this is covert and quite often the person upon whom it is exerted remains unsuspecting beyond the fact that he knows he is very unhappy. This is the coward's method of domination. The person using it feels that he is less than the individual upon whom he is using it and has not the honesty or fortitude to admit the fact to himself. He then begins to pull the other individual "down to size," using small carping criticisms. The one who is seeking to dominate strikes heavily at the point of pride and capability of his target and yet, if at any moment the target challenges the nullifier, the person using the mechanism claims he is doing so solely out of assistance and friendship or disavows completely that it has been done. (SA, p. 167)