hell traits to avoid.

CHAPTER - 10:

The Perfectionist

Now you might be thinking a perfectionist might be an optimistic person then why have I added a perfectionist into the hell traits to avoid? You will get the answer soon.

A perfectionist is located by having a handwriting that goes perfectly straight in a line, even on an unruled blank paper. A perfectionist is a person who wants to have everything to be at the right place at the right time. A perfectionist would have a “to-do” list ready before the day starts and would have all the slots booked for the day.

It is no wrong to be a perfectionist but this trait proves to be a real problem in relationships when the partner is a more liberal person who just goes with the flow. Secondly, since perfectionists have everything perfectly planned, it is difficult for them to handle surprises. What if an old friend showed up? A perfectionist breaks down during such surprises. Also, they freak out when things do not go the way they have planned.

CHAPTER - 11:

The Egoistic:

The presence of high ego in a person is highlighted by having extra-large capital letters than their normal size should be. An egoistic person is very fragile in general. He can easily be hurt. Egoistic persons have a tough time having healthy relationships because there comes a time where even the egoistic have to become humble, which is next to impossible for them.

For people having a high ego, their ego is much more important than the relationship. Because of this priority, an egoistic person’s partner would end up feeling like a doormat or a pet.

Another aspect of the egoistic person is that in a relationship they always like to dominate their partner and would easily get irritated if their partner doesn’t follow the instructions given to him/her properly, which at some point in time becomes unhealthy in a relation. But an egoistic person would prove to be a good partner for someone who actually wants a dominating partner.

An egoistic person would consider himself as the most important person so your happiness might get lesser priority than his.

CHAPTER - 12:

The Proud

Just like high ego, pride can be identified by having extra-large “L”s and “d”s in the handwriting. When there is the presence of such trait, then the person has a lot of pride, mostly because of their appearance. They consider themselves too beautiful or too smart.

Pride can easily be related to having a high ego where the person himself is more valuable than their partner and so are their priorities. This pride is but mainly due to their beauty. The technical term for this trait is Vanity. Dictionary defines vanity as excessive pride in or admiration of one's own appearance or achievements.

When a person feels that he is more than his partner, then this is the start of creating imbalances in the relationships.

But people having vanity or pride of their appearance can easily be manipulated. How you may ask. Since they are excessively proud of their outward appearance, they would instantaneously start liking anyone who praises them for their appearance or achievements. But the contrary is also true, a person who mocks or ridicules their achievements or appearance becomes an instant enemy for them.

On an even further note, the confidence of a person with vanity can easily dwindle if someone makes a negative remark about their appearance since they are so conscious about how they look. So they are actually a very fragile personality if someone wants to break their confidence.

CHAPTER - 13:

Selective listeners

Selective listeners can be easily identified by locating a loopless or tightly looped small “e”s in the handwriting. When there is no such loop or a very small loop in their “e”, then the person is a selective listener.

Selective listening is when you hear only what you want to hear. You hear some of the message and immediately begin to formulate your reply or second guess the speaker without waiting for the speaker to finish.

I have seen many people having relationship problems because of the presence of this trait. Their partners complain that the person won’t listen or would manipulate the message in such a way that they hear only what they want to hear.

Having selective listening at some point creates miscommunication in a relationship. And it is said that relationships break only when there is a miscommunication or no communication. So in the long run partnering with a selective listener could result in a tough time managing communication between you and the partner.

CHAPTER - 14:

The liar

We have already discussed the self-deceiver in a previous chapter. This is where the deceiving turns towards other people too. The person starts lying and manipulating things. This may be a defensive mechanism of the personality. A person having strict parents or partner are found to have this trait because to evade their strictness the personality might tell half-truths or manipulate the truth so that they avoid getting punished.

The liar or the manipulator can be identified by having a double loop in the small “o”s in the handwriting. While the leftwards loop highlighted self-deceit (Telling false reassuring statements to oneself. See chapter “Self-deceit”). The rightward loop in the small “o” adds this trait of deceiving towards other people too. That is why this person is a manipulator.

In my personal experience, I have seen this trait in all the divorcees’’ handwritings I have ever analyzed, without exception. The reason for divorce may be that the partner was too strict and the person felt like being in a cage or that the person told so many lies that on cross-checking, the partner felt it is better to part away than to be with this person. Whatever the reason may be, but this is one such trait that clearly says “run away from this person”.

If you are dating a person who has this trait, I would not suggest to just break up with them but I would definitely stress on cross-checking what they said. If you find something fishy, then it would be your call.

But it is important to note that if the presence of such double looped “o”s in the handwriting is considerably less than it can be inferred that the person might just tell some white lies here and there every now and then.

CHAPTER - 15:

The Stubborn

Stubbornness can be easily identified by the letters “t” and “d”. If you look at these two letters closely, if they make a tepee or tent like letter then you can conclude that they are stubborn or can’t be easily moved from their decision. It just imitates the body of a person standing with his legs open apart highlighting that he can’t be moved. Same goes with their decision.

It would be very tough to be with a stubborn personality if you don’t know how to handle them in the right way. Stubborn people do not easily change their decisions. Also, because of their stubbornness they seldom listen to other’s opinion about a situation, making them difficult to live with.

Another negative aspect of stubborn people is that they find it very hard to adjust to others. Hence, they are inflexible in various ways. It’s good to be rigid like a tree but it should also be considered that when a storm prevails, the rigid trees get uprooted while the timid flexible grass survives the storm.

It’s okay if you are with a stubborn person, the only thing you should know is how to handle them. For the starter, a stubborn person never likes to be called a “stubborn”. Avoid that. Secondly, they never like to be called that they are wrong, even if they know that they are. Thirdly, to make them accept an idea or opinion, you have to convince them that it was actually their suggestion or idea, to which they, later on, can’t be against.

Out of the various negatives about stubborn people, their stubbornness has a positive side too. Once stubborn people have decided something, they stick to it, which means that they do take a stand – and a serious one.

Chapter - 16:

The Aggressive

Aggression is easily identified in the handwriting when you find the t-bar being predominantly on the right side of the t-stem. Do not confuse aggression with sarcasm, though. Aggression is short-tempered while sarcasm is hurting or taunting someone through words.

Though aggression is deemed as a negative aspect of personality, it should be noted that these negative aspects elevate in the personality because of some negative experiences because of which the personality comes up with these defence mechanisms.

Aggression, when coupled with an expressive or highly expressive personality, becomes dangerous. This is because this kind of personality can’t hold back his anger and would instantaneously express aggression (which could sometimes be damaging or embarrassing). It could be said that if a person is highly expressive and is aggressive as well, then you are living with a live bomb that can go off any minute. ALERT! Call the bomb squad.

Chapter - 17:

Lives in the present

A person living in the present is recognized when their handwriting has no distinct difference between the height of the tall letters like ‘t, d’ from small letters like ‘a, o, c’. In other words, when the height of the “t” is just equal to the letter “a” then the person tends to live in the present.

There is a very famous quote which goes like “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that is why it is known as PRESENT”. This is the philosophy with which the person living in the present live by. They are the person who doesn’t give much energy to their past or future but believes in making the present the best and most enjoyable.

Another amazing thing about this personality is that they are the people who have the best parties in the world. They are the one who make the most out of such joyful occasions and eventually attract a lot of attention and people towards them because of their carefree attitude. They are the ones who know how to party.

But on the negative side, the people who live in the present don’t think about the future. They do not consider the consequences of their actions because of which they may face a lot of negative situations and consequences in the future.

For instance, if given a choice between taking an exam and going out to movies with friends. The lives in the present personality would always choose the latter, because that is where they will be able to enjoy the present rather than while taking an exam.

To understand even better, it can be deduced that a person living in the present lives on the ‘pleasure principle’. They seek enjoyment and pleasure and they would inevitably and undoubtedly take those decisions that would lead to more enjoyment and pleasure.

They are highly moved and motivated from their libido – the factor that brings about the most pleasure or enjoyment and entertainment in life.

In a nutshell

Check for the presence of any of the hell traits in your or your partner’s handwriting.

The following is a list of hell traits:

•Low self-esteem

–
Low t-bar

•The chaser

–
Stinger in small letters like “c, d, a”

•Hell's K

–
Capital “K” in words

•Variety lover

–
Large y or g loop

•Self-deceiver

–
Leftward loop in letter “o.”

•Dual personality

–
Presence of extreme slanting handwriting together

•The perfectionist

–
Handwriting written perfectly straight

•The egoistic

–
Very large capital letters

•The proud

–
Very tall “l or d.”

•Selective listener

–
Loopless “e.”

•The liar

–
Double looped “o.”

•The stubborn

–
Tepee like “t or d.”

•The Aggressive

–
Predominantly rightward t-bar

•Lives in the present

–
Tall letters like “t, d” equal to the height of small letters “a, c.”

Part - III:

Self-assessment

It is important to understand that no relationship goes with one person alone putting in all the efforts – it always is and has to be a two-way effort. If you found (which you will) any of the hell traits in your partner’s handwriting, it would be highly possible that you will find a hell trait in your handwriting too (after all self-assessment is the best assessment).

So go through your own handwriting and locate the hell traits if there exist any. Since this is a crucial step, try not overlooking this step. After all, self-assessment itself means finding the weaknesses of oneself and then planning to improve oneself. So self-assessment in itself is an act of improving oneself and knowing oneself in a better way.

When you look at your handwriting and see a hell trait, don’t just conclude that you have that negative trait in your personality. Instead, try to locate why that negative trait might have emerged in your personality and then try to eliminate that cause because after all every negative trait is a defence mechanism that the personality has brought up to fight a cause or threat. Eliminating that threat would automatically lead to the release of that negative trait (though exceptions always exist).

CHAPTER - 18:

Improving self-esteem

As already mentioned in the previous section of this e-book, low self-esteem can be easily found in the handwriting. You just have to locate the letter “t” and see where exactly the t-bar intersects the t-stem. An intersection at or below the half of the t-stem is a low self-esteem and needs improvement.

If you have low self-esteem, you need to understand that your partner might not be improving with you and might be even just dealing with you rather than being with you (unless he/she also has low self-esteem).

Low self-esteem is one of the commonalities I see in various handwritings I analyze. To improve self-esteem, you need to firstly raise that T-bar. Simple enough? Not so, you will have to actually put in mental efforts while writing that you need to cut the letter “t” high and not low.

Also, various self-esteem improvement techniques can be used to improve the self-esteem. Some of the techniques are mentioned here. (Though you can always use your own set of techniques as all we want is improvement in the self-esteem)

Technique #1: Self-talk

Self-talk, as the name itself suggests, is talking to oneself. Do you know that whenever you are not talking, you are actually talking to yourself? Yes, you do… you might have not noticed it till now.

Create a set of statements that you can talk to yourself every now and then or you can actually create a routine of saying them to yourself every morning after waking up and every night before going to bed.

Some of the statements that you can use are below:

“Thank you, God, for giving me such a beautiful life…”

“Thank you, God that I have the capability to work and earn my own bread…”

“Thank you, God, for giving me the ability to take control of my life…”

One of the statements that I always say to myself is this:

“I am the best. Manhar you are the best.”

Yes, just that little statement said over and over embeds into your subconscious mind and makes sure that your command is carried out, in other words, that you become the best. Try it for yourself, go and stand in front of the mirror. Now, look directly into your eyes and talk to yourself. Say “I am the best” (Initially it would be tough or would seem weird doing this). Keep saying, keep repeating “I am the best. Yes, I am the best. (Your name) is the best. I can achieve anything. I have high dreams and I can achieve them. I have a great partner. My partner loves me the most. I am so lucky to have (partner’s name). Thank you, God, for everything. I am the best. I am the best.”

Technique #2: Dress for improvement

Another effective technique to improve self-esteem is dressing for improvement. It has been found that dressing in good (and expensive) attire instantaneously boosts one’s self-esteem. Wearing good clothes or having an expensive watch skyrockets the self-esteem to a whole new level.

Even the contrary also prevails, buying medium or low-quality clothes degrades self-esteem. Thus, avoiding cheap shopping can also help you boost your self-esteem to a new level and, therefore, improving the personality and life as a whole.

Technique #3: Check your company

Another effective technique to increase the self-esteem is to associate with people who already have a high self-esteem. You see you are the product of the company you keep. If you check your company and assess with what type of people you spend the most of your time, eventually you’ll become how they are. The famous lines “Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are” also highlight the same point.

As a fact, it is said that your self-esteem is an average of the self-esteem of the five people you hang out the most with. This would be the high time to check who these people are and what are their self-esteem level.

Hanging out with high self-esteem people not only boosts your self-esteem but also brings about a lot of other improvements in the package. The package may include ideas, contacts and references or assistance in any form. So checking and associating with high self-esteem people automatically brings about improvements in your self-esteem levels.

Technique #4: Meditation

Meditation too brings about improvement in the self-esteem of people. This is because meditation helps get rid of specs of anger, hatred, and negative thoughts. By doing so, the personality gets polished and brings about an overall improvement and boost in self-esteem.

Technique #5: Reading

A famous quote goes “You will be the same five years from now as you are today unless you meet new people, read new books and have new experiences”. Reading, experience and people bring about various changes in our lives – some good and some bad.

Reading boosts one's self-esteem. More than mere reading, reading self-help books and positive thoughts enticing articles affects the self-esteem drastically. Some of the books which would help you boost your self-esteem are:

1.The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

2.Skill with People by Les Giblin

3.The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy

4.You Can Win by Shiv Khera

5.Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki

6.The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

7.Body Language by Allan Pease

8.The Guideline of Life by Manhardeep Singh

9.Questions Are the Answers by Allan Pease

10.Wisdom of Ages by Jim Stovall

11.The Journey of the Unknown Path by Manhardeep Singh

12.The Leader Who Had No Title by Robin Sharma

13.7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

14.The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

15.The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma

Chapter – 19:

Some myths to debunk

The following are some of the myths that need to be debunked.

Myth #1: Opposites attract

Opposites attract… but only in magnets. In relationships, opposites do not attract but repel. This is one of the myths that differences may ultimately lead to healthy relationships but think about the situation practically. If you like to watch cricket but your partner likes to watch a daily soap, you both will eventually end up either one of you compromising or both watching television separately.

On the other hand, having been same you both would enjoy watching cricket match together. This is just a small example of how situations would change if you have a same personality partner rather than an opposite one.

Myth #2: Different personalities would complement each other

Another myth that prevails about relationships is that different personalities can complement and complete each other. But this is not true. Different personalities repel each other.

For instance, a person who has a very large handwriting can’t work out a relation with an individual who has a small tiny writing. This is because you would like to be in the limelight everywhere while the other person would love to just go and sit in the corner and observe everyone.

So different personalities never complement each other.

Myth #3: I don’t have to express; he knows I love him

Now this is a tricky myth. Of course, we know that our partners love us but still it feels good to hear them express their love for us.

Two people having different emotional expressiveness can have a problem. A non-expressive personality would assume that I don’t have to express my love because of course my partner knows that I love him. On the other hand, if the partner has an expressive personality then he would need to have an expression of love. He needs to hear from her partner “I love you”.

In a nutshell

Every relationship is successful when both the partners put in efforts. Analyze your handwriting for the presence of hell traits and then identifying the cause of those traits and getting rid of the cause.

Adopt and work towards improving the self-esteem of both your as well as your partner. This will be an enriching experience for both of you.

Also, understand various myths about relationships. Two opposite personalities have a hard time coping up with each other. Understand your partner’s emotional expressiveness. Adjust yours accordingly.

An emotionally expressive partner would need to get the expression of love from you and would also like cuddling every now and then. While, an emotionally withdrawn personality would be completely opposite.

Wrap up

Here is an overview of how you can find your perfect love using the science of handwriting analysis.

Step #1: Analyze your own handwriting. Identify your emotional slant.

Step #2: Check the emotional slant of your partner. Generally, individuals having same emotional slant enjoy a better relationship than those who have opposite emotional slants.

Step #3: Look for the various hell traits if they exist in the handwriting. The section two of this ebook enumerates various hell traits that create a problem in relationships. It is evident that some of the hell traits may appear. The big question would be then – will you be able to handle the person despite the hell trait available in his/her personality.

Step #4: Identifying your own hell traits. Knowing yourself is a step towards improving relationships. Also, work towards improving the self-esteem using various techniques depicted in the book or you may adopt any other techniques you may get your hands-on.

Conclusion

Thank you for downloading this book!

I hope this book was able to help you in finding the perfect love using the science of handwriting analysis.

The next step is to simply implement the techniques provided in the book.

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